27 and TTC - thought of as too young?

[BergamotMouse]

Have been with DH for 8 years, recently married and we have decided to start TTC in December. I feel I have been ready to start a family for several years already - we are in a stable position (own house, secure jobs).

What worries me is that other will think we are too young - mainly colleagues (who mostly seem to have children mid thirties. My boss is extremely career driven and I think sees me as being of the same mindset) and DH family who often tell us to enjoy our youth.

I know that I shouldn't concern myself with the opinion of others and do what is right for us but did anyone feel the same when starting to TTC? What opinions did you get when telling people you were pregnant?

Don't worry what anyone else thinks. If you are ready then go for it- you're hardly a teenager.
I had Dd at 27 and DS recently at 29 1/2. Slightly younger than mum friends but doesn't make a jot of difference to friendships and I don't feel ive missed out on anything.

I had my first at 27. An older colleague of mine had her first at 27 too (30 odd years ago) and said they treated her as though she was a geriatric! Just live your life and enjoy it!

I'm not really worried about it but it has played on my mind a little. Probably just now we've set a date it's all becoming real. Very excited really. At least I guess no one will ever say anything to our face!

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks_ my DH and I started trying last year and we wish we hadn't waited so long. I'm twenty five & still not pregnant (nor am I likely to be within the next year or so). It's your life, it's your choice.

Too young to ttc, at 27? That's just crazy.

Your colleagues who have all left it till their mid-30s to ttc are really taking a gamble. Everyone's fertility starts to decline from 30 onwards, but this can really seriously affect some people's chances of successfully conceiving and carrying a baby to term - and there's no way of knowing in advance if you might, sadly, be one of them.

You've no reason to wait, so go for it. Good luck!

Go for it! Don't leave it too late you never know if you might have any problems conceiving.. Good luck!

I recently had my DS at 27 and I'm in a fairly affluent area, I definitely feel like a young mum compared with the other mums I meet. I wouldn't change anything though. I was lucky enough to meet my DH when I was fairly young and I think maybe that's part of the reason for women having babies later.
I don't really miss my partying ways, it was beginning to get old and boring, and now I'm quite happy with a glass of wine and some crochet!
My career has definitely taken a hit but I think I'm young enough to recover from this.
I haven't really had anybody say anything negative about me being a youngish mum, but I have found it harder to bond with other mums as most of them I meet are just that much older that we don't seem to have so much in common, almost at a different stage in their life.
The benefits of being able to cope with sleep deprivation better, having more energy generally and our parents and my grandparents having an active part in my DSs life, far outweigh the negatives for me

If that's what you want do it! I am the first of my friends but it felt right for us and somebody has got to be first!

It's funny isn't it. We are 28 and going to TTC next year, so will likely be 29 if lucky enough to conceive relatively quickly. My bf took a lot of persuading because he feels very young still. None of our friends have kids yet though they are starting to get married. I am a lawyer and it is almost unheard of for someone my age to get pregnant - as OP said most seem to be mid-30s. I know that is actually fairly old but it seems normal amongst my colleagues, friends and peers in London.

I want to get started because I think it's better for my career to take a hit when I'm more junior, I feel ready now and I want to have lots of energy and for my mum to have time to get to know them. I would have started earlier but it has taken ages to be financially secure. Even though I earn a lot we were only able to afford to buy our 1 bed flat last year because london prices are so insane. If we have this baby soon it will be sleeping in our room for the foreseeable future!

I think when you are ready, at whatever age, you just know and you will make it work for your circumstances.

The only downside for me is that I was earlier than my friends, so I had dd at 26 & my friends are having their first at 30+.

It made mat leave lonely as I struggled to find friends at baby groups.

I started TTC when I was 27 and I'm now 28 and still TTC #1. I'm so glad I started when I did as I don't have a clue how long it will take!

27 is fine! I am worried what people think because we are 22 & 23. Never mind that we have been together for almost 10 years.

There was a thread the other day, someone worrying they were too old at 35!, the perfect age is getting to be very narrow window!

I'm sure people didn't worry like this in the past!

I'm with CS Lewis.
32 years ago, I had my first baby at 28 and thought I was quite old!

Thanks for the replies - I realise that no matter what someone will always have an opinion of too young / too old. My boss once joked 'you can't have a baby before I do' but since she's 37 and single I think I'll ignore that. Anyway - for all I know it could take us years to conceive!
I appreciate all the honest advice!

I started ttc at 27 and it took me six months to conceive, so had my DD just a few weeks before my 29th birthday. I'm 30 now. My best friend also ttc at 27 but has had several miscarriages and is now 6 months pregnant (the furthest she's got) at 30. You just don't know how it's going to go, so if you've got no reason not to delay, don't!

No don't wait if you feel ready, we started TTC at 26 and only now at 31 am I finally pregnant after IVF. It's been hell but I'm so glad we didn't wait longer.

My sister had just had a baby at 28 and has a lot of contemporaries her age having their first babies as well so it's definitely not unheard of. Friends my age have either had their first already around 29/30 or are not in a position to TTC/don't want kids.

I'm TTC #1 now aged 28, and I feel old if anything! I got married at 22. I have a few friends who similarly got married and had kids early: two of them are now 30 with three kids apiece, so if anything I seem like a slow starter.

It doesn't help that I look much younger than 27 - I've just about got past the point of being ID-ed when buying alcohol!

Am now tempted to start TTC before December. Was aiming for September onwards baby but from all your experiences it might be worth getting started sooner than later.

I know what you mean, I frequently get mistaken for a 16 year old!

I feel old TTC now at 30. 27 is the perfect age!

FWIW I think my fertility has declined, it's taken me months so far and still no BFP in sight, 10 years ago I got PG by looking at a pair of dirty underpants on the floor!

I had my DS at 27 and I didn't feel too young at all! He's now 9 months and I think whilst emotionally I probably wouldn't have been ready any younger, physically I might have been better able to cope with the tiredness if I was younger!!!! Crack on :)