Getting Ready For Baby Challenge - Part 9

[HopefullyDothButterNoParsnips]

Through the ups and downs of this amazing journey - we are all here together. I'm grateful for you all ❤️❤️

Ladies, please may I join you? I realise this is a very long running thread. I found it by accident and was amazed at how supportive you all sound, which is just what I need right now. I have already 'met' Grumpy on another thread, unfortunately to do with mc. I am ttc#1 after mc at 12 weeks. Humping currently on hold as mc has only just happened.

Hi springer. I'm so sorry for your mc. The ladies on here definitely helped me through everything, and are a really wonderful group. Be kind to yourself, it's a really shit thing to happen. So desperately hope we all get bfps soon after and healthy sticky beans next time around. ❤️

@Springersprung @TheGrumpySquirrel So so sorry to hear about your MCs. Hope that time is helping you both heal. I've been following this thread recently (after I heard about tours in another thread, Grumpy). You ladies are amazing and so supportive and I wish I had known about you when I went through my MMC in December. Just wanted to say a massive thank you for being the support network that you are for so many! 😘

Hi Springer and welcome to the thread! It’s the most wonderful and supportive place I’ve ever found on the internet :) And bikerchick they are such kind words. Thank you and welcome to you too. Im so sorry you’ve both had such a difficult time. We're here if you want to talk x

Ohh grumpy, I love the babygro idea! I would just have “Static Smiley :)” on mine given my obsession with CB OPKs (which nearly bankrupted me) Lets do it! confused your idea is genius haha.

Seven I totally second what MrsC said and really glad it has helped. At the end of the day who knows what could happen at any point so I suppose we need to embrace the happiness before then. Right now we’re pregnant and that’s just wonderful.

otters fingers crossed for this cycle but also good to have a back up plan. I really hope the appointment goes well - I hope the NHS come through for you too. How exciting. Always feels nice to be proactive doesn’t it.

Para so sorry that AF is being a nightmare and for once in her life staying away. I suppose your body is just taking the time she needs to heal. Thinking of you, trying to put it to the back of your mind must be impossible.

parnsips the words in the cathedral made me cry. How beautiful. Thinking of you xx

Dancing i bet you can’t wait to the cathedral trip. I imagine singing somewhere like that must be overwhelming (in a good way) and so emotional. Hope you have some nice chilled out plans this weekend.

Haha mummy hope you find something suitably pirate for DS!

Wilde how beautiful, so glad you’re having a lovely time. What did your mum say when she saw the t-shirt. You’ve got such a lovely week ahead of you with wedding plans and the scan.

Welcome silver and biker so sorry for your losses but welcome to our lovely thread!

Well I'm setting up for my BBQ so far the suns shining... we're expecting around 30 people I think so fingers crossed it stays shiny!!

Have a wonderful Saturday and I'll try and catch up on the 100's of updates later

@Springersprung hi and welcome. This is a lovely supportive group. How is your bleeding now? Mine is super annoying as it seems like it stops for a few hours then bam. It's been a week since the first spotting and almost 3 days since the MC completed. I'm still very tired especially when I eat but feeling a bit stronger today.

Thank you @dirtygrubbybikerchick for your kind words and sorry to hear about your loss.

@Parastars any chance you could be pg again already?

Welcome silver and biker. So sorry you've both been through such a tough time. Pregnancy loss is such a horrible experience. These ladies are an absolute rock when we're feeling down so welcome aboard!

Grumpy have you tried taking iron pills? My inlaws for me some supplements yesterday - too soon to see if they've had any impact yet but I've been feeling exhausted too and had big black rings round my eyes. I'm on the multivits with extra iron for a couple of months now. Could be worth a try until you get back on your feet.

Have everything crossed for the weather Tigger. Hope it all goes ok and not too overwhelming.

Wilde glad you are having a wonderful time. Are you just away for the weekend?

Yeah, really looking forward to it Jupiter. Has come around really quickly. These things always do. Got lots to look forward to in the coming weeks too, which I'm hoping will keep me sane! Are you still clinging on to the relaxed feeling from your trip? And have you announced baby Jupes to the world?

Biker, thank you. ❤️ How are you feeling about things now?

Thank you for the lovely welcome everyone. It is so sad to think that so many people have been in the same situation.
My bleeding us fluctuating too. I thought it was easing off on Thursday morning, then by Thursday evening, I was back feeling like I was having contractions and it got very heavy. Eased off during Friday and is a bit heavier again this morning. I have been wondering whether I should get some iron tablets.

Tigger fingers crossed the weather is better where you are than it is here!

Haha, nope not pregnant. I wish!

Welcome to the newbies; these lot are just lovely! ❤

Hope everyone is having a lovely Saturday. It's mostly sunny here which is nice. I went for a walk on the common with DH this morning but needed a nap afterwards - just woke up from a blissful 2hr sleep! Now I'm badgering him to finish the living room DIY we need to do so we can finally sit in it! My stove quote came back a bit pricey so I've asked them to give a discount given that we are buying 2.. fingers crossed!

