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Hi (big wave)
So you clicked on here because you were looking for me (I'm flattered!) or the title seemed interesting!
I'm aware it doesn't really explain anything but we are bunch of lovely ladies all TTC and going ever so slightly crazy with it! For more info see our original thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2412386-TTC-anxious-over-early-pregnancy-possible-symptoms?msgid=56357000#56357000

And our most recent thread here -

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2531973-Christmas-is-here-but-its-not-the-turkey-thats-getting-basted-with-symptoms-to-spot-and-festive-cheer-Prty-and-the-gang-are-getting-BFPS-this-year?pg=39&order=

We are symptoms spotters extraordinaire - you name it we've had it, real and/or imagined
We are here to help, we are all supportive, we laugh, rant, cry, joke, rage, smile, and comfort together. Be you a lurker or poster (established or new) then you are very welcome here. We only have a few rules:

1. No judgement - we all lead different lives and have different standards and that is fine. You wanna get wasted everyday of TWW, that's fine. You wanna abstain completely, that's fine. We need support, not judgement.
2. No feeling stupid - we've all had those months where we definitely think we are pg 110% convinced and then AF turns up, don't feel bad about it, it happens. Also we all have different levels of knowledge so no question is stupid apart from the one you don't ask.
3. On this thread there is no such thing as TMI - we are all adults and we all know how miraculous and amazing... and downright disgusting our bodies can be, it's fine. Share what you want, we will not be fazed.
4. This thread is intended for support - both giving and receiving. If someone helps you then please be kind and return that to another TTCer.

So that's it, jump in and FX'd for all of my lovelies xx

Hi all! Big wave! I've not been posting I know, but lurking still.,

Welcome to all the nwbies! I'm actually an oldie, just not been here all that often.

Stats:
TTC #2 (DS 9YO)
Age: 39 (eek!)
TTC: it's complicated. Had Mirena removed 2 years ago. Have been trying on and off since then. Some months of that time have definitely not been trying, and either not DTD at right time, or not at all if OH was away. But basically, have been trying long enough.
Cycle length 25 days. Ovulate CD 10 or thereabouts.
Currently CD 18.

I won't respond individually, as we all know I'm prone to the long posts , but suffice to say I'm sending hugs and support to all of you on here that are still going through the TTC journey, and I'm crossing my fingers for you that your FW, TWW, Drs appts, hospital apps etc are all going well.

I've basically just taken the last 3 cycles off. For those of you that remember, the last time I got my AF whilst visiting my sister, I just felt like I couldn't take the pressure of it all any more. And so I stopped temping, we've been much less frequent, and deliberately not in my fertile week (although did DTD once this last cycle in FW). To be honest, I'm not sure that it's going to happen for us, and I don't want to waste these years when our DS is growing up (nearly 10!!), and am still relatively young, worrying to a ridiculous extent about something that might not happen. We will obviously carry on DTD unprotected, and who knows... But I am just not going to obsess over it any more.

I will still lurk here, and probably do a check in (long!) post every now and again. Plus, I'm still rooting for you all, especially all you from 3 boards back, like me - prty, Pirsy, snowy, mummybex, neetie, kitten, glitter and any of you I've missed out. Plus all you newbies too of course! This summer I will have been on this thread (inc old boards) for a year. And it's been so great having the support of you all. Sorry, getting a bit sentimental...

Anyway, sorry for ANOTHER long post. Typical, eh? Bet you've not missed that!

prty you deserve a blowout!! Hope you've enjoyed it. I'm crossing my fingers you get the docs sorted, and you can get those second bloods done at the right time!
X

Hi hippy lovely to hear from you.

I'm so upset, had another letter from the hospital and they have rescheduled my appointment to 4th July!!! They have no patient care skills at all.. Rang them and they are just saying they have so many calls about it and they can't do anything!
Anyone know much about paying privately? If we had the tests done private would any treatments need to be paid for privately too?

