Hi there, I'm wondering if I could get some help on this. I posted before saying how after 11 months of trying and straight after a laparoscopy I finally got a BFP. Unfortunately I miscarried at 5.5 weeks. This was my first whiff of a pregnancy and I think the laparoscopy really helped. The problem is I'm not sure what to do now.
After trying so long with nothing happening I wasn't expecting anything to change after the laparoscopy. I had thought I'd try for 3 more cycles naturally and then go for ivf to give myself he best chance and know that I'd done everything I could. I'm 41 btw, with 2 kids aged 6 and 8 but really wanted to try for one more....
After the miscarriage it made my rethink a bit. Basically I'll still have the same odds of having a miscarriage with ivf too. It's more of an emotional investment to do ivf rather than try naturally. Now I'm wondering if I should just try naturally and let whatever happens happen. There are no guarantees with ivf and I'm scared of starting down that road and not knowing when to stop....I'm kinda counting on the fact that maybe my chances of trying naturally are better now than last year, which may not be true.
Does anyone know how much time months-wise ivf takes? I mean, is it just one month and then you can try naturally either side or does it mess up your cycle/hormones for a few months? My consultant was lovely but I didn't come away with an idea of what impact ivf has on you other than she said it's 'emotionally, mentally and financially very trying' or something like that. I'll be 42 in December. I know I have to come to terms with whatever the outcome and I don't want to keep trying indefinitely.
The midwife I spoke to after the miscarriage was lovely....basically said what's for you won't pass you, and that her ,mam was 42 when she had her, before ivf etc existed.
If anyone can shed some light on this or pass on any words of experience/general thoughts on ivf V trying naturally I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks a mill!