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Nomio230 · 21/06/2015 14:11

We don't care if you obsessively chart, temp & OPK, or just do the deed a couple of times a month. As long as you want a baby & can talk copious amounts of rubbish, this is the place for you. Grin

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HopesUpKnickersDown · 09/07/2015 17:18

Pug!!!!!! Congratulations!!!! So happy for you Grin

Hairstylisttoboris · 09/07/2015 18:13

Have we heard from nomio? Did her phone get eaten by a lion?
nomio hope you are ok.

Mummyofonesofar · 09/07/2015 18:19

I think nomio's phone isn't have been eaten by a passing lion.....

Mummyofonesofar · 09/07/2015 18:19

*must

fififolle · 09/07/2015 18:57

Puuuugsterrrr what fantastic news!! Congratulations! Xx

Nomio230 · 09/07/2015 19:09

Pug!!! Massive congratulations! I hope this one is extra sticky & you sail through the next few months. Smile

Eskimo, I am so sorry the Clomid hasn't worked. I really had high hopes for you. If it is any consolation, my (private) consultant told me that 100mg is the one that the majority of women get pregnant on, so there is still hope. I know it is hard & messes with your head, but don't give up. X

Sorry I worried you all. Basically the appointment was a comnplete disaster. They won't even refer me for IVF until next February, as one of the rules round here is that you have to have been living in the county for a year before & we have only been here 5 months.

I pointed out that this was blatantly unfair, that we had been messed around so much by the last surgery it cost us a year, that we didn't choose to move, but had to as the house was being sold, that we were (wrongly) told to cancel the IVF appointment we had in our old area. I said I was terrified because of my age & that it was seriously affecting my mental health, but no joy.

Also, she wouldn't give me Letrazole, as she says the NHS don't prescribe it for infertility. She also wouldn't do an AMH test, or even give me any more fanny bullets. Plus I have to have another HSG & Dildocam, as my old results will be out of date by then.

I just came home & cried for about 2 hours & since then have been feeling too crap to come back on here. I don't know what to do. If I cant start IVF until Feb, then even if it happened straight away, I would be 39 before I gave birth, which massively increases the risks. Plus I can't wait that long. I need to have a child. I just don't know what to do. It is all so f*ing unfair.

Then just to top it all off, AF arrived earlier.

Sorry for the massive rant, but I feel like I am going crazy.

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Aufwiedersehenpetrarch · 09/07/2015 19:19

Oh nomio I so sorry it was so awful. It really does sound terribly obstructive? Having another hsg and scan might be good though as it will give you a chance to double check that there isn't something the previous people might have missed and that can be treated.
It's rubbish about the nhs not giving letrozole. They do if there is indication that the patient is resistant to clomiphene. I guess if the 100mg doesn't do the trick you can raise it again. Hopefully though it will!
It is awful not having someone sympathetic so I'm really gutted for you that it was miserable.
I presume private ivf is not an option for you?

chopsface · 09/07/2015 19:26

Oh nomio I'm so utterly Fucked off on your behalf Angry

Nomio230 · 09/07/2015 19:28

No, sadly not Auf. We have put all our savings into our house deposit & neither parents are able to help. If it were up to me, I would just buy a cheap apartment & go for IVF, but DH is not keen.

She also told me that if you take Clomid for more than 6 months it increases your risk of Ovarian cancer & I have been on it for 8 months now. I am going to look into it, but am still going to use my next 3 months worth.

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Nomio230 · 09/07/2015 19:28

Thanks chops. Hope you are ok. X

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spinningirl10 · 09/07/2015 19:30

Aufweirder.......oh I can't spell your name!! Have you changed user name?Smile

Nomio, I don't know what to sayHmmHow utterly shite! You've been so messed around . Can you speak to someone higher up the scale? It seems bloody ridiculous! Sending a big hug your way xx

spinningirl10 · 09/07/2015 19:33

I am so shit at being authorative Hmm my students have taken over my living room and comfy sofas and are currently watching tv with all the sky channels whilst I am sat in the kitchen watching the basic tv channels!

