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Calling all LH surge experts...

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 13:06

What I really want to know is whether a darkening positive opk indicates that ovulation is nearer/very imminent? Or whether strength of the positive means nothing. Reason is because my PIL are staying over tonight and really don't want to dtd with them in the next door bedroom but is fast looking like will be the only option to catch the egg! Today is CD13.

CD10 - dtd pm
CD12 6am - second line on opk starting to show. Only seen one line til now.
CD12 5pm - definite second line but not positive
CD12 9pm - definite second line darker than others but definitely not positive. EWCM
CD12 10pm - dtd
CD13 6am - first positive opk (cheapie and digital)
CD13 9.30am - positive opk same strength as 6am
CD13 - 1pm - very positive opk line darker than control by a long way

So what are my chances? If we skip dtd tonight and do tomorrow tonight I'm guessing we will miss our chance. I think we need to dtd tonight and tomorrow night to make doubly sure. Arghhh awkward!

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 13:06

Basically does strength of opk indicate a bell curve of lh surge?

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BasinHaircut · 04/05/2017 13:17

You will most likely ovulate 12-36 hrs after your first positive (as I understand it), so if I were you I'd DTD tonight as that's gonna be the one that counts. Or tomorrow morning.

Have to be a quiet one Grin

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 13:26

Is it bad I've been spending all day wondering whether we can fit it in after DS bedtime before PIL arrive? 🙈 And poor dh he hates being on demand! Last time I tried to jump him after work he refused! 😂

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BasinHaircut · 04/05/2017 15:40

mother it's awful isn't it, when you think you are going to miss that window. Exactly that happened to me literally 2 days ago, DH felt the pressure of knowing I was ovulating and said he was too tired at night. Luckily we DTD in the morning instead whilst DS got dumped in front of the telly downstairs Blush

I'd try though if I were you.

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 15:53

So I have two plans I have been conjuring all day:

Plan A - nip in the bath once DS is in bed, then entice dh when I am just wearing a towel. And hope PIL don't turn up. (No ETA mil comes once a week usually at 9pm but fil coming too this week so no real idea of timing)

Plan B - go to bed naked and hope dh is up for it!

But both plans depend on dh being up for it! I did mention yesterday we would have to dtd today to max out our chances and he didn't seem convinced that we have to do it on o-day...

Hoping I can use my powers of persuasion Grin

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DT2016 · 04/05/2017 17:45

Why don't men get the importance of DTD when you finally see that peak?! I'm in similar boat today - got my first peak this morning and anxious to DTD again before it's too late but no chance this morning and DH working late tonight Confused
Hope you can use your womanly charms and convince your DH to oblige!! Grin

BasinHaircut · 04/05/2017 18:24

DT can you do it tomorrow morning?

Or did you DTD yesterday perhaps?

DT2016 · 04/05/2017 19:35

Basin we DTD yesterday and day before and hoping to get DH in the mood when he's back from work late! I'm worried tomorrow morning will be too late as I've had achy ovary pain all day so don't think it's going to be long! Hopefully there's already some swimmers ready and waiting!!

BasinHaircut · 04/05/2017 19:57

If you did it yesterday I'd say you are covered so don't worry too much

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 20:00

Just basically draped myself naked over dh. Only for him to tell me he 'doesn't feel like it'. Window missed. And now I'm crying in our bedroom because a) I feel humiliated b) it makes me feel unattractive like I no longer turn him on and c) that's another month gone. And because I have regular 28 day cycles I will almost always ovulate on a Thursday night, when his mother is here.

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 20:03

I'm not sure our dtd yesterday will cover it. We only did it yesterday and two days before that. Going by my first positive opk I should ovulate between 6pm today and 6pm tomorrow. I am out tomorrow evening so v little chance of doing it then and zero chance in the mornings as I leave for work at 6.30am. Tonight is only time and he tells me he doesn't f-ing feel like it!! Does he think I feel like it all the time? Or like taking my temperature daily, weeing on sticks and sticking my fingers up my foo? I feel like all the effort I've gone to to pinpoint the best time has gone to waste. I am so, probably irrationally, upset. Sad

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DT2016 · 04/05/2017 20:08

Oh motherofboy sending you hugs. Be kind to yourself. Perhaps if you miss this month and you think you will ovulate on a Thursday night next month, you could DTD in the morning or night before? Hang in there and keep the faith that a BFP will happen.

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 20:14

We dtd last night. But same happened last month we dtd on Wednesday I ovulated on Thursday and we missed dtd and I'm not pregnant! Ugh going to have to break the silence with dh now, I feel like such a fool Blush

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BasinHaircut · 04/05/2017 20:16

Mother you might still be covered, don't give up hope!

You are having the same night I had literally 2 days ago (Tuesday) but we hadn't DTD since Sunday, I was fuming I got out of bed and came downstairs for 2 hours and started a thread on AIBU Grin

Sazwest · 04/05/2017 20:44

@MotherofBoy sperm lives for up to 5 days so u might be ok i know it's hard but try not to be to be to hard on yourself xx

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 20:52

We have just had big argument now I am bawling my eyes out in our bedroom. He doesn't understand. He wants me to stop charting but I don't think I can it's the only thing I feel I can do to help our chances! He says he won't dtd on demand I need to do more to turn him on if he isn't up for it and we should just see what happens. I did explain that there is a v small window so if we see what happens it's pretty unlikely to coincide especially seeing as I will nearly always ov on a Thursday due to my cycles. I don't know what to do, I was literally lying on him naked and he didn't want sex?! WhT else am I meant to do?!

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 20:53

This is one of only a couple proper arguments we have ever had I am so upset and can't stop crying Sad

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Oysterbabe · 04/05/2017 21:00

Oh I'm so sorry :(
It's very stressful when you know it's your most fertile day and you just want to be pregnant so badly.
Is he completely on board with the idea of having another?

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MotherofBoy · 04/05/2017 21:03

Absolutely he wanted another as soon as we could! But I held us up for sensible reasons like I was made redundant then started new job I have exam coming up etc. If anything he wants another more than me I just don't understand. He has lots of patience for everything in life and is v laid back whereas I am the planner and obsessor. Guess we just cope differently.

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BasinHaircut · 05/05/2017 07:50

That's a bit shitty of him to expect you to do all the work, why is it up to you to have to turn him on at the appropriate times? What about him turning you on? He is making it sound like he is dking you a bloody favour.

I get what he means that he doesn't want it to be all clinical and business like but I don't think he worded that the right way.

I reckon it's a pressure thing though, blokes feel pressure to perform as they have to finish when we are trying to make babies.

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