missed miscarriages

[cewt74]

Hi I'm looking for some advice really.

I'm 40 and have just suffered my second miscarriage. The first was last October and I've just found out today that I have suffered my second one. I'm devastated. Going to see my gp next week after second scan to see if I can have any tests or anything to see if they can find out why this is happening. I must say I have a very healthy 19 month old.

My real question is has anyone suffered anything like this at 40 and went on to have a healthy pregnancy. We would like to try again when my periods go back to normal but I'm also terrified of it happening again. Any experiences would be gratefully accepted . I really don't want to to think that that's it I've only just turned 40.

Sorry for such a whinge.

I hope someone comes along soon with a positive story for you, but for me I found that age 40 was my cutoff. I had two children in my late 30's, and then an early miscarriage, my last child when I had just turned 40. After that 12 more miscarriages (varied from early to late first trimester).

So for me, turning 40 was a big change in my fertility. I had plenty of testing to see if any other cause could be found.

I know plenty of women have children during their 40's, it was just not to be for me. I hope you are one of the lucky ones.

Oh heavens I'm watching this in the hope of positive stories now I had a miscarriage at just before 15 weeks in January and an early (chemical?) miscarriage a week ago. I'm 40 and have 4 DC that I had between the ages of 22 and 28. I've read lots and lots of stories of women going on to have successful pregnancies at 40 and over and hope some of them come along with their stories soon!

I had a missed miscarriage in 1996. (my 2nd pregnancy) I went for my dating scan at 14 weeks to find the foetus had died a week earlier.

I had to wait a couple of days, to go into hopsital to have labour induced via pessaries. I had a 14 hour labour and delivered my baby...they took 'it' away to do tests to check there was no congenital abnormality 9there wasnt) and i also asked them to see if they could tell if it was a boy or girl, as the external genitalia hadnt formed yet. (it was a girl we named aimee-louise)

anyways...onto the positive news

I then went on to have a DD in 1997 (1 year and 2 days later), a DS in 1999, a DS in 2003 and a DS in 2009.

Ive just had a missed miscarriage in the form of a blighted ovum (hate hate HATE that term!!) I was officially 8 +4, but the embryo stopped developing at 5 weeks or less) and had an ERPC on friday just gone.

so im currently waiting for my bloody discharge (sorry TMI) to settle before embarking on the quest for (live) child #6

oohh i nearly forgot, Im 44 now :)

I asked if it was likely that all my eggs were useless (blighted ovum is fertilisation of an egg that contains NO dna from mum) and likely to be....empty.

the nurse in the BEP clinic told me that blighted ova can happen to anyone of childbearing age, regardless of age, weight etc, so that made me feel heaps better

Hello,
I'm so sorry you've had such a bad time.
Just wanted to say I've recently been reading up as have my dating scan Thurs and am really scared of mmc. Read a study with 17,000 women and they concluded a higher risk over 35 BUT it only went to 6% i think by the 12 week scan for the older group AND a previous mc did not predict a future one (after controlling for age). So take home msg is you have been really really unlucky, but just because you miscarried previously your chances are still good and you are not more likely to mc with a history.

Good luck and keep the faith!

Hi, I'm sorry for those who have suffered losses too, but just to share my positive story, I am currently lying on my bed feeding ds2 who is 6 months old, I'm now 43.

I had ds1 aged 35, then dd aged 37, both normal pregnancies and deliveries, both overdue 11/5 days. I happily fell pregnant again at 40, and was devastated at the scan to find no heart beat. Went on to have ERPC. We didn't actively ttc from then on but hoped it might happen with a cut off point if it didn't.

Amazingly I was pg last feb, all well at scan and a good pregnancy again, but I had a couple of small bleeds towards the end and ds2 arrived 36.5 weeks. Because I had previously had two healthy pregnancies it had never crossed my mind anything would go wrong when I suffered the mmc perhaps I was more naive about the age. But I received excellent care and extra monitoring towards the end when it was needed.

Ds2 is perfect and no problems, other than the inevitable lack of sleep...
Hope that helps x