advice please......

[anewme]

ok this is me for those who don't know me. Formerly known as ladybump/wrighty.
TTC 9 months m/c in aug and no joy since. Been feeling down a lot lately and my whole life is hinging on that BFP.

I am also quite unhappy at work. Am teacher and turned down big promotion in Summer for sept as i was convinced i'd be pg and wanted to go part time and my new role would have made this v difficult.
Since then another colleague has lined himself up for the job and is basically doing my head in. he's come and gone from the school and I have been there 7 years.

Any way, another job has come up at a fab school which i am thinking of applying for. However, it's to start after easter April 16 th and if i get it, it would mean that i would have to hold off ttc for three months otherwise if i did fall pg i would only get satutory maternity pay. Is it correct that you have to have been employed for more than 26 weeks 15 weeks before you are due? Therefore you'd have to be employed by them 1 week before you concieved?

I think i'm going to wait to see if my AF arrives next week if it does am gonna take bull by horns and apply. Otherwise, if keep ttc and stay at my old school and i'm not pg by April 16th i'll be kicking myself, frustrated and even more fed up about ttc.

But then i think is it worth giving up on what i so want for three months for a stupid job? What if next month is the month??

AAAGGGHHHH! Help Me!

What a difficult situation.

There really isn't an easy answer. However, as a teacher, I know that you really are miserable when you don't want to be doing the job. I was feeling like this when I returned from mat leave. I then went for promotion and I am loving my new job. Obviously ttc is confusing the situation. What does your dh think?

I'm not much help but at least I can give you a bump. (unfortunately not the kind of bump you want)

ARe you paid by the school are by the county/borough (I really don't know how it works with schools). If your pay check will come from the same place then it shouldn't affect your maternity.

He is willing to wait ttc if it makes me happy. He's really understanding but he doesn't really want to influence my decision as he says it's got to be my choice.
I think i'll make my mind up if/when af arrives.

Am so reluctant to give up ttc but sometimes think stress of my current job could be stopping it anyway. and i have said before that I've got to get on with my life.
Oh i don't know.

thanks goingfor3. i did wonder about this. As it turns out this is a different LEA but if i was to find a job in the same LEA would my pay be affected as that's where pay check come from?

Maybe a break form ttc would help you relax and feel a little better?

I'm not saying that stopping trying is what you should do, I'm just thinking out loud. I agreee with goinfor3 that if your pay comes from the same LEA then you should be Ok.

Hi anewme,
I am in atl and got their little book the other day, unfortunately in recycling which was emptied today. However I was reading about the fact that lots of pregnancy stuff has changed for the better in teaching if you are due April 07 onwards which would be you. I'd ring or e-mail your union as they give really good advice. Maybe tes might have either?!
I think it's the type of job that gets you down. I keep thinking if I get preg I won't go bakc in Sept!!!!

why not apply for it, carry on trying and see what happens? you don't have to take job if you won't get mp.