Is Mother Nature a bitch?

[ringaling]

Basically this month was the first month I've ever in all my life had unprotected sex,I really want a baby but not "trying" if you know what I mean.
Only had Sex once during "fertile window" but still disappointed.
My cycles are every 29 days but went to loo today(well about 1 min ago) on 28 days and there she is.
😡
I'm trying not to be too sad but still part of me thinks what if I just can't have kids but the rational part thinks it's the first month and you literally had sex once and your only 30.
Just a hormonal post really

I think everyone secretly thinks they'll fall first cycle. I did. We started TTC in August and I think I was just convinced I'd be pregnant by Christmas. Well, I won't be!

Obviously, as you know, you're logically being ridiculous - the majority by far don't get pregnant first go and it really doesn't show that there's something wrong with you or that it won't happen soon. As I said, though, emotionally I know it doesn't feel like that. I think let yourself wallow for a bit and then try and look at this as a new cycle and a new chance rather than just the disappointing end to the last one.

Yes, Mother Nature IS a bitch

Works both ways too - falling pregnant when you don't want to, and not falling pregnant when you are desperate for it.

None of us know what our fertility is like, until we try to use it.

Approx. 20% (1/5th) of healthy couples with nothing wrong with them will NOT conceive in the first year of trying; the vast majority of them will then achieve a pregnancy in the 2nd year.

It is a total game of roulette.

Just keep on DTD and if you can enjoy the process, not just the desired outcome

I agree with LIsa the first month is the worst. You 100% think you are pregnant - sure thats what they tell you in school!

Try and take it easy - Im on cycle 3 and the last 2 I have been more relaxed.
My cycle was always 27 days once I started trying it went Crazy. This is the first month I actually feel that everything has settled down.

Fx for next cycle

My good friend has been trying for 3 years without anything so I know it's not as straight forward as we all would hope.
I'm not too upset really ..maybe fast forward a year and I wouldn't be saying the same thing.
Hope you have some luck soon :-)

Yes, the scaremongering (for good reason!) at school, hells! I can't help but now look back at the morning after pills I took and the sleepless nights I got over the most minor infraction of good contraception protocol (should I avoid sex for a week after feeling slightly peaky, just in case?! Is he waiting approximately three seconds too long to withdraw and take off the condom?!) and think that it turns out I wasn't so hyperfertile after all and I probably didn't need to be quite so vigilant!