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[PrtyPsn]

Hi (big wave)
So you clicked on here because you were looking for me (I'm flattered!) or the title seemed interesting!
I'm aware it doesn't really explain anything but we are bunch of lovely ladies all TTC and going ever so slightly crazy with it! For more info see our original thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2412386-TTC-anxious-over-early-pregnancy-possible-symptoms?msgid=56357000#56357000

And our most recent thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2531973-Christmas-is-here-but-its-not-the-turkey-thats-getting-basted-with-symptoms-to-spot-and-festive-cheer-Prty-and-the-gang-are-getting-BFPS-this-year?pg=39&order=

We are symptoms spotters extraordinaire - you name it we've had it, real and/or imagined
We are here to help, we are all supportive, we laugh, rant, cry, joke, rage, smile, and comfort together. Be you a lurker or poster (established or new) then you are very welcome here. We only have a few rules:

1. No judgement - we all lead different lives and have different standards and that is fine. You wanna get wasted everyday of TWW, that's fine. You wanna abstain completely, that's fine. We need support, not judgement.
2. No feeling stupid - we've all had those months where we definitely think we are pg 110% convinced and then AF turns up, don't feel bad about it, it happens. Also we all have different levels of knowledge so no question is stupid apart from the one you don't ask.
3. On this thread there is no such thing as TMI - we are all adults and we all know how miraculous and amazing... and downright disgusting our bodies can be, it's fine. Share what you want, we will not be fazed.
4. This thread is intended for support - both giving and receiving. If someone helps you then please be kind and return that to another TTCer.

So that's it, jump in and FX'd for all of my lovelies xx

Babydances you might be testing too early?!

Yes maybe, what test do people recommend?

Clear blue I would say is the best

snowy at least you are on the list. A very kind offer by your mum, I'd be tempted to take it xx
babydance could be too early, if wait a few days and try again, personally I prefer FRER x
Managed to get a GP appointment for late next week to discuss blood results.
I'm sure it's probably nothing but feeling a little anxious as this AFcwas almost identical to the one I had before my late chemical/early mc :/

Thank you, what's FRER?

Prty it is very tempting, especially now I know it will be at least August before I get any further on, then there will be consultations and more testing, so if we do need any treatment I imagine it would be October at least before we are in a position to start. Don't know what to do now TBH, gonna have to think about it a bit

babydance First Response Early Results, pricey but good - I always use cheapies first but the later AF is then the more likely I am to whip out a FRER!
snowy it is a bit of a dilemma, I'd weigh up pros and cons then see what OH thinks x

Snowy, if it was me then I would go for it. Just because you have that consultation privately doesnt mean you are committed to have anything else done privately. Middle of August seems a long time to wait.

Babydances - I would test again but maybe an anovulatory cycle? Or things settlinh down after stopping contraception?

DH is basically leaving the final decision up to me (as always) as he says its my parents money we would be taking. Like me he is reluctant to be taking up their offer as he knows who generous they have been to us in the past and like a typical man he doesn't like to accept money from others, but he also knows that we could never afford it on our own so it is either this or the long wait for the NHS. I think if pushed he would maybe perfer to wait a month or so and then decide, but ultimately he is willing to go with what I decide.

Part of my concern over waiting on NHS is that if, as i suspect it will take to closer to the end of the year to make any real progress, that leaves me in a dodgy position time wise for doing BM for my friend (she is getting married next October). She is aware that we are TTC and we discussed it when she asked me to be BM and she is happy enough that I may end up being pregnant at the wedding, but obviously I don't want to be heavily pregnant or having just had a baby and then be a BM, so at some point I am going to have to take a TTC break to work around that and it would be at the end of this year...... decisions decisions!

Apologies for the long rant there ladies

Thanks everyone. The spotting has now turned into what I can only assume is my period (now day 6 of what was spotting) so I'm presuming that I am out for this month

snowy - rant away - we'll always listen!
In terms of whether you should accept the offer of money or wait for the NHS just go with what you feel most comfortable with. In terms of the bridesmaid thing I would advise against a ttc break for it. I was bridesmaid in January and when I was asked I was worried about maybe recently having had a baby, then worried about a big bump, then worried about a little bump then as it turned out I wasn't even pregnant and it's been and gone. I would have been gutted to have taken a ttc break. I'm sure whatever your situation when the wedding is you can work something out with your friend. Just my advice

baby - sorry to hear af has arrived, look after yourself and think forward to the next cycle

Kitten yeah, am just gonna think about it for a few days and then decide.

Just had the worst pain in my abdomen, like fighting back the tears pain, don't what it is

long time lurker here.

stats:
37
DD1
ttc cycle 5

We've not been trying very hard as these things go. mostly due to DH's long work hours and me being just too lazy (horrible i know). first 3 months of the year we'd DTD like once a fortnight(even more horrible!). anyway, we've stepped up this month a lot in comparison! DTD once every 2 days before and in around ovulation. I'm actually feeling quite rotten today and not sure if it's because......well i dunno?! just feel teary and cranky and pukey and out of patience with DD1 who is 3. ugh. help!

snowy we are always here to listen, lovely xx. I second kitten's not taking a break advice, so many things have passed by where I thought I'd maybe miss them because I was giving birth, then I would be hugely pregnant, then at the stage where people might not be able to tell, then pregnant but nobody would know... now so many of those events have come and gone and I'm still where I was when I started :/ I wouldn't dare miss a month, they are too precious.
Welcome sleeptime I can't believe there's still lurkers kicking around out there (waves to them all) it does only take one time but it might be wise to DTD a little more if you can x

Snowy you sound like such a lovely friend to plan TTC around your friend's wedding! I'm with the others - I'm not sure I could do that.

Sorry about AF baby but maybe it's good that it's come? It was a long cycle and now you can move onto the next one!

Welcome sleep time, when is AF due?

Well it is as much for my benefit as hers to be honest, I know she won't mind either way. That's kind of why I am considering getting the ball rolling by going private, it would mean I have more chance of not having to even worry about it.

I'll wait until AF shows her face next week and then make some decisions

Sounds like a plan Snowy. Hopefully fate will intervene and you won't have to make this decision because you'll be pregnant!!

Well if my weird stomach pains and mental breakdown at work today are anything to go by, then AF is on her way

Honestly the sooner the better, not wanting to be dramatic but each month the odds decrease

Nitty gritty query.. how long does everyone keep their legs crossed after the deed? Lol

We generally DTD in the evening (it's the only time we are ever both at home) so I usually would stay laid down with my hips propped up from we DTD until I go to bed, sometimes it's only half an hour, sometimes it's a couple of hours

lovetropic I tend to lay flat for at least 10 minutes... I've read so many times that legs in the air is a bit of a fallacy and you're better to just lay flat for a bit that, and I'm not built for gymnastics

Due this sunday Pirsy1 Could just be pms lol feeling emotional a lot and DH is away from tomorrw morning till sunday :(

I read the same thing Prty, that yes it does help to counteract the normal effects of gravity, but that it is not necessary for conception. I still do it (although like yourself am not quite able to keep my legs in the air) but it's as much to do with the fact that I like a wee lie down of an evening anyway