Baby number 3

[Rbewilson]

Hi everyone,
I wondered if anyone had any advice or has been through something similar.
In June last year I had our first baby girl, I fell pregnant again (not planned) and baby number 2 was due at the end of this month. In January I was involved in a major car accident and a few days later I went into premature labour, devastatingly our baby boy died shortly after birth.
Initially my husband and I said we wouldn't have anymore children, I think this is maybe a natural reaction and maybe one many people feel after losing a child, whatever the circumstances.

Lucas not being here is horrible, I can't explain how it feels to feel as though part of you is missing.
I have began to have feelings of wanting to have another baby, I'm worried people will think I want to replace Lucas, he will never be replaced he will alway be our second born, and so special to us, but I feel like my family isn't complete and I have this feeling inside of me that just wants to be pregnant and have another baby.
I'm worried to talk to my husband about it, I don't want to annoy him, or upset him, and I'm worried he will say no.
Just wondered if anyone was able t provide me with any advice as I'm feeling a bit alone and unsure what to do.
Thank you in advance
Rebecca

I don't think anyone could possibly think you are trying to replace the son you lost. You have been through a hugely traumatic experience and I'm sure you'll never forget your little boy. This would be a different child. And possibly one you might have had anyway if Lucas had lived. You dh may not be there yet though so I would tread carefully with his feelings. It is very soon. Your dd is not yet even 1 yrs old. I think you will go on to have more children but try not to panic too much about doing it immediately. Maybe ask your dh if he sometimes thinks about having more children in the future and take it from there.