Thread 11 TTC#1. Let the fertile games begin! May the eggs be ever in your favour!

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Symptom spotters, tww - ers, slightly hysterical hormone laden ladies! Regs, lurkers, intermittent posters! Our raison d'etre is 'am I pregnant?'

Thread 11. Welcome one and all!
We do not judge, we enjoy TMI, we i encourage waiting to poas nobody listens and all the grossness you can find from a group of intelligent, articulate ladies.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I have been dubbed the resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star loaaaaaads of bfp'ers who keep us positive! We don't have rules, we love a good symptom spot, we try to stay grounded and not be hysterical sometimes we manage it aswell

Just down about TTC. Usually I'm a very happy go lucky sort :)

I feel a lot of pressure from myself. We waited because I wasn't ready and now I am and I just feel like it's all taking so long. I know it's not, but because we've been thinking and talking about it and planning it for so long, it feels like a lifetime. I think I was stupid to think this would be easy.

Everything is hanging on this - where we live, whether we book a holiday, whether we buy a car etc. I even feel like I can't go out for a drink with my mates, though I have decided this month to just carry on as normal with alcohol and food. I am very much a go-getter and don't like leaving anything up to fate so this being out of my control is very, very difficult for me. Plus, we lost the first pregnancy very early on.

DH is horrendously chilled out and supportive, so I kinda love/hate him right now

Brand new here, thought I'd jump right in

Names lesbecky
Age 35
Cycle #2
TTC #1
CD 25
DPO 7

Just 1 week left til POAS and currently still in the sane section.... holding on by the fingertips

Ever
34 already how did this happen
Cycle#3** and counting
CD16
2 dpo

I will not obsess this 2ww, I am pretty sure I will be here for a while...

I have gained weight and now all my work trousers are way too tight. I should try to lose some before eggo finally gets preggo, but too tired and hungry from work.
Jam I had that CM last month and got so excited! But then it was just left overs from OH ammunition. Did you dtd yesterday or day before?
If not maybe good sign?
Lara I see something!

carrying on as normal is fine.
im in cycle 7 now, if i wasn't being normal then id have wasted more than half a year sitting around and waiting.

I have a veiny boob!

Kat - exactly. The advice is basically "act as if you're pregnant" - but a couple could well be TTC for longer than they are actually pregnant. I don't want to be irresponsible but at the same time I don't want to put my life on hold. My social life revolves around eating and drinking - I know I will have to sacrifice this to become a parent. The pressure is already overwhelming. I've also put on weight whilst TTC which hasn't helped my mindset about the whole experience.

Negative OPK today as well. Brilliant.

ipatches I hope you're okay it must be so hard getting back on the ttc train. I know what you mean about it taking over your life, it really does dominate every other thought for me. I don't know if it's much comfort but getting pregnant once does mean you and your oh are fertile - I really hope it happens again soon for you and you have a sticky little pip next time.

Lara wow! Look at that FRER! How beautiful!!!!
Jem fingers crossed for you! 2ww is hell
IPatches I was there last month, not bothered about it anymore and so upset. This is so bloody hard!!!! And waiting is awful. And I havent had a mc so I can't imagine how you feel
Pug no idea! Our bodies are hard to understand. Was it defo red or pink?

Why do my posts go all in bold???

lol miley not you.... put your veiny boobs away ;)
also lol at ammunition.. haha!
yep, exactly, having already got pregnant once is a huge thing, good sign that you can actually do it... I'm sitting over here wondering if its never going to work because i actually can't. which is a horrible feeling.

Thanks everyone. I know it could be worse. We haven't been trying for that long; we clearly can get pregnant (if not stay pregnant), etc etc. Right now it just feels like a really, really long road that I'm stuck half way down with miles of waiting in front of me. I don't have anyone to talk to about it because no one knows we are TTC, except DH and whilst he is supportive, he doesn't view it in the way I do (I bet he's never tested his pee for anything in his life...). He's a "it'll happen when it happens" person. I'm a "I want my own way and I want it right NOW" person. He also didn't really know how to deal with losing the first pregnancy so we've both been through it. Sigh.

