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*HELP* ... BFP

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MrsMadMand · 23/11/2006 14:34

ok....deep breath required. Have 4 month old DD and just got BFP result.

Don't know what to think - whether to be pleased or not.

Can I cope with having another baby around the same week DD turns 1??? Just seems SUCH a HUGE thing....

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auntymandy · 23/11/2006 14:35

you will manage.
Good luck!!!
Whats the alternative and can you deal with that?

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MrsMadMand · 23/11/2006 14:42

probably not.

...its just a big shock.

DH and I had been so careful (obviously not careful enough!!!) so this was definitely not planned.

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wishing1 · 23/11/2006 15:15

Just think of the positive points, dd will have a playmate and it's good to have them close in age so they can hang out together later. Mine were all spaced 4 years apart and they were upset that they weren't in school together or highschool together either. Kids also learn faster when there is a sibling to copy, I would give anything now after trying everything for the past 6 months to get a bfp!!!

Chooster · 23/11/2006 15:17

congratulations! You will manage - there's loads of women on here with similar age gaps and they can tell you lots of positives - no jealousy, hopefully playing well together, re-using a lot of things from you first one etc...

Ready · 23/11/2006 15:59

Congratulations!!

MrsMcJnr · 23/11/2006 16:42

Like you name! Congratulations, we have a few sets of friends with children really close together like this and after the first few months when it is really hard no doubt about that, they seem to enjoy it and the kiddies love being so close in age. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

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MrsMadMand · 23/11/2006 17:15

Thanks...seriously wondering how I will cope. I like an easy life!!

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littlepiggie · 24/11/2006 21:02

ds is slightly older, 7 months, and i am about 7 weeks pg, so in a total panic. will be watching for any good advice.

gloriana · 24/11/2006 21:59

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willowcatkin · 24/11/2006 22:11

Congratulations

My two are 17 mths apart, definately not planned that way, but now also 5 and 4 like gloriana's!
I would echo everything she says - it is hard to start with but most definitely worth it.

We get a lie in now at the weekend as they get up and just go off and play - sheer bliss - whereas with a longer age gap friends are still on nappies etc and the kids are not such companions.

Think of all the labour saving things you can - we started the kids watching videos at bedtime rather than books as I found it was impossible for one person to feed a baby and read a book to a toddler at the same time!!! Bath time was always together - we got one of those rigid plastic lie back supports for ds, and used a bouncy chair or car seat in the bathroom lined with a towel to get him out into so I did not have to leave either one alone.

Double buggy also essential - we went for a side by side one which was great once they were a bit older as they could talk and play. Not so good early on tho as dd used to steal ds' dummy - he wailed!

Try and get as much rest as you can during the pg - my two NEVER had a sleep at the same time so my cosy sleeps with baby were no more!

Good luck and have fun

PeachyClair · 24/11/2006 22:41

13.5 weeks between my two

Had HG so the PG / small abby thing wasn't fun BUT it was a good decision- they're close, and that ahs helped in many ways, plus I loved the kudos of two under two LOL! I was quite disappointed when ds1 turned 2 LOL

They're a team, like twins in many ways but as DS1 has SN even more importantly so, iyswim.

Best buys- a sling (so you can put baby 1 in a buggy, baby2 in sling and not have to fuss with a double buggy in small places) and a swing (goodness they rhyme! LOL!) as that can amuse baby2 whilst you and baby 1 get some time together.

Do remember that chances are you'll have gained a lot more experience having already ahd a baby, so a lot o the learning part will be gone- that makes a REAL difference

2ndtime · 25/11/2006 22:24

13.5 weeks Peachy??? Thats a short pregnancy!! LOL

I had Irish twins too .

I cried when I did the test and it came out positive. DD2 was 5 months old at the time. I felt pregnant, but was so sure I wasn't due to BF exclusively and mini pill, so I did the test for peace of mind!!

DH was great and thought it was brilliant, so that helped. (he would say that, his mum had 10 kids in 14 years!}

I can honestly say it was fantastic.
I breast fed DD2 all the way through my pregnancy so didn't have to cart my huge body around to make bottles etc.
DD2 was a dream of a baby and a very easy toddler, so when DD3 arrived and cried for 6 months without drawing breath, that helped loads!!

They are now 6 and 7 and are best buddies.(most of the time)They share clothes, toys, and friends.

If I wanted 2 more babies, I'd have no qualms at all about doing it that way again.

PeachyClair · 26/11/2006 13:00

months LOL, although not much more if you counted the gap between DS's birth and next PG.

You know I knew I did that wrong but couldn't see where..... tsk!

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