BFP and posh dinner

[BFPickle]

I'm having dinner with large group of friends tonight at a fancy-pants restaurant in London. It is a tasting menu and everyone has the same thing, you can't order separately. It was booked months ago.

I got a BFP this morning and have called the restaurant and they can do me a special menu but having different food to everyone else would out me immediately. They can't tell me the menu in advance either. I can't make up an excuse and not go because there is a £100 fee. I have had miscarriages in the past and REALLY don't want everyone to know. How the fuck am I going to manage this one??

DH and I went and had a tasting menu this weekend, I'm 22 weeks pregnant. I had pate, shellfish and rare venison. It was bloody delicious and I'm fine :)

Glad you enjoyed your meal OP. I found that after I'd had recurrent miscarriages (in which I had been the epitome of a perfect pregnant woman) I got a lot more relaxed about it all - on the basis that I'd done everything right before and still not had a viable pregnancy. It's very difficult to shift one which is working out, and there's nothing you can do if it isn't - so try and take some of the responsibility off yourself (whilst being healthy, of course!).

Listeria yummy!

Not wanting to get into a bun fight, but there are fewer than 200 cases of listeria reported every year in the UK. I'm equally as likely to get hit by a car while I'm walking around but no one is telling me to stay in my house the whole pregnancy...

Glad you enjoyed the food...
Sounds like you are very early in pregnancy so it's ok as from what I understand the very early embryo is a self contained little unit and isn't yet taking nutrition from you. (Says the woman who was blind drunk about 7 days after conception)
Also it's worth understanding why certain foods are on those lists - it's not that they themselves are harmful or that they automatically contain bacteria like listeria and salmonella. It's just that there is a risk. I prefer to consider each item individually - as I understand the lion mark now guarantees the safety of eggs yet pregnancy lists haven't been updated and knowing the risk averse nature of medical professionals I suspect they never will be - just in case someone buys a non lion stamped egg....