do you really have to have one period before ttc following a m/c?

[hotchoc]

what do you think? thanks hotchocx

Hotchoc - so sorry to read of you loss.

Short answer to your question is no ....

Long answer is that medical professionals like you to have 1 period between mc and trying again because it makes doing your edd easier for them.

It's also easierfor you to work out as your cycle may well be all out of kilter for the moment as it gets used to you having had a mc. You don't know when you'll ovulate this cycle as it may not follow the usual pattern of your cycle.

For your head's sake, bear in mind that the healing process from mc is horrible - and if you get pg straight away after mc, the edd is going to be based on the date that you had the mc. I'm not putting this very well, but if you're ok with it, then go for it - I did!

Good luck ttc!

ejt

i started to try again straight away although did actually have one period before conceiving again.

Good luck if you decide it's the right thing for you

Sorry for your loss.

I had a long discussion with my GP about this after 2 x m/c last year - I had one m/c, became pg straight away and that one turned out to be a blighted ovum pg (thankfully, not molar). Apparently BO pgs and molar pgs are statistically much more likely to happen if you conceive without at least one period in between m/c. Obs & gynae friend confirmed what GP had said - it's not about the sums. HTH

so sorry for your loss. I'd really, really recommend waiting for a period before ttc. it gives you a little time to heal, physically and mentally, and to drink wine and eat pate and blue cheese before trying again.

great answer orange, I have to agree. You do feel desperate to TTC straight away, but having a month off to just enjoy and repair is also vital. I also think falling straight away may make you worry more. Although it is up to you personally. I found waiting one month healing.

hi and thanks for the info, i think i am fine now but i can totally see what you mean about giving it a few weeks for body and mind to normalise and take stock. i am surprised at how calm i have been throughout the m/c, still bleeding now, it is when it is all over i will need to reflect and then look forward again. like the idea of good food and wine for a month too.!! so that means i will wait until i have had a period, will that be about 5 weeks or so then?
thanks
hotchocx

And just to give the other side, I didn't wait and it worked out fine. Wishing you so much luck whatever you decide X

thanks for your point, i think we will just not try not to get pregnant for a wee while then, if nothing happens, make an effort!! thought i had it all worked out but i keep changing my mind. xhotchocx

Just wanted to add that EPU midwife advised DH and I to start as soon as we felt able because you can be really fertile after a MC, she said that your body won't let you get pregnant again if it's not ready but I'm not so sure. We are trying again. I had a complete, natural miscarriage and so am hopeful that my body will repair quickly.

Good luck Mrs Mc, we are trying again, have had 2 x m/c and a chemical pg (that happenned last month). I know that last month I'd been on a rollercoaster of are my hormone levels going up or aren't they that when I was told I was going to m/c imminently I actually felt relief that I knew where I stood.
I always thought that pg was easy as have 2 x ds with no probs, but the past 10 months have been hell, have spent 20 weeks of the past ten months pg with nothing to show for it

I had a miscarriage, then dd, another miscariage then ds. Both times, I concieved the month after the other baby would have been born. I know it's fanciful, but I really felt very strongly as if my body need to mourn for one baby before it was prepared to make another. Please try not to rush things - let your body and mind heal - and say goodbye to the lost baby if you need to before you move on. Please forgive and ignore me if this sounds too fanciful.

I had a missed mc almost 3 weeks ago. I went for a scan at 12 weeks and found both babies (I knew it was twins) had died at 7 weeks. I had to have a mc induced which was horrible. I have decided to take my chances and try straightaway. I feel that getting pregnant again will be the only way I will feel any better. I suppose everyone feels differently though.

I have no idea where I am though in this cycle. I am taking my temp each morning so I don't think I've OV'd yet. I did a pg test yesterday as I was curious to see if I still had hcg remaining. It was still weakly positive, so I don't know if OV will be inhibited until the old hcg as completely gone. (I've had a follow up scan so I know there are no retained products).

Jossiejump ? poor you you?ve had an awful time. I don?t know where I?d find the strength to recover from more than one MC; I guess you just have to if it happens don?t you? I really hope you fall again soon and are holding a new born before the next 40 weeks or so are up!

Katelyle ? I can see your point and hope that my body will fall when it is ready but I do hope for the sake of my heart that that doesn?t take too long

Jess1996 ? I?m so sorry for your loss, how awful it must have been to lose both twins I feel like you do, I?ll feel much better emotionally if I get pregnant again soon. I?m temping too and my temps are like my pre OV ones at the mo but I?ve read that you can OV within a couple of weeks of a MC. I?ve tracked 8 weeks in my diary and if I haven?t had a bleed by then, I?ll test. Hopefully all the HCG from the lost pregnancy will be very much gone by then. Good luck, I hope you fall soon