advice needed please!!

[bubblebell1]

i am the proud mum of 2 ds' the youngest being only 4 weeks and the oldest 6 next month. however after suffering with pnd after my first pregnancy i didnt cope with motherhood and i didnt enjoy it. resulting in the huge age gap.
i know its early days but this time i feel wonderful i am enjoying motherhood again and really really want another baby.
i had a cs this time and was worried about the 'right' time to leave between pregnancies.
i was also wondering if having them this close together would be too soon. will my ds' suffer? will i cope?
basically i suppose i am asking wether or not i shud try again so soon after giving birth?
do any of you have any experiences of this?

thanks

Haven't got any experience myself, but thought I would bump this up to the top of the list in case anyone does

i would not make any decision right now !! your hormones are still going bonkers and a lot of women experience that whole , it is so wonderful, let's do it again NOW!!! after having a baby...

after c.s, you should try and leave a year to allow your body to recover...at this stage, you are not even knitted together completely.....

it is marvellous you feel so good, but think about the reality.....if you got pregnant now, you would have a 13 month old and a new born! and a 6 yr old...

take some time to enjoy motherhood, and this little baby, and the good times with your older child..if you still feel like this in 6 months, great ! but 4 weeks post partum is nothing....

best to enjoy what you have now, and then decide ! IMO

BTW< i have a 6 year gap between my DCs for the same reason, and had the oh ,it;s so wonderful, lets do this again feeling...it passed.....! happy with my two marvellous DCs and the fact i am well and happy too

thanks lulumama.

u speak so much sense. i think i just needed to hear that other women feel the same too. like i said its so different i wasnt sure what was/is normal. i am prob running away with myself i know i want more kids but perhaps right now isnt the best idea.

on the cs front do i have to wait a yr to get pregnant or a yr to give birth lol

ideal to wait a year to get pregnant, but if you cannot wait, then go for it! but i think giving yourself 3 - 6 months to decide is not going to hurt , is it?

really delighted you are having a positive and enriching mothering experience this time xx

Its great that you are enjoying motherhood. Congratulations on your newborn. Do you think you should give yourself a chance to enjoy the newborn you have, and let the relationships between the children develop a little? With a 6 year gap the oldest might need to have some time to deal with sharing you.
Physically your body must need time to heal after a CS?
Saying that, I have 14 months between my 2 boys and love it, so I'm not against having children close together at all, but I do think you all need a bit of time to adjust.
And you'd have to have sex 4 weeks after giving birth!!!

Just to say that i only have 11 months between my dd1 and dd2. Then 15 months between dd2 and ds1. So their ages are 4, 3 & 2.

Best thing we ever did and it was a consious decision. They are all so close and only occaisionally argue. most of the time they get along really well.

All get up about 7 in the morning, go to bed at 7.30 at night. they eat together and play together.

they are also very kind to each other, brilliant at sharing and really very sociable children.

Goodness me i sound very big headed - obviously they can be absolute monsters when they want to as well!!!

Hi

I have 12 months 10 days between my two ds now aged 3 and 2, best thing I ever did.

follow you gut feeling, what is right will happen.

best of luck

xx

I felt just like you after having my DS (8 months) but after a couple of months of sleepless nights I soon changed my mind lol.
I think part of it for me was missing being pregnant (I had a very easy pregnancy)
I think you should take time to enjoy your LO and see how you are feeling in a few months time before even thinking about it and dont do anything you may regret