Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Part 9

[HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips]

Through the ups and downs of this amazing journey - we are all here together. I'm grateful for you all ❤️❤️

Sorry grumpy. It really sucks. But it's important to look after yourself. Your body needs time to recover. And your mind too, though that part is definitely taking significantly longer for me. Stay in bed as long as you need. ❤️

Lots of love Grumpy your body is healing, you will get there xxx

Not told him yet as he'd already left when I tested and didn't want to tell him via text! We normally pass very quickly at 5pm on a Wednesday as I go out to teach until 7.30 so I guess I'll tell him when I get home properly tonight x

Congratulations seven - that's a much stronger line than by first on an IC!

Omg seven I knew it!!!!!

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grumpy hope you've managed some lunch. Stay in bed as long as you need. Have you got a good box set to watch? I've just started reading the Big Little Lies book, it's very good.

Sorry confused and mrs your DHs are nobs at the moment, I think it comes in waves for me too, sometimes I really dislike him! Haha I suppose that's what love and marriage is all about? But hope it gets better for you soon ❤️

tigger sorry you didn't sleep well. We've got into a terrible habit of DP or me sleeping in the spare room in one of us starts to stir. Bad couple/loving wise but we are both sleeping much better!

hb we come back tomorrow 😩 so 5 days total. It's been so lovely thank you and there's been lots of bubbas by the pool and all I can think about is DP playing with Keith whilst I sit and drink pina coladas all day 🍹💃🏽☀️ hopefully next year 🤞🏽

mummy how was the spa? Did you tell anyone? Hope you're enjoying it despite the kids and parents!

jupiter hope you're having a lovely time too! ❤️

Ahh seven congratulations! Such lovely news! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

I bought 15 cheapie tests and then a stack of frer to take back to Dubai with me. Found out my best friend is trying too so hoping we both have little bumps when I see her again at Christmas.

We're at the inlaws now. DH told me this morning that he saw that my mum has told people about our MC after I specifically asked her not to! He saw her phone. I am really annoyed with her for being such a gossip.

Omg seven this has made my day!! I was sure it was gonna be this month for you, I was in shock when u said yesterday about BFN!!!!! No denying that one!! Ahhh yay, congratulations girl xxxxxx

Thanks girls, I still can't believe it. I properly thought I was infertile and it was never going to happen.

Tigger I'm so sorry I totally missed your post this morning in my Frenzy! I'm sorry you didn't sleep well. When will you get the results from your exam?

Sounds like heaven buzz just a nice amount of time.

My husband also has his moments! 🙄

Just had a pregnancy test fail and bought two rapid responses instead of frer 😢 they're not very sensitive so I took a clear blue I had lurking in the back of the draw and there's no denying it!

Also I am quite underwhelmed by Ovia. After all that hype over the months.. She's like "well done" I was expecting my phone to explode!

Thanks girls for all the support re my stupid husband! Basically he doesn't drink very often as in never, but it so happens that when he does he doesn't know when enough is enough and doesn't come home for hours and dissappears off the radar, I have no concerns re cheating or anything, he's just in the pub but he can't help himself and its the one thing that causes utter rage within me, it really bothers me and he knows it! Anyway he dissappeared Sunday night, was too drunk to drive to work Monday but did anyway and put everything at risk, his job requires driving too and luckily he didn't have to drive and some of the lads covered for him that day but talk about utter stupidity! Anyway he knows it's stupid and apologises profusely everytime and promises that it'll never happen again and inevitably it does! Anyway I was mad beyond words, we talked last night so trying to move on even though is still want to slap him silly for being so ridiculous!
grumpy sorry you're feeling so frustrated, I know it's hard to just sit around, especially for you, I spend my life sitting around but don't think of it as wasting time, it's healing time and that's important xx

parsnips so sorry your mum has been gossiping, I'm sure you're very fed up of all that by now, it's really not fair!
Ah confused Friday is gonna fly in, how exciting! And yes.... MEN! Why do we bother!!!
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Aw seven so exciting to see!!! And yeah ovia is a knob, I told tell her anything anymore, I just use her to see what size it is (a house mouse this week which I'm not thrilled with but DS thinks is great and will tell anyone who'll listen)

parsnips I'm so sorry about your mum! I feel bad cause we said it might make things easier but actually is ten times worse!

mrs oh gosh my DP does this too it's the most frustrating thing ever! It's like as soon as he has a sip of a drink he completely loses the ability to text and tell me he's going to be late!! I think it's because his ex HATED him going out so he couldn't tell her where he'd been. But I could not give a shit, in fact encourage him to go and have a good time getting to watch what I want on telly, but just want to know if I can make dinner or not?! Grr!!! The driving thing is so frustrating though, hopefully he's learnt his lesson. Good that you've had a chat about it.

Hey guys I just spent another afternoon at the hospital as I was feeling so awful. Good news is that I've now passed all of the pregnancy tissue (I think that was what was making me feel so shaky) and the actual miscarriage is complete so should start feeling better now I hope. Will catch up on the rest of your updates in a bit. My mum is at my place looking after DD, cleaning and cooking (and took my Net a Porter deliveries, I luffs her).

Oh grumpy that's just pants at least you can breathe a sigh of relief that that part of the journey is done as horrible as it is. Hope you're ok.

Sorry it's been another shit day grumpy. Glad your mum is there to help with things. Hopefully you will be able to rest and start the recovery process now, without feeling so awful. Lots of virtual hugs for you.

