Cautious in early pregnancy after IVF

[mrsroboto]

NC but have recently had fertility treatment after TTC for a fairly long time, and the last cycle was - hallelujah! - successful. I am so thankful to be in this situation but ironically am finding these first few weeks very difficult and am even trying to put it to the back of my mind in case it all goes wrong - almost like the 2ww.

I think I'm about 5 weeks (trying to calculate myself from transfer date etc - clinic not yet confirmed dates) and won't have an early scan for another two weeks.
I have one DC and early in this pregnancy I had all the same symptoms as that one - but these seem to have stopped a little bit.

I tested a second time a few days ago, all fine. Do people tend to keep testing every so often? Would this pick up anything? Every time I go to the loo I'm scared of seeing blood. I am hyper-aware of everything that can go wrong and just keep expecting to have to go back to square one all over again.

Again I know I'm really lucky to be in this situation as have had a rollercoaster of a year so I hope I'm not posting insensitively.

If it's been 5 weeks since transfer, then you're actually 7.5-8 weeks pregnant. Normally, you'd go in to the clinic to see if there is heartbeat and confirm clinical pregnancy. Do es your clinic not do that? Not an expert but thought that all clinics did that if only to keep track of the statistics which are required by the HFEA.

I haven't been through IVF but I did test daily during a pregnancy which sadly ended in a miscarriage. It was heart breaking watching that line get darker.

The best advice I can give is to stop testing and let nature do its thing. When I fell pregnant again I did one test and then binned the rest. I couldn't bare to predict another miscarriage, so I took the temptation away. I know this is hard because those 2 lines can be the reassurance you need.

Try and relax, be positive and enjoy being pregnant. Try and look forward to seeing your flickering bean in a couple of weeks. Good luck!

*watching the line get lighter, not darker

I get this. I had an ivf baby and I was well and truly shitting myself for the first 12 weeks.

However- step away from the tests! Testing won't tell you definitely if things are going in the right direction or not and might even cause panic when there's no need. I did a random test at about 6 weeks I think and it was lighter so I spent ages after convinced it was all going wrong, when in fact, id probably just pe ed at a time of day when my urine was weaker.

There's nothing you can do either way- so I d try to hope for the best but not obsess if you possibly can (easy said I know). The 7 week scan should hopefully reassure you.

jojo no not 5 weeks since transfer, only about 2.5 weeks! So I calculate about 5 weeks in 'normal' terms.

thanks for posting everyone, just going to carry on as normal... (!)

Oh sorry, makes sense. I'm keeping everything crossed for you. Good luck!

about 6 weeks now, have had awful nausea and tiredness but not so bad today, and of course I'm worrying it's a bad sign... Scan is on Monday and I'm planning to go to work straight after but no idea what I'll do if it's bad news.