I need a project. Any suggestions?!

I'm trying to be positive.

I've decided that if my cycle is going back to being irregular, i get to dtd for a two week period, so there are lots of chances to hit the sweet spot!

as for giving up the booze, I have decided to cut down, but I am not putting everything on hold. I think the best thing to do is to stay calm and reduce stress and enjoy all the attempts!

Each cycle is a brand new start for us to try again!

Can I join?

Age 28, ttc #1, cycle #1.

I'm never ill and got sent home from work today with an awful headache/ migraine. DH keeps asking if I feel sick too, suspect that he thinks it might be an early symptom and that it's got his hopes up. I think I've just had a really stressful week!

IPatches you have the right to feel like this. So what if you have been trying for 3 months instead of a year? What if you know that can actually get pregnant? You are entitled to feel upset and sad about all this. I have never been pregnant / lost a pregnancy so I can't imagine how hard that would be.
I blame the movies and people that play it down. We all knew that part of the story, the pregnancy announcement, but nothing could prepare for the stress and emotions attached to ttc.
Luckily we have this forum. As most of us are not telling people we are ttc
Hugs

patches crochet. A hook and a ball of wool. And then I find something on YouTube to follow the pattern on, stick the TV on something benign in the background and enjoy it with a brew. It takes my mind of stuff without having to actually concentrate, if that makes sense.

Welcome rae

Cycle 3, Cd 2, still feeling positive generally, but feel a lot more battle worn now, less sprint more long distance run I hate running unless something is chasing me my uterus is engaging in a full blown self destruction in order to avenge all the babies I'm not having in 9 months.

I agree with starky, I first took up knitting years ago when I decided to quit smoking

I took up cross-stitch to help with my anxiety issues. Similar experience to Starky i guess, it helps clear my mind.

I also try to go for a walk each weekend with the OH to get some exercise and winter sun.

I'm a part time cross stitcher hep between that and crochet it's definitely helped my anxiety. It's doing something constructive which requires attention but not necessarily a massive amount of concentration. You can pick up and put down at leisure and if you do it wrong, it's easy enough to unpick and restart. Dh constantly asks me why I've got 15 different projects on the go though! Because I got bored, ill come back to it!

Ever definitely red and a bit (tmi, sorry) clotty looking. So fed up of this now. Can feel cramping again, so maybe I got a bit ahead of myself and she'll turn up in full glory later.

I went and did an ic test and opk just in case, ic was a bfn, faint line on the opk. Maybe I should get a FRER? Don't want to waste money though when I'm 99% certain I'm not pregnant.

Ipatches sorry you are feeling low. But as Ever has said, you are entitled to feel sad and upset. This TTC lark is emotionally draining.

Pug I think i was exactly in your situation only 2 days ago. it sucks, but the best thing is to wait and if AF is still pissing about with you take another test. I got to the point where i just wanted to know one way or the other!

I understand how you are feeling.

Hi! I'd like to join in! Been lurking on your threads for the past month but we are now officially ttc so it's time to join.

Age 31
Ttc #1
Cycle #1
Cycle day #4

Have quite long cycles so AF not due until 17th March, might even be later, tend to be 32-38 days so never know when it'll arrive. That'll make for a nice calm 2ww!!

Kat I secretly used a FRER last month for that exact reason.

A new thread and 4 pages?! Ah, slow down!!

Congrats Yvonne (more comments to follow....)

vote 2 for crochet.

feef if you cross it out stark won't see and then you still get a star i promise i won't tell her

pug i am with you. i am completely fed up of the whole thing now. today i can't even be bothered to be stressed about how long its been. just whatever.

Sorry your feeling low ipatches I second knitting