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Hi (big wave)
So you clicked on here because you were looking for me (I'm flattered!) or the title seemed interesting!
I'm aware it doesn't really explain anything but we are bunch of lovely ladies all TTC and going ever so slightly crazy with it! For more info see our original thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2412386-TTC-anxious-over-early-pregnancy-possible-symptoms?msgid=56357000#56357000

And our most recent thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2531973-Christmas-is-here-but-its-not-the-turkey-thats-getting-basted-with-symptoms-to-spot-and-festive-cheer-Prty-and-the-gang-are-getting-BFPS-this-year?pg=39&order=

We are symptoms spotters extraordinaire - you name it we've had it, real and/or imagined
We are here to help, we are all supportive, we laugh, rant, cry, joke, rage, smile, and comfort together. Be you a lurker or poster (established or new) then you are very welcome here. We only have a few rules:

1. No judgement - we all lead different lives and have different standards and that is fine. You wanna get wasted everyday of TWW, that's fine. You wanna abstain completely, that's fine. We need support, not judgement.
2. No feeling stupid - we've all had those months where we definitely think we are pg 110% convinced and then AF turns up, don't feel bad about it, it happens. Also we all have different levels of knowledge so no question is stupid apart from the one you don't ask.
3. On this thread there is no such thing as TMI - we are all adults and we all know how miraculous and amazing... and downright disgusting our bodies can be, it's fine. Share what you want, we will not be fazed.
4. This thread is intended for support - both giving and receiving. If someone helps you then please be kind and return that to another TTCer.

So that's it, jump in and FX'd for all of my lovelies xx

I'm on 25mg at the mo which is a fairly low dose. Need to get retested soon though.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. I had some brownish red spotting on Thursday evening which totally floored me, ended up crying and dh skipped watching the footie to sit with me while I dribbled snot over his shoulder.

Went away on Friday only to return today albeit much browner so I'm praying it's just old blood from the bean burrowing in.

Only time will tell. Funny how you spend ages wanting to get the positive test only to then kick off a whole new series of worries!

Was supposed to go to my cousin's baby shower tomorrow but have explained to her sister why i can't go and she was understanding.

Just as an aside I wanted to insert a little apology if I upset anyone by sticking in a picture of the positive test the other week. No one has said I did but I'm feeling a bit reckless for having done so - so much love and hugs to anyone who saw it and wanted to stab me with a chopstick xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

I'm spending the rest of the day eating crisps and looking at furniture for the new house! :)

Hey karry absolutely no offence caused, we are all on this thread hoping and praying to become mothers, hearing some good news brings life to this thread and saves the depressing talks!! If anything it's nice to have someone to ask Q to who has been through it, and I am very pleased for you.... my thyroid was 7 (ideal for pregnancy is below 2) after 2 months of 25mg it reduced to 4.5 however the third doctor I saw said 25mg was a tiny amount and the impact is very low last month it was increased to 50mg and I'm starting to feel the difference, I have read that you should increase your thyroxine dosage when you are pregnant most women have it doubled so might be worth speaking to your consultant again?

My husbands test appointment came through on Tuesday - 17th of August!!!! 1.5 months after it was requested. I'm trying just to relax about it and let the increased dosage take its effect, I've started temperature reading but I keep forgetting to do it in the morning!!!!! It's a babymad themometre what is everyone else using?

I'm back at the clinic on the 18th so I'll ask for a retest then :) 50mg took my level down to 0.47 (!) in a month...so we went to 25mg and it was below 2 at last check. But I wasn't preggo then so you're right I should go back.

I use a highly scientific peppa pig kids thermometer from Superdrug lol. How about sticking it under your pillow? I got quite good at doing it while half asleep!

