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Question for all those with recent BFPs

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MrsPolly · 02/02/2007 10:39

I was wondering whether any recent BFP ladies still checking these boards could give me their opinion? I've been wondering if my negativity might be affecting my chances of getting pg. What I mean is that I just can't imagine getting a BFP, it seems to be something that happens to other people. Is that odd? I am not a negative person at all and generally things work out well for me. But we've been trying for over a year now (although v long cycles) and I just feel that something must be wrong with me/us or (and - this bit is odd I know - but that me and DP must be somehow 'incompatible'). Did any of you feel that way? I do intend to go and pester my GP for further tests etc but in the meantime I would welcome any reassurance that you thought this way too before your BFPs?

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Ready · 02/02/2007 11:52

sorry to hear you have been trying so long. Thought I would bump this for you.

laksa · 02/02/2007 12:07

I have long cycles around 35-38 days. I thought I might have been infertile (wasn't trying but had planned to later on in the year) I decided to find out if I was ovulating properly so I took my temp every morning and it turns out I ovulated at around day 20. (although on the cycle I got pregnant I ovulated on day 22).

Hope I'm not giving useless advice but have you tried taking your temp to see if and when you are ovulating in the month? I wasn't actively trying to get pregnant but it helps to get to know your body in this way. I knew I was pregnant before the test as I had 18 elevated temps in a row. It means you can probably save money on tests because you can tell if you have ovulated that month or not and if your temp dips you can be sure your not and that your period is on its way.

The weird thing is I got pregnant from sex on the day my temp rose which they always say you can't as you've already ovulated and its too late (we thought we were safe). My advice is keep having sex after the day you think you have ovulated.

Sorry you are feeling down. I don't think this is affecting it unless you have clinical depression which can be a factor. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope you get your bfp soon.

xx

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MrsPolly · 02/02/2007 12:53

Thanks Ready! and Laska thank you for such a nice message. Yes I've been temping for 4 cycles now (so about 6 months!) and it has been really helpful as I know that I am ovulating (the earliest I ov is day 22/23) so it has given me hope. Interesting about the day of the temp rise - I have to admit that by then I thought it was too late but I will keep going next time!
I do intend to go and talk to the GP again and start whatever testing process I need to...
thanks again
x

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Juicylucytoo · 02/02/2007 15:48

I think it's totally natural to feel a slight twinge of envy when others get their BFP. I think everyone who's TTC is similar in this respect. You wouldn't take take it away from them, just really wish it for yourself. At least this is how I felt.

Also I think it's sometimes difficult to tell how long people have been trying because they may join MN right at the start, or like me, only when they'd already been trying for over a year. It sometimes feels like people appear only to get a BFP the next minute.

The whole thing is really frustrating. Don't give up. Keep faith with yourself. Your time WILL come.

Just wanted to let you know I KNOW how you feel.

lissielou · 02/02/2007 15:54

i think after a while you do believe that its never going to happen and i used to gey so angry at stories about trying for 15y then had 7 in 6m stories, most people take 18m ttc before it happens and the best thing you can do is speak to your gp

Pottypotpot · 02/02/2007 16:08

Sorry you're feeling down MrsPolly.
I don't think your negativity should be affecting things unless its affecting you bding.
I always thought that these things happen to other people. I was paranoid throughout my whole 1st pregnancy as I couldn't believe my luck and couldn't imagine having a baby of my own. It always seemed too good to be true. I was convinced that something was going to go wrong and could hardly picture myself with a baby, and dared not to either.
When we were trying, I never let on how much a big deal it was to me and was always outwardly casual about it. I tried not to make bding become clinical and would joke to my dh about 'every other day' (apparently that is the best way!)
I think that helped us but each couple is different.
Just keep going for it and get your tests done.
Juicylucy is right - your time will definitely come. Wishing you luck.xx.

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MrsPolly · 02/02/2007 16:36

Potty, Lissielou and Juicy thank you very much, it sounds as if you all know how I feel. This seems like a very self indulgent post now I read it again and I didn't mean it to be!
I just find being pg unimaginable and maybe I've been reading too much self-help babble but I wish I could feel positive and visualise it happening to me etc etc
Anyway, I'm not so down, just curious about how others have felt after trying for a while. thank you and happy weekends all!
x

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