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Emotional Rollercoaster??? Hop on!!

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Ready · 08/01/2007 16:58

Just wondering... When TTC is it normal to feel as though I am trapped on an emotional rollercoaster?????

For those of you who don't know me... This is cycle 5 of ttc. DH and I are 27, been married for 2.5 years and areeager to have a baby.

After the initial tears and disappointment when AF arrived again, I just felt positive for this cycle, then within a day I feel rock bottom and as if it is never going to happen for us? Is this normal?? Or am I stressing far more than most?

Today I just feel utter lethargy, which I am sure is due to AF, feeling really grotty obviously doesn't help lift one's spirits I guess. Then I read a thread about a woman who is going to trick her DH into having a baby, and I just got really angry!! So I am having all the emotions at the moment

I am sorry for the rant but I just need to know I am not completely mental and that all these feeling are completely normal ??

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Wheelybug · 08/01/2007 17:02

oh very normal Ready !

I have a dd (just about to turn 2), had a mc in July so on about cycle 5 too (day about 4 I think). I was only thinking today that a week ago I was so upset as knew AF was on way and the last couple of days I have felt optimistic for the start of the new cycle and then I know it'll be stress ensuring DH isn't working all hours when he is required .... Arrgghhh....

So either you're normal or we're both mental....

beansprout · 08/01/2007 17:04

Yep, sounds about right. I am in the middle of my post AF, "no way could I handle another one, I'm fine as I am" routine. Funny, 'cos that wasn't my reaction when AF arrived last week! In fact, the longer all this goes on (we are now into cycle 9), the less sure I am about anything at all!

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Ready · 08/01/2007 17:12

Can you remember what it was like to be sans child and ttc??? was it easier?? or harder??

I am pleased I am not alone... at least if I am mental then I am not the only one.

thanks for sharing

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Ready · 08/01/2007 17:14

I keep spouting the "GP says that 6 months to a year is average" because I have more or less drummed it into myself in the desperate attempt to believe that just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean there is anything 'wrong'.... but I am really starting to disbelieve it. IYKWIM?

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Wheelybug · 08/01/2007 17:20

Not sure if it was easier or harder with dd. In the circumstances it was easier because we conceived her on about the third cycle. As I said we are now embarking on cycle 5 after m/c - although that pg was conceived first cycle so now I am convinced its never going to happen because of the m/c ! Which doesn't make much sense really.

Also, I gave myself extra pressure this time because I wanted roghly a 2.5 yr age gap (gone now) and a baby in May (gone now) ! But getting over this side of things and have now convinced myself a bigger age gap would be easier... until I get my AF and then I am convinced dd will be 10 before she gets a sibling

beansprout · 08/01/2007 17:20

I know exactly what you mean. I'm 37 and that feels wrong for a start!

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Ready · 08/01/2007 17:26

I guess I am just panicking that there might be something wrong and will put our lives on hold for a year until we can at least investigate. It's so annoying.

We spent 10 years making sure we didn't get pregnant, and now that we want to it's not proving as straight forward as we thought.

I think you need to not worry about age gaps... there are pros and cons for all different gaps. What will be will be... here I go again being positive.

Stop the rollercoaster, I want to get off.

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greedyforbabies · 11/01/2007 14:09

just wanted to say i thought it was much easier and less stressful when ttc for the first time ready. now i am trying to time it perfectly with ds goign to big school, dd going to pre school, potty training etc, and not wanting too big an age gap. obviously as i have now been ttc for 9 months lots of that has gone out of the window, but i always remember reading you shouldn't have a new baby in the family when other children have anything big happening in their lives like starting a new school or they feel like they are being shoved off cos new baby is here!
anyway, first time round all my worries were to do with me really,....when would be the best time for ME to get pg at work, best time of year etc. didn't all seem so urgent then somehow! i think the age gap thing is the one that gets to me......i wanted all of mine to be nice and close together......but the longer we carry on ttc the less likely that is....obviously!

WOW!!!!! anyway ready ( if you are still reading this), it is never easy ttc that is all i am saying, but personally THIS time is the hardest by far, and even the knowledge that i already have 2 and i know i can get pg dont make it any easier!

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Ready · 11/01/2007 16:14

Greedy - What you say makes perfect sense. I imagine it would be harder when there are more factors to consider.

I am so down today. As I said on another thread, our circumstances could well be changing again this summer, and we may have to relocate all over again. And I am starting to doubt whether we should put ttc on hold. BLUB.

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greedyforbabies · 16/01/2007 15:23

oh ready! i hope you are feeling better now....i am sorry i wasn't around to cheer you up. have you heard anymore about possibly havin to relocate?

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