Good news about the test appointment x

Hi everyone! I'm an old poster, and just checked in to see how everyone's doing... Karry congratulations! I'm hoping the spotting has stopped? I'm just wondering where some of the old/original posters from this thread are, no offence to new posters - welcome to one and all! - just concerned everyone is ok... prty neetie pirsy flowers kitten snowy...ummm, loads more I'm forgetting I'm sure! If any of you are out there, and read this, do say "hi!". Prty especially, as the founding member of this group.
For those of me that remember me, I'm still in the "given up" phase. Just relaxing, seeing what happens, and not worrying about it. The one thing I might do is get any tests I can do, then I just want to let nature take it's course. And if it happens it happens, if not, I am thankful I have been blessed with my DS (now 9).
Ella xx

Hi hippy - lovely to hear from you. I've been quiet for ages - had a bad time recently, lots of baby bombs and have given up really. Went back to doctors and was told I can't have any help as I've got ds so it's been hard to deal with

hippy - being relaxed and going with it sounds like a good way to be. I'm trying to be like that but it's hard. I really do hope for you still.
Yes where are the original members hippy mentioned?!
Sorry if I've missed lots whilst I've been away. Welcome to newbies

Hello Hippy and Kitten. I check in every now and then but very conscious that I don't want to upset anyone by being here so haven't posted in ages. I think of you regularly and always have my fingers crossed for you all... I am truly sorry that so many of you are having a rough ride.

I'm 23 weeks now and harbouring Little Girl Flowers.

Huge hugs to all the original gang - Kitten, Hippy, Glitter, Prty, Snowie, Prisy, Neetie and Bex. Much love and light to you all xxxx

Hi guys still here ..just at end of tww and it's killing me. Very active around ovulation but not sure we have been successfully. But crampy but not too bad . Hope you are all ok xxxx

Hi kitten flowers and neetie! Lovely to hear from you all!

flowers - SO happy for you! It can only be a good thing if one of our numbers got pregnant! It's encouraging for all of us! So lovely it's going to be a girl. I hope you're enjoying your pregnancy. X

kitten I've not been told that by the doctor's yet, even though I have a 9yo son. I went back to the docs recently (have already had my 5 day and 21 day bloods done and they were all fine), and she just said my husband needs to do a sperm analysis before they will do any more, so he's promised he will. I still very much hope for you too, lovely. I said to the doc: "is it really unlikely to happen now it's been two years? And she said "no, not at all". Also, I know this sounds mad, like why hadn't I thought of this at all, but because I'm quite irregular, and my AF comes from 21 days, often between CD21-25 I'm realising that quite often, when it comes at 21 days, we just wouldn't have had sex at the right time. We would have been doing it too late. I know I have a LP of 14 days, so I'm realising we need to try and do all our DTD from CD 5, or even earlier!! We do sometimes do it that early, but I'll often be at the end of a period, and I don't love doing it at that time! Anyway, I digress... So, what I'm trying to say is, it is possible that things could be badly timed. Can you remind me, has the doctor at least done your bloods? Was that all OK? Another encouraging thing, for all of us above 35, apparently fertility rates for those of us over 35, and over 40 are going up hugely. It says the fertility falling off a cliff after 35 is a bit of a myth. Hoorah! See this article, from the Guardian yesterday: www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2016/jul/13/fertility-rate-higher-over-40s-than-under-20s-first-time-since-1947

Neetie ooh, the 2WW is awful! Although I am trying to be relaxed, and not get into the 2WW, I still get anticipation before I'm due. I am literally due any day now. Am on CD25, so I should get it today, or very soon, and it is a horrid wait. On knicker watch, as some of our newbies have Christened it!

Hi and hugs to you all! Xxxxx

Well the bitch arrived yesterday and am feeling shitty and sad...we got to day 28...am beginning to think it will never happen..not sure whether to go back to ovulation sticks or not.. Perhaps we have just left it too late (now 44) either way not a happy bunny at the mo

Hello everyone, I'm back - like others I was having a little break from all things TTC as I was finding things quite tough there, and then I was on holidays and only got back yesterday.

So there is lots to cach up on and I have been reading through all that I've missed, so here goes....

GardenDreamer am I right in thinking you have an appointment today? Hope it all goes well.

Karryk congrats again, hope things are going well for you.

Upthetree I have been using digital OPK's.

MrsFlowers its great to hear from you again, and Little Girl Flowers so cute .

