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Removal of implant doctor basically said no?!

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tvlover1234 · 27/07/2015 18:12

Hi,

Just rang to ask for my implant to be removed. They said I needed a phone consultation with a doctor.

So doctor rang me asked why. I said well a number of things really. Feel like I've put on weight, I've not had any periods which I don't like. She was like that's absolutely brilliant having no period! It's absolutely fine. I said I want to try for children in a year or two Time and worried about no periods etc. She sounded like she wasn't happy about that. Said well you should return to normal a short while after removal blah blah. I said OK well I think I want it removed still and she said well if you hace it removed I would put uou on contraceptive pill for a few months before taking the implant out. Also were not removing implants in August as we're busy as school holidays!

I was like OK I'll think about it.

Like seriously?! Why can't I have no contraception hormones in me. Why can't condoms be enough?! I'm not a child. By the time I want to try for children in 1-2 years I'll be 22/23?! I have my own house. A long term partner. A full time job since I was 16?!

I felt so patronised. I'm really pissed off now. There are all the young teens never worked. On benefits and reproducing like there is no tomorrow. Everyone that I went to school with all have a child or 2 or 3! So why must I be judged?

Sorry for the rant I'm really angry, as you can probably tell lol.

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tvlover1234 · 28/07/2015 07:46

It sounded as if she thought I was ttc now and was attempting to stop me as she said she will put me on the pill for a few months before removal!!

Also I was on the depot for more than 2 years. More like 5 years and she said she was more worried about my fertility than the bone density.

Also.. I would not terminate a child now I am financially steady and have our own house. This year wouldn't be great timing as we want to make the house our own and sort it all out to our taste. However I would not abort my child for that reason. So if it happened in the mean time I'd see it as a blessing not ask for a termination.

I've used contraception since I was 13 ( to control.my periods for first few years) I am.a grown woman. I know what can happen. Hence why I have always been double careful with wearing condoms.constantly plus the implant or depot?? So if I have been that careful for all those years, I'm sure I'm mature enough at nearly 21 to make my own decisions.

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Scoot57 · 28/07/2015 08:52

I had the coil fitted and I explained that I didn't want the hormonal one due to previous experiences with hormones. As soon as it was fitted I knew there was a problem my moods were up and down almost straight away and I knew it I just wanted it out. I went and seen gp who said i would have to wait over a week but if I went to sexual health clinic they could do it straight away. I went an explained but because we had sex 72hours before I was made to take the pill for 7 days as I pointed out surely that was going to make me worse que lots of tears. They didn't believe me when said it was the wrong coil! When I came back to have it removed I had the biggest apology from three nurses who said I had the wrong one in. It took a lot of time to sort and a lot tears for something that I knew was wrong. I do think you would be better off going to health clinic! X

DizzyNorthernBird · 28/07/2015 11:14

OP why don't you just call back in a few months and say that you've been thinking about it and you and your dp have decided to start ttc now due to a change in circumstances? If you aren't planning on ttc just yet then keeping it in for a few more months won't hurt.

BlueKarou · 28/07/2015 11:33

How bizarre. I just called the GP surgery and asked for an appointment with a nurse to have it taken out. They had one nurse in who was qualified to put them in and take them out, so I saw her at the next available appointment and it was taken out without a fuss.

It does make sense that GPs should ensure that their patients know the true full picture before deciding to take it out; which includes dispelling any myths and addressing any concerns. But at the end of the day you should be allowed to have it taken out whenever. You get to decide what birth control method(s) you use, and when you want to change.

nocutsnobuttsnococonuts · 28/07/2015 11:47

I also had issues with the implant - I kept bleeding for a week at a time every other week. this went on for nearly a year yet the doctors kept telling me it would settle down and they wouldn't take it out. so I went to a sexual health clinic and they couldn't believe they refused and took it out within a week. if I have any future contraception issues I will be going back there rather than the doctors.

DizzyNorthernBird · 28/07/2015 15:41

Had similar issues nocuts. Bled every few days for a year and it gave me acne which was affecting my self confidence. The doctor told me I'd settle down but I wasn't prepared to wait and find out, I was spending a fortune on tampax, panty liners and acne skincare products. Told her I wanted it taken out and she did it with no argument. No one should be forced to keep it in if they don't like it. It took ages and a course of antibiotics to get my skin to settle down afterwards. Never again.

expatinscotland · 28/07/2015 15:51

Go to a family planning clinic. Also, even though you consider your partner 'long term', either get married or get legal protection in place before you even think of TTC. This forum is littered with women who never married their children's father who later find themselves screwed, holding nothing but the babies, when the relationship they thought would never end does. In fact it's how a lot of those people you are so scornful of end up on benefits.

chelle792 · 28/07/2015 17:02

I think the issue is more than just refusing to remove the implant.

There's so much pressure put on women to use contraception. I came off hormonal contraception at about the age of 22 as it was playing havoc with my body.

Every time I saw a doctor or nurse for anything they would try to pressure me into something.

