trying but nothing happening!

[gingermumi]

Last year DH decided (having been married for years that he does want a baby afterall). I have two daughters already - 15 and 18 from a previous marriage. Having always wanted another child was feeling a bit put out that he has finally decided that he wants one too as I was 40 at the time (now 41). Got lots of positive feedback from mumsnetters and felt so much better about the older mum thing BUT can't get pregnant! GP says she's not worried and she expected that it would take longer to conceive because of my age. Have been trying for about 8 months. Feeling like time's aginst me now - any hints (feel a bit stupid as it wasn't a problem before!).Thanks.

Are you having enough sex? The right amount is every couple of days right through cycle.

The general consensus seems to be is that if you're over 35 and have been trying for six months plus then a referral to a gynae is in order.

GP is probably not correct not to be concerned.
Generally speaking fertility does declines with age.

It would be in your interests to have a blood test done to see what your hormone levels are like. Low ovarian reserve/egg quality problems may be issues now. Both of you should be tested further to see if any of these or male factor problems are there.

I would pursue this with your GP further; don't be fobbed off.

I was told by my GP not to worry until a year of trying, despite being over 35. I pushed the issue with them, saying I had heard it was 6 months and they decided to refer me then. We are in the middle of tests which have shown a problem but we have to go and have them all before we sit down and discuss. The initial referral was quite quick, less than 2 months but it does take quite a few months to do all the tests (mainly as they want 2 sperm tests 6-8 weeks apart) so our appointment itsn't until first week of March, my appointment with GP was back in July so the whole process does take some time. I would go back and start the ball rolling as time is of the essence, imo. Good luck!

Sorry, meant to say ask to be referred to the fertility clinic asap. We had various tests done through our GP, blood, sperm, etc, which took some time and I then pushed for the referral. The fertility clinic now wants us to do tests at their hospital so all that time spent last year doing various blood tests, etc, was in fact a waste of precious time. HTH.

Hi Pamina! Am fine, bit cheesed off with this TTC lark! It was all so easy in previous attempts! Sorry, I did see you on a previous thread and was feeling particularly glum then so didn't reply, very rude of me. Am I right in thinking you have 3 girls now? Must be a lovely household (but very busy for you no doubt!), hope you are all well xx

hnks to all for your thoughts. Will go back to GP. Thanks again, will keep you posted!