Thread 11 TTC#1. Let the fertile games begin! May the eggs be ever in your favour!

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Symptom spotters, tww - ers, slightly hysterical hormone laden ladies! Regs, lurkers, intermittent posters! Our raison d'etre is 'am I pregnant?'

Thread 11. Welcome one and all!
We do not judge, we enjoy TMI, we i encourage waiting to poas nobody listens and all the grossness you can find from a group of intelligent, articulate ladies.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I have been dubbed the resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

Aw Feefs!! Hugs or bloody flowers cos that's all MN allows!

Hi all! I've been away a few days and have missed loads!

harriet age 29, cycle 2 cd18.
I was midway through my double length fw when OH proposed and we've been discussing whether to put off TTC until we get married so have stopped trying for this cycle. Depending on which app was right it might be too late though!!!

What do you think we shd do? I'd like to have something casual and small either this summer or next. If this summer we'd wait to TTC til afterwards, if next then we'd keep trying and hope the baby was born well before!

Hi everyone & welcome newbies ☺

Also a church school girl. Our head was real old school & refused sex education but was forced to include on to curriculum eventually. Her take was to scare the crap out of us that anything over & above holding a boys hand would lead to impending pregnancy & the deepest fires of hell! I'm sure there was 2 pregnant girls sitting at said lecture and a few more after that. We were left with literally no clue about sex or conception. Guess I was lucky in that it could have open chats with my mum.

choc so sorry to here your sad news. Slapped cheek is more common than we believe. I asked my GP about it during my first pregnancy & she said that just about everyone now a days has immunity due to the amount of vaccinations we receive & it's usually a mild case kids pick up.

Ttc is a long hard emotional road, but a great one to travel when it eventually all comes together. Here's to all the bfp's over the next few months 🙌

iPatches I read your post this morning and you've been on my mind all day. I had an MMC last year at 14 weeks, so I totally empathise with what you're saying. It isn't just the baby you hoped you'd have but it takes all the gloss of the whole process, then and now. In my case getting to 12 weeks seemed like everything was going to be fine, but as my hospital were so busy over the summer my '12 week' scan was actually at 13+4, so I was almost a third of the way through the whole pregnancy before we knew.

Personally (and not to make anyone feel bad about saying it) hearing that it's really common isn't really that helpful , for me anyway. Knowing loads of people are going through the same horrible situation actually made me feel worse!

Especially as it isn't actually that common; overall, miscarriages are high in the first 12 weeks, but so many are so early you might not even know you're having one. I found this website really helpful, to show how unlikely miscarriage is the further along you get.
spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12
To put it in context, once you get towards the end of your 5th week, you've a less than 10% chance of miscarrying.

SO, all in all, happy TTC to everybody, try not to worry about something until you've got something to worry about (so easy to say, but SO hard to do!)

All we can do is try our best and keep our fingers crossed

... and for everything else there's always LOTS of and LOADS of

Firstgo
TTC#1
Cycle 3
Crazy long post-pill cycles!
Cd54 ?11dpo
Gave up on opks at about cd40 then had ewcm in abundance with sensitive boobs followed by right sided cramps 11 days ago.
No symptoms to speak of. Creamy CM today.

It's okay ni you did warn. That poor woman tho.

Harriet I got married in Vegas with 28 of our closet family and friends. Married in a fancy hotel lovely meal and not as expensive as you would think. Best day of my life, can't recommend it highly enough.

I'm okay now not its okay! Bloody autocorrect

We did a half hour lecture on "safe sex" which mainly constituted our PSE Teacher being red and flustered and showing how to roll a condom onto a banana badly which I wouldn't believe if I hadn't seen showing us pictures of horrific cases of genital hepes and syphilis. Other than that we had a "religious" take on it which has scarred me to this day with the videos they showed abortion, hellfire and damnation and a biology lesson with basic line pictures of genitals. I can only hope it's better now!

choc I'm so so sorry for your friend.

Celizabe - thank you for sharing your story. I can't imagine what you have been through.

