Have I left it too late for children?

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Hi everyone my name is Louisa and I'm 30 nearly 31.
This month will be my first month trying for a baby.
I've got it into my mind that I've left it too late and I might be infertile.
All my friends had children aged 20/21 so I often get asked what's wrong with me etc.
My periods are every 29 days on the dot so I think I know when I ovulate monthly.
I'm just scared in case I never get pregnant.
I will be devastated..I keep thinking your not that lucky to fall pregnant and that my body won't be able to do that.
I know it's totally irrational ..tomorrow night will be first night of trying and then every other day...according to app I ovulate Sunday.

About as self obsessed as some of the comments...
Op you'll never know until you try, good luck

I'm 33 and TTC#2.

We've had 8 months of perfectly timed sex and still no pregnancy whereas I fell pregnant on my first month of trying with DS.

I'm starting to wonder if we left it too late to try for DC2.

There's nothing wrong with being worried about fertility so your post isn't insensitive at all. You're allowed to talk about how you feel and worries you may have.

I had my children at nearly 34, and 36. Many many women now are having their children during their 30s rather than 20s, and for most, it is not a problem at all, especially if you are at the younger end of your 30s. Yes, some people are unlucky and suffer from infertility due to various reasons, but for the vast majority of women, getting pregnant in your 30s is nothing to worry about.

It is unlikely you have left it too late. If you have a fertility problem now it is most likely something you would always have had and not age related. You won't know about that till you try.
For what it's worth I had Ds at 37 and got pregnant first month trying. I understand how you feel as I spent the previous 12 months trying to manage a medical condition so I could get permission from the doctors to try and was feeling like I was running out of time. I wasn't and you aren't but I get that it feels that way.

You sound overly anxious.

With the best will in the world, if you're worried now you'll be tying yourself in knots by the time you get to cycle 8 or so. Which is likely btw, it's expected that most women will get pregnant the first time within 18 months of trying.
You really need to focus on the positives; extra sex, looking after yourself a bit better, enjoying the process and all that.
Stressing about it at this stage is daft and to the detriment of your chances.

Justforthisonce how is someone's personal fear and worry insensitive? Sure, other people might be worse off and maybe OP is being irrational because her fear isn't based on an experience, like most fears are. But who are you to tell her that she's not allowed to be concerned or at the very least curious?! What's insensitive is making an insensitive comment to someone who asked a legitimate question.

30 isn't old! Where have you got this information from. I would honestly not worry about it before you've even started TTC, otherwise you'll become a quibbling wreck when you do start.

Im 30 but have fertility issues its already been over a year and yes i do feel that my time is running out

I don't see how the post is insensitive! Don't the medical professionals say that fertility starts to decline after 30?
Ive found mumsnet to be so supportive and helpful to me over the last few days and I'm so grateful to have found a safe place to share my worries and fears and seek reassurance from other women.
I have read some other posts, though these tend to be away from the ttc threads, and I've been generally shocked at how vicious some people can be!

Isn't 30 the average age for a first child?

I am 31 and consider my self a little young still! We will start to TTC next year.

My mum was 34 when she had me and she wishes she had all her children in her 30's, instead of bowing to pressure and starting at 24.

No! I'm 41 and pregnant. We only started TTC this year (didn't meet my husband until I was 38).
Plenty of time yet.