I was happy using condoms and taking that risk as I was in a stable, long term relationship.

The nagging didn't stop until I hit 27, tbh

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tvlover1234 · 28/07/2015 20:26

Why should I get married at 20? I think that's a load of rubbish tbh. And I find it offensive how you use 'long term' as if he is not actually long term. How very patronising.

I'm not scornful. I agree with benefits when used corretly, not abused. Which I see it abused far too often.

We have legal documents in place regarding our house. Split 50/50 if we ever part. We are in eachother wills as we were advised to write one when we got our mortgage offer. I think that's very naive of you to say we should get married. I know m a ny happy older couples that aren't and never have been married!

Plus you just really have to have no trust in the other to get married purely for that reason. And for your information although we aren't married yet, we are planning to get married once our house is completely done and we would also like our children to be at our wedding.

Sorry but that comment is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard lmao. Even if we were to split the house would go 50/50 he has a good job so would provide for us and also I have very supportive family!

Anyway moving on.. Implant is coming out on the 12th :-)

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tvlover1234 · 28/07/2015 20:51

We have legal documents in place regarding the house. Thanks for your concern.

Also to out it straight I have no problems with people on benefits if they're genuine and used correctly. I dislike it when they're abused which I see every day.

Implant is booked for removal on the 12th :-)

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expatinscotland · 28/07/2015 22:47

Wow, you sure do find the world very patronising towards you.

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tvlover1234 · 28/07/2015 23:17

Not towards me. Just why would I have to get married right now at my age? For financial reasons? Many older loving couples feel no need to get married. As I said legal documents in place 50/50 if we ever part and I also earn more money than my OH and would have child care. Thank you for your concerns though.

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DizzyNorthernBird · 29/07/2015 07:27

tv I'm not married. I've been with DP for 4 1/2 years, we're obviously ttc and planning to buy a house together in the next year. As it happens we've just got engaged - but tbh I'm not religious and have never been fussed about a wedding day, but it's something DP wants to do. The way I see it, if you're committed you're committed- having children and buying a house together will bond you together and marriage won't make a bit of difference!

DP was married before but left his ex wife........

Being married doesn't give a mother any more protection than anyone else.

You sound very switched on and you know exactly what you want. Well done for getting your appointment booked. Was that through the gum clinic in the end or did you get your Dr to change her mind?

DizzyNorthernBird · 29/07/2015 07:29

Oh forgot to say, I'm one of those older couples who felt no need to get married..... I'm nearly 36.

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tvlover1234 · 29/07/2015 08:07

Thank you dizzy.

Nowadays I'd say a house is more of a commitment than marriage tbh!(how some people treat marriage). Although yes we've discussed marriage and I would like to get married. Especially so my nan could see me get married before she passes away as she's very elderly(90 but going strong!). But we are in no rush really. We have other priorities right now.

I booked through a sequel health clinic is that the same as gum? I've never been to one before I just called them and they booked me in. A lot less hassle :-) x

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tvlover1234 · 29/07/2015 08:08

Sexual ** bloody phone

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DizzyNorthernBird · 29/07/2015 08:19

Yes, sorry, they used to call it gum clinic lol.

pocketsized · 29/07/2015 08:20

I'm nearly 30 and they still try and convince me to go on hormonal contraception every time I go near the Dr's. I'm married, have one DD and although we are not actively TTC right this minute we plan to do so in the near future and would be quite happy if it happened now. My older, male GP seems quite baffled by this....

DizzyNorthernBird · 29/07/2015 08:23

Ps, if you're serious about wanting to wait for ttc , buy a copy of 'taking control of your fertility'. It's a ttc bible, but equally it tells you how to recognise when to avoid having sex as a natural contraception method, which will be useful for you if you're not going to be on any contraception at all.

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tvlover1234 · 29/07/2015 08:23

It's so weird!! Why should shouldythey dictate what you want when you can handle a baby financially anf emotionally, you have a loving home a nd family around you and both would love a baby? It is so bizarre!!

And lol dizzy in work someone called in the clap clinic really loud and I was like oh bloody he'll I've never had to go to one of them before and people were looking at her as if she had to go there. It was quite funny haha

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B7N9orUv · 23/09/2018 20:34

I realise that this is an old thread but this post particularly stood out for me due to its disgraceful content. I am 22 have just bought my second property - financially stable and about to begin my PhD and TTC. I have a Masters in Law and Banking and guess what I’m not even engaged to my partner of five years! 😊 do not ever judge a person on the circumstances that you are unaware of you bigoted idiot. Good luck to all xx

Skimbo12 · 05/03/2021 16:21

What the hell has own house and non benefits got to do with anything god you blame being looked down on your the one whose doing the looking down . Nothing wrong with anyone on benefits . They are exact same as you HUMAN

Skimbo12 · 05/03/2021 16:25

What has benefits got to do with anything so your saying benefits claimants should be treated bad and talks down too then and not working class they should be treated better. Only person looking down judging here darling is you

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