MadameLeota · 09/07/2015 19:37

Oh nomio I can't believe it, that is beyond unreasonable! Can you try a different GP?

Nomio230 · 09/07/2015 19:41

This was a specialist. She went & checked with the consultant (her boss) & he said the same thing. I am going to try writing to our local MP, and to some high up NHS people. I doubt it will help, but it is the only thing I can think of.

Spinning, want someone to come & shout at your students? I have a fair bit of rage at the minute!

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megarobotdiscoparty · 09/07/2015 19:47

nomio whaaaaaat??? Oh my love I am fuming on your behalf. What an absolute cock. Is there any way you can get a second opinion? I can't believe that waiting til February is the last word on this. There has to be another option. Can I summon the powers of purdie for some rational advice? Does she still lurk here?

I wish your phone HAD been eaten by a lion now. It would at least be a funny story.

I can only think that this must mean you're going to get your BFP on these next rounds of Clomid. It has to be destiny. It's the only answer.

megarobotdiscoparty · 09/07/2015 19:49

spinning they don't pay you enough for that crap! Let nomio at them!

mummy I'm not a fan of poasing so have been putting it off. Might do one tomorrow.

megarobotdiscoparty · 09/07/2015 19:51

Sorry for x post noms - sounds like you're doing all you can but I just can't believe that's the final word on it. It's just so unfair.

Hope you're ok.

HopesUpKnickersDown · 09/07/2015 19:58

Nomio I'm so sorry it didn't go well ????

HopesUpKnickersDown · 09/07/2015 19:59

Robot fingers crossed for you! Smile

Nomio230 · 09/07/2015 20:03

Thanks guys.

Robot, I feel angry, upset & utterly helpless at the minute.

I think what I will do is just take my Clomid every other month to try & stretch it out. Last time I stopped taking it, I did still ovulate the month after, so am hoping I will this time. I am also going back to the gym to try & get myself healthier again. I need to feel like I have some control over this stupid situation.

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spinningirl10 · 09/07/2015 20:21

Yes Nomio, please please come and shout at them!! There's one girl that is really annoying me......tonight at dinner she got 2 cartons of juice out of the fridge when I put squash and water out for dinner. Juice with breakfast. Same girl puts tv on when she wants. I would never do that in someone else's house!! I know they're supposed to make themselves at home but!!!! They've got huge rooms and they're supposed to be out at the organised evening activities. Obviously I'm making them too comfy here! And you're right Mega, I don't get paid enough!!

Nomio, yes write to your MP and anyone else you can think of. I wish I had some wise words of advice, it's just so wrong. I'm mad on your behalfAngry

megarobotdiscoparty · 09/07/2015 20:33

nomio - top idea on the Clomid every other month. I was feeling panicky about being on my last two cycles until I decided to do the same and feeling much better now. I do think it builds momentum with your ovaries so you should get knock on effects on your months off.

Nomio230 · 09/07/2015 20:44

I love you guys for being so mad on my behalf! Thank you all.

Spinning, that is just plain rude. I would never have dreamed of behaving that way in someone else's house. Still wouldn't, unless they were family. I am on my way round & warming up my best shouting voice!

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Mummyofonesofar · 09/07/2015 20:58

Oh nomio I am so sorry for your shitty appointment! So shit that when they transferred your records they told you to switch to the new clinic and shit that the old clinic wouldn't keep you on. Are you thinking of following in lucie's footsteps? Or is that out of reach too? I guess you're probably too upset to be thinking about a plan but I hope you get something in place. MP is a good idea. The NHS live in fear of MP letters! Great idea on the Clomid - Purdey ov'd on her non Clomid month.

spinnin kick em out your living room!! Are g teenagers meant to wallow in their bedroom anyway?!

mega looking forward to you poas tomorrow!

megarobotdiscoparty · 09/07/2015 21:19

Late entry in the ewcm stretch Olympics - 8cm!!!