I've today been experiencing what I can only describe as ovary ache. A new experience since the mc, and not particularly pleasant. I should be happy that my ovaries are doing something I'm sure, but been having a crap time recently. Very stressed, more migraines than in ages. Still waiting for my referral to come through for the counsellor. Hopefully things will get better soon.

Thank you tigger and dancing. Sorry you are feeling crappy dancing. Hope you get to talk to someone soon

I'm worried about the emotional fallout as this morning when i felt ok physically I was so utterly depressed by it all (while I've been suffering physically I haven't been able to feel emotions really). Anyway.. don't have to deal with it all at once. I find that helps in a grieving process - allow yourself a bit of time each day or week to think about it and let it hurt a bit. Then do something else. Slowly it becomes less painful.

MrsC and buzz you are not the only ones with an AWOL DH when he's out out! Mine is useless at communicating and it gets worse when he's on a night out - as in I'll say just text me if you are going to be later than 10-11pm (on a weeknight I might add! Neither of us go out at weekends) so I can go to sleep - but he never remembers to text. Basically I've now given up and accepted that if he is out there is no way of knowing when he will be back, which actually is fine, I just go to sleep. The only thing I don't tolerate is no notice. He has to tell me in advance that he will be going out - even if it's just a phone call from the office, but preferably in my outlook diary as soon as it is arranged. This works well for us now, I slightly resent the double standards though (the ONE TIME I went out and DIDN'T CHECK MY PHONE the idiot locked himself out....)

MrsC a house mouse is SO CUTE

Seven congratulations again lovely x

Oh and my Stella McCartney work trousers are just beautiful, I bought two pairs, black and navy. They are tailored wool, slim fit, tapered at the ankle with very subtle zips. They fit amazingly. The OUTNET order wasn't as successful, it's all going back except one pair of heels (and therefore I feel less guilty so win-win really).

Oh no Dancing I'm sure the migraines are to do with pesky hormones! Have you Migralieve? Special ones are so good!

Sorry it was another shit day Grumpy... at least it's all passed and now you can focus on looking after yourself/recovering ❤

Buzz and Mrs DH does the same... infact it was only 2 weekends ago i was trying to leave the pub at 11 and he wouldn't go (he's a shit after a drink) and so i told him he better come home at a decent time as i can't sleep till he gets in so he told me if i'm gonna be like that he wouldn't come home for 2 days!!... of course I naturally told him to not bother coming home at all if he was going to be like that. I fully admit i find it hard dealing with him when he is like that... but he is good most of the rest of the time lol

Your trousers sound divine Grumpy !! Cant beat a well cut pair!! Sorry you've had another shit day, lovely that your Mum has been on the scene tho & that physically it should be over

YES to another good line seven!! You're so not infertile! Your long/unpredictable cycles probably made it hard to pin down the magic time and of course the lube helped let us know how the DH reveal goes!

Naughty DHs... hope they get whipped into shape soon!

Hope you get your referral soon dancing sounds like it will be really good for you to talk it out

Aw, enjoy your last eve buzz, to be fair, it feels like youve been away for weeks! Or this week could just be going painfully slow 😳

What a miserable day it's been... had to dash home this afternoon to pick up a raincoat and emergency re-straighten my hair!!!

Think the migraines are caused by the stress confused. Need to get back to the drs to get more medicine, as I've run out of my usual stuff. Not had many at all for the past 6 months or so.

Seven your line is mega clear, absolutely no doubt there at all. Hope you are home and telling dh soon!!

Sorry about all the awol husbands! I'm pretty lucky that mine does usually send the odd text so I know he's ok. Think he knows I freak out completely when I don't know that he's alright, as I tend to assume the worst! Rant on here anytime mrsc! Must be so frustrating and scary with the driving issue, as you need him to be safe!

Thanks for not telling me to stop moaning guys! I'm trying!!!

Aw you're not moaning nearly enough considering the circumstances!! Talking moaning is the best therapy & why we are here!

Thanks girls! Reassuring I'm not the only one with a rogue OH! I honestly don't mind him being out or coming home late it's the sheer volume he drinks, he loses all self control and brain activity and the fact he can't say no and go home and yes the driving thing terrifies me, it does anyway, car accidents are my biggest fear, and yes.... Texts.... Not a chance, glad to hear I'm not alone on that one, anyway he arrived home with a voucher for a mummy to be spa experience in a very very extra nice fancy spa so going try go Friday morning.... So he is worming his way back into the good books!
dancing really feel for you love very, tension and stress headaches are awful and don't help with the tension and stress, I hope you get to talk to someone soon lovely xx
grumpy trousers sound divine! I'm so glad your mum was there to help too, so sorry it's been so awful, you deserve a break, I hope that's the worse it'll be x
hb it's so this week, DH thought it was Friday earlier!
Can't believe I'm finished work, seems so surreal! Just blocking out the new job, don't feel a bit prepared!

grumpy glad it's all passed now and that bit is over. Do allow yourself time and look after yourself. Retail therapy definitely works and I'm glad you got some nice clothes and shoes.

tigger hope you have a better nights sleep tonight.

dancing hope you get your referral soon. Sorry to hear about the migraines, not something you need right now. There's no such thing as too much moaning!

parsnips well done on stocking up. Sorry your mum is being such a gossip.

Still negative opk here and no symptoms. Trying so hard to be patient. Can't decide if we should dtd ED or EOD as it's CD 14 now and I'm hoping for ovulation soon. What did the humped ladies do?

I did ED for FW otters bar one day, the second day I think. Good luck this cycle xx