No sex/no baby

[FuckMyUterus]

Hi all,
Was gonna post this in Relationships but this answer to everything is LTB so thought I'd post here.
Me and my OH have been together a decent amount of time and we've always had quite a hectic sex life. We've been trying for a baby for 9ver a year now and suffered a MC in January and a CP in March. Everything was fine up until the beginning of this month, and all of a sudden we just don't have sex anymore . We have only had sex 8 times this month, which I understand is normal or loads for some couples, but not us! It's making me feel low and unattractive and most nights I cry myself to sleep. I have discussed it with him and he just changes the subject or says he's tired. Really don't know what to do, he says he wants a baby but we only had sex once during my FW this month, so I'm pretty much out. Sorry it's rambley but I'm so upset and emotional over this!

Thanks emvy I'm so pleased that it was something fixable. I'm a little annoyed that he didn't trust me enough to tell me what had happened but that's all water under the bridge now!

Yeah, maybe that's something to discuss with him at some point

I'd be discussing it with him now! No way would I be having a child with someone who could loose their job and not tell me. That's a huge huge lie to tell someone.

@FuckMyUterus phew! Glad all is sorted now! It's not a bad thing he decided to fix things all by himself and not putting his problems on you, however it is better to be open in a relationship. Good luck with your ttc!

I'm surprised you consider that sorted... Non-disclosure of such information would be a massive red flag for me. Also, you seemed to think it was all 'me, me, me' and didn't seem like a particularly supportive partner to him...

Agree with pottering...

You feel better?
It's water under the bridge?
WTF? To lie to you about something so massive. Even a lie of omission. That's huge. Seriously I wouldn't be TTC right now.

Well thanks for all the replies... That's fine that you all wouldn't accept that in your relationships, however I know my partner inside out, I know the reasons he kept it from me, I have severe anxiety when it comes to money/bills being paid etc and although he has had a bollocking for not telling me, what do you suggest i do? Leave a relationship that (the last month aside) is damn near perfect? He's never abusive, controlling, he's funny, kind, makes me laugh and I love him.

@FuckMyUterus don't not take advice from strangers who don't know you, your situation and your relationships. Good luck with ttc, hope now when the truth is revealed your sex life will get back to normal!

Geez 8 times a month is a lot! Have you thought perhaps to take it easy a couple months? Maybe he needs a break from trying. Also, I think if you get the right day you have more chance of getting pregnant then blindly doing it frequently. Both times I got pregnant, it was one try once that month. But I also know when I'm fertile as I have a regular cycle.