I agree that "it's really common" and "you can try again" aren't helpful - I don't want to be a statistic and I don't really want to try again, though of course we will. I'm angry and upset and frustrated. I feel like I've had all my hopes built up and then I've just been smacked around the head. It might be "common" - but it still happened. I might be able to "try again" - but this still happened! I know people mean well, and I know that they are trying to offer comfort, but it isn't helpful.

Today is not a good day. OPK are also showing negative when this time "last" cycle I had a positive OPK today.

Just though I would add that slap cheek stops your bone marrow from working. That's why it's dangerous when pregnant.

Ipatches sending you hugs X

Sorry I patches. I didn't mean to offend.

Thoughts to ipatches and all those affected by mc, I have a few friends who had recent experiences, so traumatic.

sucha did another of and a bfn, stark white not even a hint of a squinter! I'm thinking I must be on another longer cycle like my first one so perhaps af will arrive tmrw or Saturday.

So AF is most definitely here, no mistaking it. On to cycle 4 it is.

In desperate need of chocolate and just want to soak in a warm, lush filled bath, but can't until I've come home from taking Miss Moneypenny to puppy class. Crampy and teary.

Cat - you haven't offended me . I know you are just trying to point out the positives. Please don't worry - my post wasn't aimed at you or anyone else on this thread.

I know we can try again. I know it would be worse later in a pregnancy. I know it's common. My doctor and DH keep saying these things. It just doesn't help when you're the one going through it. Kinda like, if you were in a car accident - not hurt, but shaken up - it's not helpful to hear that it could have been worse and that you can get a new car.

Sorry about af pug enjoy 🍷🛁 when you're home

I knew i was distracted last week when AF was unusually late. Just realised several work-things that fell through the net. I'm usually so organised. I'll just have to apologise and make excuses.....

ah b*er.

dubya what's an of please?

Sorry it's AF pug chocolate and wine and blankets / snuggles for you

stark I'm shocked by your religious sex 'education' - that's appalling!

My dog wants snuggles but he's been at my grandparents and he smells like whatever they've had for tea 😷 poor fella will have to wait until daddy's home.

Sorry about af pug but your dog has an awesome name.

ipatches sorry you're feeling shitty I know nothing we can say will help all that much but we're always here to listen when you want to vent.

Our sex ed was basically here's a panty liner and tampon. You will need it for when you bleed. You bleed because eggs. Sex can make you not bleed because eggs. Eggs. It was absolutely diabolical, really. My dm is very approachable on subjects like that, luckily.

Hi all. Got myself a brew and about to catch up
Cd 14 here. Been opking since af stopped. Are anyone elses opks consistently this low? I'm not expecting ov until around day 20 so i'm not expecting a positive yet but my LH seems to have reduced over the last week. Is this normal??

starky sounds like our teachers were of the same mindset! Thankfull now for those articles I read in j-17 mizz & cosmo haha

I've had friends and family suffer mc in both early and later pregnancy. Such a horrible horrible thing to have to suffer. Although they have all gone on to have successful pregnancies they all have told me they will always mourn the loss of the child they never had. I'm glad it's something we talk about bit more about now. Suffering in silence only makes the loss harder to deal with. And places like this were we can chat and be supportive are really important. Hugs to you all ladies ❤

Hi all. Working backwards through the thread...
Stardust yup mine are like this. I'm CD 11 now and hardly any line. Don't get to do mine today until 10pm (at evening class straight from work) but will post a photo of this month. I've been taking EPO this month it doesn't delay o does it? I know it's only early but I had strong ish lines from day 8 the last few cycles.

Jem she means IC I think x

Hi newbies
Blue I'm sorry you've been trying so long. I'm also glad to have another veteran on the thread. You can join me and kwick and whoever else has been going for more than half a year already

cat definitely didn't cause any offence for me either, I was just sharing how I felt.... Mostly to let Ipatches know that I've been I that boat with her. Everyone's well wishes are always taken the way they're meant. Never meant to make you feel awkward at all. Everyone needs the positives pointed out sometimes!! X