TTC rollercoaster - BFP now miscarrying

[CloudedLeopard]

Hi everyone,

I thought I'd come and get involved here as TTC is a tough rollercoaster, and I feel now more than ever that I need other women to talk to about it!

Been TTC for 9 months and had our first BFP this weekend, meaning I was just over 4 weeks pregnant. Yesterday started to spot, and now properly bleeding and slight cramps etc. so I am miscarrying. it's really crappy and disappointing, and I don't really know what to do now :(

I did call my GP earlier today who said just wait and see what happens, as its so early. That was before it turned into proper bleeding. I've taken the day off so I can just take it easy, and I've had a a good cry on and off. Still feel low and tearful as we had got so excited about finally getting pregnant. I just didn't know what to do, so I had a biscuit, as though that would somehow stop the bleeding! Mad.

Is there anything I should be doing to look after myself, or do I just treat this like a normal period now? Any practical advice would be really appreciated.

Which main chat thread is good to get started on? They seem huge, can people just jump straight in?

Thanks for any advice!

I haven't been through this before but just wanted to offer a hand to hold. I'm sorry you're going through this, what a shitty thing to happen

I'm really sorry, what a shitty time.

In terms of looking after yourself I think you will have what will feel like a heavy period. Emotionally be kind to yourself.

I think the advice is to make your gp aware so it can go on your record, if, God forbid, you have more than one mc they will do tests for you after 3 losses, hence needing it on your records.

Thanks both of you for the kind messages... I'll try to take it easy but will go back to work tomorrow. I think I can have a quiet day tomorrow, possibly go home early, without having to really say why.

I'll tell the GP and cancel the midwife appt.

Thanks x