So, I have some updates of my own to make. After my first appointment in the private clinic (just for bloods) I had a little meltdown on the whole TTC thing so DH and I agreed to take a break from it for one month (on another note, after a few very messed up cycles, the month we had the break settled back down again...). In that time we went on our holiday (which was amazing BTW) and AF came while we were away, it was so nice to have an AF which didn't result in me crying for a change. FW was then supposed to be the last couple days of hols with OV expected today. The extreme heat and lack of airconditioning in our hotel over the weekend made DTD almost impossible, but we planned to make up for it yesterday and today. But then yesterday happened....

Yesterday I had my consultation at the private clinic, where they did a scan where able to tell me I had OV'd within the last day or so (a couple days earlier than expected) so thats another month lost. My blood test results were good so apparently I have a healthy egg reserve. The the plan of attack was discussed.

So, there has been something I haven't shared on this page before, but it is very relevant to the attack plan so I am sharing it now. My DH sometimes has trouble 'finishing' when DTD, he can keep going forever (which before TTC was a great thing) but on occasion he has to be finished by hand. This isn't always the case and sometimes he can finish just fine and it is something that has always been there and isn't a psychological linked to TTC (although it is possible that that has exasperated it) and since TTC when it happens we have a handy supply of specimen cups and syringes and basically try our own insemination.

In discussions with the doctor yesterday, he believes this is the problem, that we aren't having enough 'hits' (as he put it) and wants us to try a few cycles of IUI to see if that works.

So thats the plan. I have a planning meeting Friday 12th August, I should be a couple of days into my next cycle then, then from about day 10 on I will be going for daily scans to check on ovulation and its a matter of waiting for the right day.

(Sorry for the incredibly loooong post

Snowy at least it's a step forward and you know what the problem is and can just deal with it - great news :) I was technically due to ovulate yesterday( even tho I'm not ovulating properly) I have not been testing but instead we have been bd everyday for the past week, after dtd when I wiped I saw some red bright blood, never happened before I'm not due on for another 2 weeks so I googled it ...apparently it can be positive as you can bleed during dtd when you are l ovulating due to the lining being thin, no bleeding all night and morning but when I wiped today there was more blood I don't know whether I've just started my period this is all so messed up dh has his sperm test in mid August and we have a follow up on the 22nd (feels like ages) I hope by then I'm preggers and can just chill....if I'm going to be put on a round of clomid I would rather hit begin nhs waiting times are so long!

Yeah TMI am feeling good about the whole thing - I know success rates of these things aren't great but at least things are moving forwards now and there is a plan in place. I am signed up for a 3 cycle round of it, so who knows, maybe my BFP is just 3 cycles away. In the meantime, since we are already out this month, I can focus on just trying to keep myself relaxed and taking my folic acid etc and getting DH to eat loads of bananas .

Waiting on appointments is a bit soul destroying isn't it. I still haven't heard anything from NHS

Hello ladies. Just popping in with some sad news. I had another miscarriage confirmed today

I'm scheduled for an ERPC on Monday. Will probably take some time out and throw myself into the house renovation next month.

Wish you a lovely rest of the week x

Karryk am so sorry to hear that

Ah that's sad karryk...so sorry...
Around ov time now we have gone back on ov sticks again the digital ones though yesterday it said solid smiley but normally that stays there for two days ..am guessing it was wrong though as it was plain circle today...

Karry gutted to hear that 😞 So sorry for you both

MrsFlowers if you still pop in, hope everything is going well with you (lucky devil)

It's been quiet around here lately hasn't it.

Well I took the plunge and went to the GP today. It went really well. I'm booked in for day 3 and 21 bloods and a pelvic ultrasound. Apparently we can get a cycle of IVF on the NHS too so fingers crossed, it's sounding positive I think.

I'm currently three days late which never happens but BFN this morning. If AF doesn't come over the next couple of days I'll have to cancel the blood tests and postpone until September after we're back from holidays so hoping I either get a BFP or she makes an appearance in the next 48 hours!

karryk I don't think we've "met" but I'm sorry to hear your news, it must be awful.