Tigger I hope you are having an amazing party x

Thanks all. It's something we just wish didn't happen to anyone.

@DancingUnicorn It was very tough for awhile. Discovered just before Christmas at my 12 week scan that the baby had died a few weeks earlier, but my body hadn't recognised it yet so I was walking around with all the same pregnancy symptoms. As it was Christmas I had to wait 6 days to have my ERPC, so that was almost a week of continuing to walk around no longer oblivious to what was going on inside me. Can't even measure how many tears I shed that week and the weeks that followed. I was already in love and the grief that followed was so overwhelming.

When the hospital finished their brief diagnosis we opted to collect the remains for cremation. The crematorium director was amazing - first person who really knew what to say / not to say. Family and friends tried but as none of them had ever been through it they just tried all the usual platitudes which just made it worse so I had to keep away from them for awhile.

Husband took her (we like to think it was a her) ashes for a brief motorcycle ride through a park, and we then buried her in my PIL's garden, and planted a beautiful camellia japonica 'tree' and flowers to commemorate her and have a place of memories. I was distraught at the time, especially when digging and placing her little bamboo pouch of ashes on and under a bed of dirt, but afterwards it did help to start the healing process. We went away for a few days and later on for a couple of weeks, and those really helped too.

Afterwards I flitted between wanting to TTC straightaway to never doing it again out of fear. But desire outweighed the fear and so we tried again after my first AF which came about 5 weeks after the ERPC.

Nothing happened the first month but the next month it did (we were stunned) and we are 12 weeks today. 12 week scan on Monday (5 months to the day of my last 12 week scan and devastating news) so I am scared as hell!

I meant to say also to those going through it now - I still get emotional when I think about her and what stage we would be at now had she survived, but it does get easier to deal with; the grief does lighten. Do give it whatever time you need to, and never give up, ladies xx

Oh biker. Your story gives me so much hope. I also found out at my 12 week scan; it was such a shock as I had no clue at all (apart from, I realise now, far more fear than I should have had for that morning). That was 7 weeks ago. I can completely understand your fear for Monday, but I desperately hope for you that it goes well and you see your perfect little one with a heart beating for you both. ❤️

Thank you so much biker. I'm sorry you have been through this, but pleased there is hope for you now. I didn't quite make it to my scan mc started 5 days before.
So far everything has happened naturally, I haven't had a ercp. I hope you don't mind me asking, and I know it will vary from person to person, but how long did you bleed for after your mc?

Welcome biker and springer. So sorry that you both had such difficult experiences. Congratulations biker on your rainbow baby, no wonder you are terrified for your 12 week scan, we will be here to hand hold on Monday.

Glad you are njoyong your weekend away natur

grumpy get haggling for those wood burning stoves

tigger keeping my fingers crossed that the sun stays shining for your BBQ

Hope you pirated out your DS in the end mummy

jupiter static smiley 😂😂. I thinking 'trampolining=bouncing baby' hahaha

Rudely woken up from nightshift slumber by DH having a political debate on the doorstep with a canvasser. Give me strength! 🙈

Springer I bled for about 7/8 days I think. Stopped for a little in the middle of that. But I had surgical management, so I don't know if that affects things. Emotionally, it's still very painful, and always on my mind. But it does get easier.

Biker we will be here to hold your hand on Monday. Thanks for sharing your story.

Springer have they scanned you to make sure everything is out yet?

We are getting into the DIY here in the Squirrel household.. DH is finishing laying the living room floor fucking finally. I'm allowed a break because I can't stand the glue smell.

My extra CBFM sticks arrived.. fingers crossed I conceive soon and don't need this much kit!!

How's Saturday going for everyone?

grumpy i missed the post about the babygro -great idea! Love the ideas already and can't think of another one at the moment but will let you know

dancing great idea about baked Camembert. Are you going to get some mrs ?

parsnips that's a lovely sign and looks like a beautiful cathedral. Enjoy the rest of your weekend here and safe travels back. Can't believe you're literally next to seven it's such a small
world isn't it?

para sorry AF hasn't shown her face. So annoying when you normally wish it away and when you want it to appear, it doesn't!

natur have a great time. Love that your DD wore her big sister t shirt. What did your mum say?

Hello springer and bikerchick and welcome to this amazingly supportive thread. Sorry to hear about your mc congrats on your rainbow baby bikerchick and thanks for sharing your story. Made me feel really emotional. Really hope all goes well with this pregnancy ❤

How's the birthday BBQ tigger hope the rain stayed away for you. A little rain here but managed to mow the garden so phew!

Thank you everyone 😘 it's actually the first time I've ever typed our story out, so thank you for being so kind.

@Springersprung I had no bleeding or any other symptoms before the ERPC. A little spotting before the procedure after the softening pills. After the procedure I had an AF type bleed (medium flow) and mild cramps for about 2-3 days, and then light spotting for another 3-4. Total lasted about a week. They did a decent job.