Looking for help, any advice atall on new pregnancy

[Serena1993]

Please I'm not coming on here expecting sympathy or abuse. I've made myself feel horrible and sick with worry as it is. So to set the situation I had been with my ex for 6 years and we broke up however we were still having sex throughout January. I got drunk on the 31st of January (don't go out often atall) and had a one night stand. On the 11th of February I tested positive 3 weeks plus on a clear blue digital pregnancy test. I then went to a scan on the 18th of February and they dated me at 6 weeks and one day with a due date of the 13th of October. Since then I've had 2 more scans they've put me further back to the 8th of October. I want to make things work with my ex and I've had so much reassurance that the babies father isn't the one night stand however anxiety and poor mental health from the past keeps creeping up on me. I just wondered if any other ladies had their opinion on it? I understand a DNA may be needed, but based on dates what would you think?

With either of those dates using an average of ovulating on day 14 you would have ovulated long before 31 January so definitely not the one night stand. If due date of 8th oct is correct then ovulation around 15th Jan and if 13th correct ovulation around 20th. There is no chance at all that you would have ovulated on day 31 or there abouts unless you have ridiculously long cycles of about 40+ days!

Sorry no chance you would have ovulated on 31st was what I meant

Thank you so so much, you have no idea how amazing it is to have someone else confirm what I should be thinking! As mentioned it's just the silly part of my brain being a worry pot as usual! Thanks again

No worries! The stress doesn't bear thinking about I think I would be a wreck!

Hi serena, just to add to motherofboys great reply, once you ovulate there's a very small window for conception because the egg doesn't live that long. You have a longer window before ovulation because sperm can live for about 5 days. Which could be putting the date of the likely successful deed even earlier. Don't stress yourself out it won't do u or the baby any good and I hope everything works out for you

Ahhh I see, so do you agree that it is unlikely the one night stands aswell? I'm such a paranoid wreck, I keep telling myself if it was the one night stands they wouldn't have been able to see the heartbreak at the 6 week scan (which they did) as it would've only been 17 days since conception!

Yes it's def not the one night stand, the baby wouldn't even have developed the heart. And it takes a few days after it develops for it to start beating. Please try and stop worrying about it, if you want to make things work with your ex it'll do you no good having these kinds of worries niggling away at you. It's natural to be worried but count yourself lucky you have good evidence to put you mind at ease

Definitely not the one night stand, the dates don't add up, so try to stop worrying!