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Positive OPK today need a buddy 38-40s

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FlourishingMrs · 22/05/2015 19:44

Hi I am nearly 40, positive opk today,need a TWW buddy

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FlourishingMrs · 06/11/2015 21:43

15!!! That makes my ten year gap seem normal. This means I have been a young mum, thirties mum and old mum. All my three children are like only children. Funny how life plans out. I am in Avon, I will look out for baby bond. We booked the local private hospital.

It's strange not peeing on a stick. I am thinking of getting the clearblue digital for fun.

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Fridgedooropen · 08/11/2015 08:24

Flourishing Congratulations! How are you feeling now? Your DH must be really excited.

Thanks for asking about me ladies. I've been getting on with stuff ok but feel a bit bruised. Saw a gorgeous squishy newborn in the cafe yesterday and someone at work is just going off on mat leave and had pink and blue balloons all round their desk Envy Fingers crossed we'll all get our turn.

If I count from the day bleeding started I'm now on CD12. But expecting this to be a WTF cycle. Have had a few aches and twinges. On the subject of DTD frequency, in the cycle of the BFP we did it once only Shock on CD14, so I'm not convinced frequency is the thing anymore (DH will be disappointed... Smile)Going to see how timing works out. I have bought more OPKs as I'd just run out Hmm.

bec That's a reassuring gap! I will now have at least 7 years between mine. But I have never been bothered by the 'they'll be like 2 only children' view as I was an only child and had a great childhood. This would be like that would with the added benefit of sibling back up Smile bec I'm based where you come from originally..

FlourishingMrs · 13/11/2015 00:09

Thank you Fridge, I am glad you are keeping strong and positive. Yes your turn will come soon.

Reni, keep the momentum , stock up on the cheap opk.

Bec hope you the hormones have settled.

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XxbecquixX · 22/11/2015 15:55

Hi ladies I'm really devastated to have to write this but I've lost my baby, I went for my nuchal a couple of weeks ago and there was no heartbeat, on top of my utter emotional devastation I nearly died and had to be operated on.
I'm all over the place right now and have no words, this is the 3rd time this has happened to me and doesn't make a difference that I have already given birth each time is like a chainsaw to my heart.
I'm so glad things are going well flourishing, I'm sending positive thoughts through to you xx

FlourishingMrs · 22/11/2015 18:50

OH NOOOO! Xxbec, I am so sorry, this journey is so ruthless, I have a scan tomorrow, 7 week private, I am worried sick as things seem to go wrong more than we think, nearly everyone I know as a miscarriage and two family members suffered still births.

The fact that you have kids already does not reduce the sorrow. stay strong. Have they provided an explanation?

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XxbecquixX · 22/11/2015 20:27

Thank you for your support, the sonographer said that when things go wrong at this later stage it's usually because of an abnormality, it's just so heartbreaking I should be 15weeks this week and instead of finding out if it's a girl or boy I'm grieving.
The world works in such cruel ways sometimes, I know that the only cure for my agony is to hold a baby in my arms and that just seems like a million years away X

FlourishingMrs · 22/11/2015 21:08

Well Bec, take as long as you need, it will take a few months for the hormones to settle, and you will be pregnant soon enough.

Painful I know, but you will get through this too, just put one foot in front of the other and keep going. Perhaps do something you have never done before, how about a holiday somewhere really different...

So sorry

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Fridgedooropen · 22/11/2015 23:02

Bec I am very, very sorry this has happened. I know there are no words that can make it better. Thinking of you anyway. Flowers Hope that your medical recovery is underway even if your head and heart are all over the place. Flowers

XxbecquixX · 23/11/2015 10:21

Thanks so much for your kind words girls, im recovering physically at least, I'm trying to look forward to Crimbo and making it a cozy one for us all, I'm finding things to occupy my mind.
It's strange though as I've started to love my husband again now the hormones have decreased, I usually fall pregnant and go totally off him poor man, i suppose the hormone mist lifting is at least a bit of relief for now.
Xxx

FlourishingMrs · 24/11/2015 20:22

I am glad your are making progress

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FlourishingMrs · 07/12/2015 18:08

Missed miscarriage confirmed today, early scan did not agree with my dates, I was asked to go back after two weeks which was today.d&c offered for tomorrow.

