Teen pregnancy.

[Possibleyoungmum17]

Hey girls.

I've been thinking for around a year now about having a child. My boyfriend and I are financially stable and are able to afford one, as we both have jobs, however every one of my friends are telling me it's too early to think about having a child. I am looking for advice from mums of all ages, and if possible, from people who became a mum as a teenager.

Thanks guys.

Oh, also, I've had sex before without protection 4 times in the past and all of those times the guy has c**d inside me. And I have not gotten pregnant yet. I am, at the moment, 3 months late with my period but have done 2 tests and both came back negative.

Thank you :)

Hiya, it is your choice when you decide to start a family. I would just say that the times you had sex without protection were probably not times when you were ovulating, theres a surprisingly short period of time every month when you can conceive.

Make sure you get an STI test before you start trying if this is not your first partner, as any infections could potentially harm your baby and will need to be cleared up first.

Other than this, quite frankly pregnancy, childbirth and childcare can often be much easier when you are younger and i'm not entirely sure why young mums face so much stigma. If you both want it, and you know what you are letting yourself in for, it's your life and your decision.

Physically you are probably in the best place to have a child but are you ready emotionally? Putting the financial aspect to one side, having a child puts a lot of pressure on you individually and as a couple. Are you in a stable and committed relationship? Do you live together? How does your partner feel? Having a child has changed my life irrevocably, I wouldn't change it goes the world but occasionally I miss being able to go to the cinema or out for drinks on a whim. I was 30 when Jude had ds and for me that was the right decision as we got married, had fun for a few years and travelled and bought a house so having a baby felt right.

In terms of your fertility, once you start trying for a baby you realise how much trickier it is than you're lead to believe. There's only a small window of time a month where it's possible to get pregnant. If you haven't had a period for 3 months then that could be down to any number of reasons such as stress, losing weight etc. I think most gps say to wait 6 months without a period before they will start investigations. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I think if you and your boyfriend feel ready to have a baby I don't see why not. My little girl is 8 months old and I found out I was pregnant with her when I was 15 and had her when I was 16. Me and my boyfriend have been together around 2 and half years. Since I found out I was pregnant we have provided everything for her as he works and I had some money. We have yet to get our own place but are happy how we are at the moment.

If you need to talk about anything I am here if you need to talk

You are so young, I had my first at 21 and although I was ok financially at the start of my pregnancy, I wasn't by the end. My relationship wasn't good, I was unable to get rented accommodation (due to low may pay) and couldnt just go home so it was very tough and that was with 5 years of working life behind me.

Do you have a secure place to live that you could afford without regular pay of on low mat pay? Do you have savings? How long have you been together?
What sort of support network would you have?
It's likely that your friends will naturally drift away as you'll be at different stages of life, are you confident enough to make new ones and start a whole new life.
Do you have the ability to drive and pay for a car?
How will you feel when your friends are on girls holidays without you or travelling the world and you're potty training?
You have so much time and so much more experience to gain in life. My advice would be to wait, make a 'before kids' list and tick it all off first. Get to know what sort of person you'll be yourself.

Hellooo! I'm currently TTC at aged 19. If you're ready, go for it, but if there's things you want to do first, wait.

I had DD1 at 17 same as you stable relationship and job. It took its toll on my MH and it was very hard going.

I did feel like I missed out on my teenage years somewhat. If I could go back I would have waited will my early twenties. Everyone is different though I know some amazing younger mams who put me (late twenties now) to shame.

3 months late? I would POAS again then see a doctor to rule out infections etc (I missed periods when I had a severe, but painless, UTI for example)