Can't help feeling angry...AIBU?

[Binkyboo16]

So after nearly 10 weeks of no AF and confusing tests (BFP then BFN then BFP again!) I was sent for an early/dating scan. Got in, she starts scanning then tells me it's probably too early to see anything and just thinks I skipped ovulation in April. I get sent to a waiting room for ages until another midwife comes back and tells me a urine test came back negative. She hands me a leaflet on mc and very bluntly tells me to go home as I'm having an early mc and it's not the end of the world, I can try again next month and I already have one child so I should just focus on her. AIBU to feel angry at the very blunt way I was treated? She also had my details in front of her and could see that, my daughter was a twin whose sister was stillborn. I just felt like I was being judged for wanting another baby 8 months after my daughters were born

I'm so sorry for the really long post but I just wanted people's opinions and to get it off my chest xx

Hi Binky. I'm sorry to read what you have gone through and for the loss of your daughter.

Sounds like you have been treated really badly. Did they tell you what they saw on the scan? A sac or anything? I've always found the nurses who have dealt with me and my pregnancy losses have been lovely and kind. Sorry you have experienced that today.

Thank you for your message

No I was just told they couldn't see anything but I was hardly scanned for more than a minute, was the quickest thing ever, I feel like as I've only had more positives within the last week they were just determined to do a urine test more than anything. I'm just glad you've been treated well in such a devastating situation

Good god binky I would be v upset/angry by that, what awful treatment. I am so sorry for your loss today and got the loss of your daughter, no parent should have to go through that. So sorry that you had that experience today. I would definitely complain as it may be the midwife/sonographer didn't realise she was being blunt or cold and could benefit from having the self awareness.

Thank you for your reply mother, all replies mean a lot to me! It's been an awful experience but I'm finally getting my head round everything and just looking to the future and giving it a rest for now, it's been such an overwhelming year both in joy and sadness so I think for now we're going to stop trying, possibly go on holiday and see what the end of the year brings
As for the midwife I can't even remember her name and think I would just get passed by if I tried to complain, perhaps she was just having a bad day, I just hope it never happens to anyone else xx

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Not unreasonable at all to feel upset and angry.

How did things work out, binkyboo?

That's terrible and you have every right to feel angry - so sorry to hear this

Hey folks!
I'm sorry it's taken so long to reply, I've had to take some time to get my head round things and my mother ended up ill too, so another awful end to an awful couple of weeks!
I definitely miscarried a couple of days after originally writing this post, so me and my partner have decided to give ourselves a couple of months to get over this and enjoy our summer. Once my daughter is up and mobile properly we'll try again when I'm not constantly having to carry her, so hopefully that will take some of the physical strain off
I hope you're all well and again, thank you all for the love and support, you've all been wonderful in my time of need xx