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Conception

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Cannot TTC until April... for the desperately desperately downhearted

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PinkElephant · 08/01/2007 16:05

Hi to anyone who wants to keep a Pink Elephant who is feeling a little "blue" company. Because of my ectopic last week we cannot TTC until April. Oohh I can tell I'm feeling a little bit brighter as the thought of TTC and possibly going through all this again terrified me last week and this week... it seems as if April is sooooo long away.

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lissielou · 08/01/2007 16:09

oh, PE, thats awful. bloody doctors eh. do you want a cup of tea and piece of cake?

KezzaG · 08/01/2007 16:12

Oh I feel for you I really do. I was told in August to wait until January to ttc and was devastated. I tried to use the time to get fit, lose some weight, save some more money and all other good things. Needless to say it is now January, and I have achieved none of it.

It did go quite quickly in the end, and I managed to get through it, but I am all consumed with thoughts of fertilisation again now.

Can you plan any special treats in between that you wouldnt be able to do if you were pregnant? Mine mainly involved drinking

Piffle · 08/01/2007 16:15

PE, I had an ectopic Nov 04 and had to wait 6 mths as well.
I am now 30 wks pregnant (It took a while as my cycles were so erratic after losing a tube)
Good luck, concentrate on healing inside and out

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PinkElephant · 08/01/2007 16:16

Lissielou - lovely alarge peice of cheesecake would be marvellous!!
kezzaG - I have been told no alcohol until my bloods are down to zero and also no strenuous excersise or sex for 1 month. Just to torture myself even more I have started a diet...boo hoo!! Maybe a short holiday might be nice.

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lissielou · 08/01/2007 16:17

here you go was your appt today?

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PinkElephant · 08/01/2007 16:18

Piffle - oh that gives me hope it really does. Were you worried when you pregnant again? did you have scan early etc

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PinkElephant · 08/01/2007 16:20

Lissielou - it all happend over the new year. I had methotrexate injection and I have to wait for it all to get out of my system which can take up to 12wks. The Doc's said I mustn't drink etc until my results improve. They were great with me I have no complaints about my care at all.

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lissielou · 08/01/2007 16:23

oh pinky, must be so downheartening. weve had at least 3 mcs and they were bad enough...

cedar12 · 08/01/2007 16:27

I think its probabley a good idea to wait. My drs told me i could start trying after I had had a period. Which we did i got very stressed, Looking back i needed time to get over it. I started to think now my body wouldnt have let me get pregnant anyway. Look after yourself it took me ages to get over it emotional and I wish i had got counciling straight away. Anyway hope you think about having counciling.

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PinkElephant · 08/01/2007 16:33

Lissielou - thank you for the virtual cheesecake!! Yum yum
Cedar - no I'm not having counselling. I think yours was so much more traumatic as you had surgery, whereas it was so early for me I had the injection instead. I feel ok generally and I'm really not ready to try just yet as am a little bit terrified. Maybe the fact we have three months is a good thing as I will defo be ready both physically and psychologically. Just so desperate to have little baby, it was our first time and I have never been pregnant before and we were soooo excited. We're worried as we're both getting older and it took us 8mths the first time round.

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lissielou · 08/01/2007 16:46

it took 6y ttc with ds, wed given up and started the adoption process when i started throwing up if i saw a photo of a joint of meat. the only thing i can say is your body will decide when youre well enough. you need to mourn your lost bean before trying to grow another. 3m is only 12w, plus ttc in april+ means a winter bean, and winter babies are ace hope i havent said anything wrong here, all of my mcs were because i wasnt physically or mentally ready to cope with the trauma of pg, labour and postnatal merrygoround x

Ready · 08/01/2007 16:47

Hang in there honey!!! Thinking of you!! April will be here in no time at all!

cedar12 · 09/01/2007 08:44

i hope i didnt upset you by saying about the counciling. Look after yourself.

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PinkElephant · 09/01/2007 08:58

Cedar12 - not at all. I think had it been further down the line and if I'd had to have surgical intervention I may have needed counselling, but I'm ok really.

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cedar12 · 09/01/2007 11:49

Glad your feeling ok and i am sure april will be here before you now it.

cedar12 · 09/01/2007 11:50

know not now

duchesse · 09/01/2007 18:02

Hi Pink Elephant- hope the miscarrying process is not being too traumatic. Will they scan etc soon to check its all gone?

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PinkElephant · 10/01/2007 14:56

Duchesse- My bloods are down to 167 now and the period from hell started yesterday so I guess my body is expelling everything now. I have to go back for some final bloods next week to check everything is ok and then they'll book me in for an "in depth" xray which is apparently better than an u/sound scan to check everything is clear. I'll then get a FU appoint .... and by that stage I bet it will be April and I can look at TTC again.

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