Just back from a nice relaxing night away with DH and with both of us still dosed with the cold we definitely needed it.

Prty you def deserve a blow out, we all do from time to time.

Glitter the wait for a hospital appointment is almost as infuriating as the TWW, I keep trying to chase it with my GP and he just says once he has sent the letter to the hospital it's out of his hand (I believe him though as he is generally a very helpful man).

FW starts tomorrow, although with both me and DH still ill and we both have very busy weeks ahead, I'm not holding out much hope this time round, but we'll try to DTD as much as we can anyway and just see what happens

So sorry to hear about your appointment glitter it's infuriating that they have had to reschedule already! I'm sure they just hope that people get just get pregnant in the meantime.

In ninja news, AF finally arrived at CD43! Onto cycle 5 for me now! Meah!

Prty you def deserved that wine! I hope you enjoyed it.

Hippy its lovely to hear from you! I wish I could relax and not obsess. I think that is a good strategy. I also dont want to spend the next however many years in a state of misery over TTC.

Ninja sorry about AF!

Poppy that is awful about your appointment. Maybe raise it when you go?

I have the familiar pelvic heaviness that tells me AF is coming. Probably tomorrow - as expected. Think I might have a meltdown this month. Ive been really good but just so sick of it now.

Hi everyone
prty - sorry you're feeling down, a meltdown is totally acceptable, you're right - there is only so many baby bombs and bfns we can take sometimes. Don't feel guilty for the wine etc - you deserve a treat, to be honest I still have alcohol- i can't put my life on hold for something that I don't think will happen for me.
hippy - so lovely to hear from you, I love your epic long posts.
glitter - how infuriating for you.
snowy - good luck for your fw
ninja - sorry about af, onwards and upwards
pirsy - hopefully that feeling doesn't mean af, I know what you mean though, I was thinking before I'm not going to take this month's let down well at all and I'm running out of ways to deal with it

Having a meltdown. This is the worst pmt I've had in a long time. Just screamed at my DH that I hate him. I think TTC has broken me.

Pirsy I'm sure DH won't get too annoyed, he is bound to know how hard this is for you. We all have those cycles that tend to push us over the edge, I seem to have one every 3 months or so. The rest of the time I can cope with the disappointment reasonably well, but every few months or just really hits hard

pirsy - so sorry you're having a bad time lovely. Ttc puts us under so much pressure, it's horrible. Dh and I have had some of our worst rows recently and I believe it's the ttc pressure. You will be okay, like prty said sometimes it hits you more than other times. Try to stay positive, it might not even be pmt, you never know. I totally get the so sick of it thing though - I am too. Big hug for you

hippy a short post just wouldn't suit you
ninja sorry to hear of AF x
pirsy big hugs, the strain of TTC gets the better of all of us sometimes, I'm sure DH understands x
Back to docs today for my day 21 even though it's not my day 21 :/ seeing someone different than day 5 so will explain the whole thing again and see what they say!

Thanks Snowy and Kitten. You're def right about some months it hitting you worse than others. I havent felt this bad since my last meltdown in November. AF is here now anyway. I just feel like 'what is wrong with me?!' and I wish I could just escape from my life for a while and have a break.

Hi, I'm feeling a bit better now. Realise there are plenty of people with more serious things to worry about than me. Gotta hold my head up and keep on going. How did you get on with the nurse Prty?

Fucking abysmal pirsy would you trust a nurses views on women's health when they don't even know what a Mooncup is?!
She disagreed about day 21 - said they guidelines don't say anything about adjusting for cycle length :/ she took my bloods even though I argued that I'm only 3dpo so I reckon those results will be inaccurate...
Everything was normal on day 5 bloods - LH level fine, prolactin fine, no thyroid issues, diabetes or anaemia but my oestrogen was low.
Nurse said she doesn't know what that means... have to try and get in to see my GP when the next lot of bloods are back

Sounds horrendous Prty and she is wrong about the day 21 bloods. Definitely wrong. I think you need to push for referral to a hospital clinic when you speak to the GP or get a different GP surgery. Not sure about the oestrogen level - maybe normal to have lowish oestrogen at the start of a cycle. I wouldn't be too worried.

