What are the implications of having a third????

[Marshmellow]

Dh and i have decided to have a third baby. Been wanting him to want one for so long but now kind of feel a little bit of worry. I feel slightly guilty that my 2 dd's will have to go without as the money has to stretch around further. I also have that 'oh my goodness what if something goes wrong, am i pushing my luck'. Mainly it is the guilt of my youngest no longer being the baby and just the general implications that having a baby means. Just got to the stage where we can go to cinema etc and do more grown up things but at the same time i enjoy it all so much that i just want to do it again. What is having a third really like? Does it break the bank and do the existing 2 suffer?

Im in exactly the same boat.

Tentatively trying for number 3 but worried about money and effect on other 2.

I will read with interest!

It is lovely but very hard work

the other 2 LOVE her

we have been to the cinema twice since she was born 7 months ago, plus we have been out a lot and away to stay with friends etc.

It isn't that earth-shattering tbh

Three is noisy, constant and great fun. Always someone around (seems so quiet now if just 2 in the house). Can't imagine life any other way. We have a scruffy, dirty boy as our third so hardly feel the need to buy him anything new - poor thing gets DS1's 'designer' cast offs or new from Primark.

I keep getting moments of 'yes, why not, go for it' and then i get other moments when i think 'no, stick with 2'. Been doing finances and really would have no spare cash and then feel guilty that i would be depriving my other 2. Also not sure if another baby is subconsciously a way of filling an empty gap when my second starts school full time soon. Not quite sure i know what to do with myself and feel sad that the 'full time' mum bit is over so quickly. Make sense? What will i do with myself? Can't bear to think that these early years are nearly over so quickly and i just want to do it all over again!

i'm having a third and it was veyr much a surprise. although it has been a shock, i do feel my family is more complete with 3. do feel guilty about the other 2 but i'm one of eight so hey ho. i am looking forward to having another baby as they do grow up so so quickly. i'm looking forward to next year to having my little/big family - it does feel more complete.

so GO FOR IT!!!!

think of it like this...
going from 1-2 you increase your work load by 50%

going from 2-3 you only increase it by 33%

The more you have the easier it gets.....in my mind anyway!!

ime if 1 and 2 are still small then it makes a huge difference. Mainly because you can't divide 2 (parents) into 3 very easily, so relaxing moments are out of the window. That said, I hope for another, but not until the little one is at least 3 or 4.

I would say go for it, i have 5 now #6 due in may. The more you have the better it is, yes the money is tight but 1 more mouth to feed does not make that much difference. It is lovely for the other children too, mine still get excited when im pregnant each time.You worry so much less too so enjoy it all more. I had twins first and then #3 when they were 20 months old, then a 23 month age gap, then 2 and a half year gap. It will be about the same this time. A bigger age gap is easier i would say, but not too big or they all want to do diffrent things.

Good luck and do for it

we also have 3......5 years, almost 2 and a 10 week old. all girls. so far so good. oldest is fantastic with the baby and the 2 year old still sees her as a novelty. love it! we've been out a couple of times already ( thanks mum) and most weekends go to the local park on sun am...she finished our family and we're thrilled. moneywise hasn't been bad so far - the two little ones are in cloth, and we have lots of clothes for them as well! didn't need a bigger car or bigger house. and the older 2 certainly haven't suffered since dd3 arrived!

The age gap would be 4.5 years between my youngest and a newborn if i was to conceive imminently. So my 2 would be self sufficient as far as toilet, feeding etc so it wouldn't be as hard as the 19 month age gap was between the 2 i have. I don't want to regret not having but at the same time am fretting about the decision. Feel bad that Disney and such holidays will never happen etc

I have 3 and ttc #4, I love it, it's great to have a big family, having two was a shift but three, naahh just blendid in and they were 3 years apart each. Why don't you take a disney trip and do some things and have another in a few years, enjoy life for a while and then think about it. It has been 13 years since my last and they are ecstatic about us trying for another, they can't wait to babysit! Never too late.

Expecting number 3 in the next few weeks and great to hear that so many have done it and done it well!! I've been stressed about making it a go, but it sounds like it will just be fine. I'm the only one of my friends on #3 and they think I'm brave or crazy or both maybe!

The 3rd preg. has been hard, because I'm running around after the others, but other than I feel more tired than I think I should, its been a pretty easy go... I'm not sure that my hubby would agree because he feels like he has to do much more than usual, but too bad for him!