So it was not post dtd bleeding I have in fact started my period, gutted as we were bding daily to try and up or chances I thought I was ovulating .... aF arrived 1.5 weeks early after being 1 month late last cycle I'm just so confused at my cycle

Just dropping in to say...

so sorry to you karryk that must be so so hard. Hugs.
snowy thanks for sharing with us, that was very brave, and must have been hard, but for me, that's why these boards are so good. You can be completely honest, with no real life repercussions. I'm really glad to hear that you have found a solution - IUI could be the solution you need.
TMI sorry about the early showing. Sorry for being out of the loop, but have you spoken to your doc about your irregular cycle?
I'm still in a relaxed, not trying, but hoping place. But TBH, we only did it once this cycle in my fertile window, so I'm not giving myself good chances.
My time for a bit of honesty. As you all may know, I already have a child, a little boy, aged 9 now. I love him SO much, and am so happy to have had him. But my husband and I were only 30 when we had him, not that young really, but we were one of the first of our friends and family to have kids, and I felt very isolated, especially at first. To be honest, as well as the huge love I felt for my DS, I also found it really, really hard. The sleeplessness, the worry, and the isolation I felt. I think that's why we were in no hurry to have number two. I think we would have started to think about it again, but then I got my health/joint problem, which meant that I was on medication for the next 4 years, which I couldn't get pregnant on. Then once I was off, we started trying, but I have still felt quite nervous in some ways about it happening. I'm worried we can't afford it. I'm worried it will flip our life upside down again, after we're finally on a bit of an even keel, and my health is better (touch wood). I was worried for a long time that it would ruin my career, which I care a lot about. But at the same time, I have this huge maternal urge, that is tugging at me. So I feel kind of torn by the whole thing. Then we started trying and it keeps not happening, and every month I feel both hugely disappointed, but also...not relief...but...something. Anyway. I hope it's OK to share this here. My acupuncturist when I saw her (I've stopped now), thought perhaps my indecision was stopping it happening. I'm not sure what I think any more, but I do know that despite my voices of worry, I do want it to happen...
Also, I've been reading up, and what we have, I've discovered, is secondary infertility. I do wonder if it is because of the health issues I had, even though I am "better"!
Anyway, sorry for the huge brain dump!! Thanks for listening/reading...

hippybird it just seems to be the time for the major offloading . You're right, thats the great thing about these boards, there are no real life repercussions. My DH is a very private person and I know that it really annoys him that other people have to know (since my parents are paying for our treatment) our business, whereas I, although am also very private, see the benefit of talking things through with other people (even it is just to give me another outlet so I can keep the full extent of the cray cray away from him).

Another cycle gone and nothing's, strange because I started a week early and bled for 10 DAYS - no idea what is going on with my body and the doctors don't listen to anything I say :( I keep getting brushed off. DH's speed test next week so that to look forward to, doc tells me I'll probably be put on clomid but cannot be prescribed it until I am referred. Such a slow process! It seems such a long time ago that we were excited about beginning to try - received baby bomb yesterday from BF who had only been trying for 2 months absolutely thrilled for her just want to get preggers!

It's so quiet in here no-one seems to be posting any more. Hope you are all ok...Prty you still about hun??

Well after six months of trying to sort my ovulation blood test I finally have a date for them 30th and 1st...feels like we have been waiting for so long to have these done..fingers crossed it is all fine though came on yesterday so this month is out..

Still here...just lurking quietly :)

My bleeding after the erpc has pretty much trickled to nothing so fingers crossed that's that done.

We're not going to try this month. I'm just focusing on drinking lots of water, starting up some gentle exercise and generally getting myself back on track.

My cousin had her little baby girl this morning. I cried a bit yesterday when she went into labour, I was happy for her but sad for me if that makes sense. But today I'm okay - in a strange way I'm finding that celebrating the children of people close to me makes me feel more good than bad. At the moment, anyway. Ask me again in a year if I've had no luck - I might be a tad more bitter and twisted by then x

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine. I'm having an afternoon to myself to do a long overdue face-mask and manicure!

Xx

I'm still here too, just very busy these days studying for an exam this week.

If anyone remembers my TWW coping mechanism of distraction, will I have got the biggest distraction of all now, DH and I are trying to sell our house in order to buy our dream house, so very excited (and a tad apprehensive) about that.

In TTC news, my first cycle of IUI starts this week. From Thursday on I am going for daily scans to monitor my follicles, I also have to do OPK's then when I get a positive I go in the next day for the procedure. Lots of fingers and toes crossed these days