Hello all

Mind if I join in?? I need somewhere to sit and stuff my face with a virtual chocolate bar while just having a bit (well a lot) of a vent

A bit of info:

Age: 39 (in June, but it's as good as being here...feel a bit fraudulent saying I'm 38!)

History: complex

I was one of those young 'uns that thought I'd be married and with kiddies by 30 tops. Unfortunately, I met loser after loser and it wasn't until the grand age of 37 that I finally met my rather lovely dh (definitely worth the wait). Rewind a couple of years and after my periods went from running like clockwork to totally all over the place, I was diagnosed with a partial transverse vaginal septum . It's a congenital defect which affects 1 in 75,000. Why I couldn't have won the lottery instead I don't know but hey ! Cut a long story short, I had an operation at UCLH to have it removed and then spent a delightful 5 months inserting a variety of plastic dilators into my vaginal canal (as delightful as it sounds) to prevent scar tissue formation.

Back to last year and very happily married . Started ttc. Had a suspected chemical in July '15. A definite chemical in September '15 (at my cousin's hen weekend of all times...spent most of it in the loo) and then got pregnant later that month only to have a mmc in November '15 at around 8 weeks.

I'm now seeing Mr Shehata privately. My GP and others told me to just keep trying but I decided that in view of my age, and just having a hunch that something wasn't right, I went ahead and parted with the moolah. I not only found out about immune system issues but hypothyroidism (which my grump of a GP refuses to treat). I'd always imagined myself to be fairly fit and healthy so it all came as a bit of a shock

We started ttc again this month and I'm just a few days away from af, having had horrid spotting for a fair few days. My abdomen is all bloated and I just know that this isn't the usual pre-period spotting. I haven't got the heart to test again though (had a negative test at 10dpo). So I'm just sitting here being a bit of a mope, waiting impatiently for next month!

Okay, essay over I'm now exiting my pity-party and ready to mingle!!

Well I've had progress at last I put a complaint into the patient liaison at the hospital about having to wait 5 months for the results and they have investigated my case and they have given me an appointment on the 17th may at a different hospital! Finally, so glad it's earlier

Hi karry you're welcome to join us here all the ladies are lovely!!
Sounds like you've been through it abit! Keeping my fingers crossed for you this time, you're not out until AF shows! When are you going to test again?

pirsy I'm not leaving my GPs room until I get some definite action - it's beyond a joke. I'm really unhappy about the day 21 thing and kinda upset that she couldn't even tell me what low oestrogen meant!
karry welcome, my lovely xx you are more than welcome here :) sounds like you've had a rough ride so far, here's hoping things start to ease for you
glitter excellent news!

Thanks, glitter and prty

It's a wonky old road I've been travelling on but I'm cheered up at having found this forum x

Glitter - af is due this Sunday/Monday so I've decided to just sit and wait...unless something drastic happens before then i.e. boobs undergo massive expansion and I just can't help myself

prty sorry it's been difficult with the DR's recently, it's so annoying. Some of the people at the doctors / hospitals have no care at all. I'd definitely sit there until they can tell you what's going on! If there's anything I've learnt it's that you have to complain and say it's just not old enough for any progress at all otherwise they just fob you off and keep you waiting!!

• good enough not old enough!!

Glitter that is brill news! I am so happy for you! Finally moving forward and 17th May is only a few weeks away.

Yes Prty you need to be assertive. Hopefully you will get a good GP. When are you seeing the doctor - have they made you an appointment?

Welcome karry! Sounds like you have had a tough time. Fingers crossed for some good news soon.

and I forgot to say that this forum is the best and had the most supportive group of ladies around