Trying to conceive after loss

[Michelle91]

Hi, I don't know if I am posting in the right place but I really need some positive comments to help me. Me and my partner had our DD just other two months ago and she was born still. We love her to pieces no matter what and were not trying to replace her but we both long for a baby to care for. We both said straight away we don't want to wait and we have support on both sides of our families to do so. But I'm so scared it's going to happen again, I was full term, so when I was in labour and on the way to the hospital I had no doubts or worries, she was kicking the night before so felt as though I would be bringing my baby home the next day... I am so ready to be a mummy but I'm so scared it will happen again 😔

I'm so sorry I have no advice but

Xxx

Hi Michelle. Firstly huge condolences and my sincerest sympathies. to you & your partner and families.

My son would be 10 in June. He was my first born & full term like your dear dayghter. My husband & I went on to have 2 more children. The first was born 13 months after my son who died.

Please feel free to PM me. I totally totally relate to your anxiety & worry. Sadly it's normal and the feeling of wanting another baby again is also very normal & a natural feeling.

Huge huge huge hugs at this very sad and painful time. I never thought I'd manage 10 days without my son but I'm still going almost 10 years later. You will too.

Xxxx

A slightly different case for us, I have APS and had many miscarriages. I was then monitored and told my pregnancy was high risk "until that cord with your blood is cut" thanks DR with no bedside manner, ignore the PTSD/Anxiety note on my file.

So I was so very frightened the whole way through, so very frightened of conceiving only to go through loss again. Very frightened. In the end I had a pretty straightforward pregnancy and birth and DD was OK.

Statistically you are overwhelmingly likely to have a healthy child. However go to your GP and ask for support before you TTC from the local ante-natal MH team and of course request the best hospital you can for scanning and monitoring throughout. Mine supported me with counselling sessions and some hypnotherapy stuff. You may also be eligible to request a C section or induction for psychological reasons, if you feel that might help.