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XxbecquixX · 09/12/2015 20:07

Omg flourishing in so sorry for you my love, I feel desperately for you x

FlourishingMrs · 09/12/2015 22:17

Ah well, perhaps we just need to try again,are your cycles back on track?

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FlourishingMrs · 09/12/2015 22:19

D&C yesterday, went into work today nearly hit someone, which is not like me. I think it's best to take a few days and grieve. I have had no bleeding at all. I hope this is normal.

I am devastated.

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XxbecquixX · 09/12/2015 23:02

Oh honey I hate the fact that I know exactly how you feel, why is life so bloody unfair sometimes?
There are no words, people don't understand, they don't realise that we've lost a part of our future, the plans we've already made in our heads, girl or boy, fair or dark hair, blue or brown eyes, so many things, you start to plan a whole new chapter of your life and you start down a new exciting lovely hopeful path and them wam, everything has changed you've lost so much.

To be honest I'm really struggling, so emotional, crying at the drop of a hat, feeling overwhelmed with the whole situation, also have unfortunately developed a bit of PTSD with regards to the hospital and the thought of ever having a scan again, I also struggled going back into my bathroom as I was obviously haemorrhaging in the evening before I collapsed and kept replaying that in my mind.
I didn't hardly bleed after the D&C at first, it was really light and gradually got a little heavier, mostly brown after the initial red colour, no period as of yet, the brown is virtually gone.
We have (against advice of waiting for a period) slept together once, mostly as I felt like I needed the closeness, but I'm terrified now at the prospect that I might conceive just because of the worry now associated.
After my blood transfusion they said my iron was 68 which apparently is incredibly low, so ive been on the iron tablets and I'm leaning towards the idea of giving it 6 months and trying to get back to a more healthy state before trying again.
I just don't know, it's an impossible situation when your heart and your head are in conflict with each other.

FlourishingMrs · 10/12/2015 22:59

You have had it a lot harder than me, the worst for me was waiting the ten days after initial scan. I think you must get your iron levels up first.please please. I know it's hard because you just want to get pregnant again.

Let's focus on the kids we already have,let's give them the best Christmas ever, whilst we eat our 5 a day, folic/iron tablets. Then next month we can start again.

I have not even had a days bleeding after d&c so now thinking my womb lining is completely thinned out. I should take a pregnancy test to see if the hormones have started living yet. I wish I could ovulate today.

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XxbecquixX · 11/12/2015 09:24

Sounds like a plan xx
Not to mention eating everything else in the house aswell as the iron lol

XxbecquixX · 12/12/2015 19:38

My last blood test came back and I was happy to find out my iron level is now 114, it was a miserly 68 after my ordeal so I feel really happy that it's getting back up there, nearly almost in the healthy bracket and it's only been a couple of weeks.
I had an appointment with the most vile doctor I've ever met who told me there wasn't at cats chance in hell of falling pregnant again as i was severely anaemic and overweight!
I came out of her office in total shock but was more surprised that I left without blood on my hands Lololol I thought god don't I feel bad enough without you taking this opportunity to make me feel extra shite!
She's new and I'm pretty sure she won't be there for long, I would have normally pulled her up about her lack of tact and rudeness but she caught me on a low ebb.
Bleeding has stopped and we have slept together twice, for comfort and closeness, I miss that bond we usually have as I was so concerned about miscarrying we didn't sleep together for my entire 13 week pregnancy or since, so although against advice, I needed him more than I wanted to be sensible.

I've had a few niggles and aches so I'm thinking I might see my monthly's again soon, gotta wait and see, oh and as for the doctor, I came home and baked a chocolate fudge cake for the fambo Lolol

XxbecquixX · 12/12/2015 19:52

Lol

Positive OPK today need a buddy  38-40s
Positive OPK today need a buddy  38-40s
Positive OPK today need a buddy  38-40s
FlourishingMrs · 15/12/2015 21:43

Can I have some of that cake please, got back on the wine this week. Will stop after Christmas or as soon as AF arrives.

I am glad you did not punch the silly doctor.

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