I need some hope

[chubbocat]

Hi all
I have been trying to conceive for 8 months now,i am temping,using OPK's and having sex when I should be in my cycle. I am 30 and my husband is 45.

I feel like I am never going to have a baby at the moment! is there anyone who has a success story after trying for several long months? and is there anyone who has TTC with an older husband? I need some hope!

Hi

I'm in a similar boat (30 v DH 43).

Anything up to 12 months is considered normal, as awful as that is.

There are a few things you could look into to help - conception vitamins for both of you, cutting out caffeine and alcohol, a healthy diet, light exercise, plenty of water etc, as well as acupuncture or reflexology and a product such as pre seed which allegedly helps during your fertile window (although I've never tried it myself).

Good luck

hi mummybex1985 thank you for your reply, its just frustrating. I have tried preseed, but it hasnt worked.
I think its hard when so many people around me are pregnant/just had babies! its just nice to know its not just me going through this!

Totally feeling the same! For the first while I was turning down nights out, cutting out alcohol and coffee and still nothing happening. I'm trying to relax a bit now. I definately think stress has a major role to play but it's also the hardest factor to control. Fingers crossed it happens for us all soon. It's soo tiring .... Physically and emotionally

This may sound controversial to some ...... but if you've been trying for less than 12 months I'd stop taking your temperature and start just having sex every two to three days. Where I live you wouldn't get a referral to fertility specialists until you'd had sex every 2-3 days for one year.
Take the science out of the picture for a while. Put the sex back in.

Using that method dh and I conceived after ten months. Everyone's situation is different though. Are you TTC your first child?