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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Newbie Living in fear

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Shannzy · 23/09/2015 00:02

So I just signed up for this because I feel I need to talk to someone. You know school makes it seem like having a baby is the easiest thing in the world and how when we are younger you have to put all these measures in place to stop it. Well I've found out the hard way that pregancy is the hardest thing to do and I'm trying to put on the bravest face but deep down I am crumbling. Me and my partner have been ttc for 7 months now. Saying it out loud it doesn't feel like a long time but my God to me it's an eternity. Months of guessing, waiting, anticipating every little sign my body gives off. I'm going crazy. I don't know how my partner feels about it, he makes passing comments like "why aren't you pregnant yet" I just shrug it off with a retort of "it takes time after coming off the pill" the amount I've said that line you think I would believe it myself. Anyway I just needed to speak to someone who could understand how broken I feel inside. All I've ever wanted was children and now I feel like my worst fears are coming true and that I in fact won't be able to conceive. Every month I truly believe this is the one, and then that ugly AF turns up and p*** on my parade. Anyway can someone please give me some help, advice, guidance anything!? All my mum gave me was maybe it's not the right time and maybe I should just go back on the pill for a bit. Please help me!

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wickedlazy · 23/09/2015 00:13

Have you been using ovulation tests and stuff or just dtd?

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Shannzy · 23/09/2015 00:16

No ovulation kits. Just been using an app on my phone trying to pin point when i would be ovulating. Are they worth getting? My freind said she was using them but getting inconclusive results so I thought not to bother

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wickedlazy · 23/09/2015 01:19

You could give them a try? There's loads of information on here about charting basal body temperature, and checking cervical mucas as signs of ovulation. I've never ttc ds was a surprise but apparently there's loads you can do. I think some say that pregnacy vitamins/suppliments (not sure which in particular) are good to. Someone who knows more will be along soon.

wickedlazy · 23/09/2015 01:22

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Loki17 · 23/09/2015 06:42

It does take time after coming off the pill. It can take a year. If you haven't already, start taking the his and hers conception vitamins. Tell your dh to cut down on drinking and start drinking more water to ensure his swimmers are swimming and remind him the next time he is insensitive that there are two people involved on making a baby. Check you are ovulating with opks. you can buy the cheap ones in wilkos which are just as good. Try and dtd every other day throughout the entire month. The month we conceived dd we did it everyday and I spent 20 minutes with a pillow under my bum. Try to relax. Good luck.

sizethree · 23/09/2015 07:42

I totally second the ovulation predictor kits recommendation.
I had a soul destroying time TTC, first time taking 6 months and ending in a mc, followed by 8 months until next positive test. Sadly that ended in a mc too, but I bought the Clearblue OPK and got pregnant within 2 months the next time and felt a lot more in control and positive during those two cycles.
Honestly TTC is such an emotional journey.
I wish you all the best.

DizzyNorthernBird · 23/09/2015 10:14

op you do realise that it is totally normal for it to take up to a year to get pregnant? It might feel like everyone else is getting pregnant on their first go, but actually when you hear their stories usually there's more to it than that. There's things you can do to maximise your chances each month but even then, it's all down to chance. Stay positive and keep going, it will happen for you!

FattyFishwife · 23/09/2015 20:07

how old are you Shannzy?

sophied1983 · 23/09/2015 20:10

It can all feel so frustrating and confusing but try to stay positive. The stress won't help your state of mind.

The average time is around 6 months - 1 year to conceive.

It will happen...

But I can understand why it's so tough when each month you get your hopes up and then nothing. Plus the symptoms of coming off the Pill resemble pregnancy ones - all those damn hormones!

PM if you want to chat further.

JellyBaby26 · 23/09/2015 20:37

So I felt like you after 3 months and we were dtd constantly when I thought I was fertile..turns out I ovulated late. We got pregnant the month we used OPKs so I recommend them even though it may have been a fluke.

MrsH14 · 23/09/2015 21:42

I could have written this post a few months back. We are now on month 13 of TTC and I'm sorry to say unless you get that BFP it doesn't get any easier. Every month I promise myself I won't get my hopes and every month I do and then AF appears.
The only advice I can give is not to put your life on hold. Don't stop yourself from doing something just because, maybe, you might get pregnant.
We are in the process of getting test. Waiting for the sperm results at the moment and I know my oh is worrying but it is nice to know something is being done.
Sending hugs your way x

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Shannzy · 26/09/2015 20:12

Thank you all. At least I know I'm not alone or going crazy for no reason.

Fattyfishwife - I am 23 years old so I know the Dr won't test me until I've been trying for atleast a year.

It just sucks. I thought the minute I stopped taking that pill I would conceive and yet so far nothing.

And it's so hard to be happy for all my friends who are having babies.

Ordered the cheapy op kits on eBay so hopefully this month I'll test and it could be the one!

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