Age 41 (just), TTC for 6 months, do I need fertility treatment?

[Alibaba2]

Hi,

I'm hoping someone can give me some clarity on my situation...

I fell pg accidentally in March but had a MC in May.

Since then we have been trying to conceive again.

I have 2 DC already (5 and 7) and conceived easily.

I've had some initial blood tests: LH 3.1, FSH 9.3, progesterone 42. OH is waiting his sperm analysis results.

I have regular periods and ovulate every month. My periods are perhaps a little light but have been like this for years. My cycles are the same length as always.

I can be referred to a NHS fertility clinic but this will be self-funded obvs. The initial appointment is £400 and they will run the same tests we've already done plus AMH and ultrasound.

I can also get AMH and ultrasound done elsewhere for £200 but without a consultation.

Should we carry on ttc a bit longer or am I running out of time?

As a 40 year old who is trying for a 2nd child but also trying to accept it's unlikely to happen, I think you're running out of time.

I think it's generally 37 given as the date after which fertility tails off and many of your egss at 40+ won't be viable.

I'd look to go forward with IVF but also be clear how much you want to spend on this, and to accept stopping when you reach that point even if you aren't pregnant at that point.

Hi Crying,

Regarding your situation, why do you think it's unlikely to happen? I know several people that fell pg at 40.

How long have you been trying for and have you had any tests?

Bump

Your levels seem good (though I'm not that familiar with norms).

Do you temp? That can give certain indications that you ovulate.

You've still time, I'd say, but do go ahead with further checks. When were your last bloods? No point in repeating them?

alibaba I had a mmc at 40, then went on to have a healthy pregnancy two years later. Dc3 is now a happy 2 year old. Dc1&2 are 7&9 now, so a similar gap to yours.

I must add though, it didn't take two years to get pg again, we werent actively trying or not, just happened that month that we were intimate at the right time. (It wasn't a regular occurrence after the mmc as we went through a very rough time).

Good luck. I do think at our age the general advice tends to be seek professional advice after 6 months of trying.

Thanks New and Daisy. I just needed to hear some positive feedback I think.

New, yes I temp but not every day. I just check I get a temp rise and can actually feel the progesterone as I feel shivery and hot to touch.

Daisy, great to hear. Lovely to hear some success stories.

Hope all is going well with you both.

I should add, there's a mum at the school happily pregnant at 47, looks the picture of health!

Alibaba, I am 40 (41 next July) and have been TTC for 12 months. I have 2 DCs, 8 and 6, conceived v easily and DH has 2 DCs, 13 and 11, also conceived very easily. This would be our first together. We thought we'd get pregnant straight away but it's now been a year and nothing. We started with unmedicated IUIs back in July and did 3 without success. Just did one medicated IUI which also seems to have failed. We may keep trying either naturally or with clomid for a few months maximum but will need to make a decision about IVF by spring I would say. We have had all the tests and nothing wrong, my tubes are clear, AMH.ovarian reserve good but still not happening. If I were you I would get checked out now - expect you'll be put on a similar track to us although we were always told IUI had v low success. We were just convinced it would happen naturally and that's still important to us. Want to give it every chance of happening the way. Good luck!

I think if you desperately want another DC then perhaps seeking fertility treatment would be a good idea BUT if you are happy to let fate decide and have regular sex then you stand a chance of conceiving naturally. It's just a case of finding that one good egg!

I conceived easily she had a problem free pregnancy at 37. Then had three losses and another successful pregnancy at 40. I'm now nearly 42, still breast feeding, and we've decided to just let nature take its course. If I fall pregnant again successfully then we'll be overjoyed, if we don't then I'm happy my family is complete.