Ok I'm 34 ttc #1 but life keeps getting in the way, feeling so frustrated. Startted ttc last April and had 4 cycles before DH got seriously ill. He was keen not to stop trying, but I was worried about extra stress on us both, so we agreed to not actively try but not to prevent. DH is now much better but on a high dose of medication which interferes with maintaining an errection as a side effect, it also seems to have reduced his drive. A few months after him getting ill, I got ill too and was started on ADs, since starting these my cycles have gone wacky, which is so cruel as even though we are not trying every month when AF doesn't show up I get my hopes up. Currently on cd 53 with a few days of sore boobs and worserning nausea dared to hope but bfn again. GP wants me to stay on these meds another 6 months minimum. I've also just found out I'm vitamin D deficient and on mega high vitD supplements which say in the instructions not to take if theres a chance of pregnancy, so need to avoid getting pregnant whilst on them.
And all the time I feel the clock is ticking, people tell me there is plenty of time but I know a lot of people similar ages and younger who have needed fertility treatment and its not worked for all of them. And my GPs made it clear that she doesn't think I should have kids with DH because of his health problems, she told me to "consider the morals of bringing a child into our situation" despite his medical team being incredibly supportive of the idea.
Not sure what posting here will achieve, can't even consider ttc again for a few months just needed to get it all out I think.