Alcohol before ovulation

[DazzleGem]

Hi everyone,

I'm into my 3rd month of TTC.
My fiance and I have a mini holiday weekend away planned this Friday and Saturday with friends.

I'm currently using Clearblue Ovulation sticks and still haven't ovulated yet. If I based it on last month I shouldn't ovulate until a week today.

My question is if we are drinking this Friday and Saturday is that ok? We weren't planning on DTD until Sunday through for the next few days after that.

I have pretty bad OCD and worry about alot of things so I'm worrying myself that could damage the egg somehow!

I just wondered what everyones opinions on here was.

Dg x

Honestly it will be fine, enjoy your weekend

You will be fine. Have fun

So am I ok until I get my solid smiley?

I worry like crazy about things like this incase something happens :(

You're fine until you get your positive pregnancy test :)

I was drinking while ttc. I'm sure it'll be fine. (Shock, I had a few drinks during my pregnancy as well, my baby was perfectly fine)

I wouldn't get completely plastered but a glass or two wouldn't hurt. You're not pregnant!
Are you seeking treatment for the OCD and anxiety? Pregnancy and having a new baby can be exceedingly anxious times.

It would probably help you relax!

I am currently having treatment for my OCD, it's a stressful time with that on top of TTC. :(

I know when I get my solid smiley and we DTD I wouldn't drink, but I'm predicting this weekend will still show negative tests.

I'm not worried about alcohol damaging the baby because obviously I'm not pregnant yet, more about alcohol affecting the egg quality and our chances...I feel like I'm over worrying but I just know I would blame myself :(

Arghhh so wonder my fiance is stressed at me!

I can say with absolute confidence, it won't matter. Relax, enjoy it!

I'm glad you are having treatment. I have anxiety and pregnancy and babyhood are tough times.
Surely the egg is only released at ovulation and not created?!

This is where I got confused. I don't think it helps that my anxiety makes me panic but I worry if something did happen I would blame myself!

I worry that drinking before can also potentially cause problems hence why I'm really worrying about the weekend and what is ok to do/not do?

The worrying is more harmful than drinking at this point.
It took me a long time to conceive my two kids and my best advice is to just live your life and only change things if/when you are confirmed pregnant.
Forget doing anything special in your two week window or when TTC generally. It won't make any difference.

I do want to enjoy myself but I just worry that I'll worry too much for the next 2 and a half weeks :(

I just wish I knew medically if it was safe if we don't DTD until we get home from holiday :(

Medically? How do you mean?

Like could it cause a miscarriage or harm?

I don't understand. Do you mean whether drinking before conception could cause miscarriage or harm?

If you are this anxious I really think maybe you should considering delaying trying for a baby. Trust me that the worry doesn't stop once you get a positive test.
If you're worried then don't drink. Drinking before you're pregnant really can't affect the child you're not even expecting yet.

Your eggs were made when you were in your mother's womb. My understanding (and very open to corrections!) is that there's therefore nothing much you can do or not do around ovulation to ensure the 'quality' of the egg.
(Something else to keep in mind, that's why the vast majority of early miscarriges are down to chromosone abnormalities you can do absolutely nothing about)

But I echo the advice about addressing the anxiety before/alongside TTC - pregnancy and motherhood are full of worries at the best of times!

What about if you don't get pregnant this month OP? You would have wasted a good weekend enjoying yourself.
I would not change/stop a few drinks here and there unless you get that positive pregnancy test. I also second getting some help or putting a hold on TTC whilst you sort out the anxiety as that can also have major impacts on yourself when pregnant.

It is medically impossible for the alcohol to get to the egg as the egg is not connected to your bloodstream.

Maybe I've been googling too much and have managed to panic myself :(!

You know what its like when you start googling and you always read the worst!

Thanks for the advice, I think I'll just worry myself so maybe I'll try and stick to soda water and non alcoholic beer and maybe one red wine each evening...I feel like I'm ruining our little holiday but I just feel too anxious!

I think you need additional support for your anxiety.

I do too. We are getting married next July so wanted to try before then...obviously dont have many months so maybe that's why I'm stressing more!

This July coming? I would just focus on your wedding prep, enjoy the wedding and all the lovely champagne and then think about trying later this year

July next year sorry I should have said :)

X