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[newbie349]

Hi,
I'm new here and not too sure how to say this.
Basically I have a really weird feeling that I could be pregnant, I am not on any contraception and me and my partner do not use protection. But I've had quite a few symptoms such as bloated stomach and cramping, waves of nausea, extremely sore/sensitive/slightly itchy breasts, dizziness and light headedness.
My period is due in 7 days, although things are getting very painful for me and I wanted to get an answer, so I did a pregnancy test tonight (it was a 25ml hcg one) and it came up negative.
Now I am very very confused as to what my body is playing at, or whether I have just been too impatient and taken a test too early.
Any advice and experience would be nice. :) Thankyou in advance.

Hi newbie,

It is probably far, far too early to be testing with any reliability no matter how sensitive the test is. you may just have to brave it out a few more days and test closer to the date your period is due. if that date comes and goes and you are still getting negative tests (but no period) keep testing every other day. if you want to get cheap home pregnancy tests (instead of seeing on a fiver each time) try asda, poundland, amazon and eBay- you can get little test strips you dip into the urine (first wee of the day is most concentrated so most people use this for pregnancy tests).On the online shops you can get 10s at a time for less than a few quid.

you've not said how long a normal cycle for you is but typically 7 days before you are due is too early to detect any potential pregnancy, it may just be that you have got a bug that's going round. you haven't said about whether or not being pregnant would be a good thing or not (you don't have to share) but you have said you aren't using any contraception, is there a reason for this? if you are trying for a baby then please come join a ttc (trying to conceive) thread. if that is not the case then I hope things resolve themselves in a way that you are happy with and/or you reconsider not using any protection in future to avoid this stress for yourself.

if you want to ask any questions please do, I've hung around here for a while trying to get pregnant, and in doing so have learnt quite a lot that I didn't before, and have appreciated people answering my questions for me, so if I can help I'll be glad to.

Hi, thankyou for your comment.

To be honest I would love to be pregnant, but my partner really wouldn't aprove of it at this time in our life together. But we've always said that if it happens, then it happens. Also; I was on the depo injections until my doctor messed things up and I was a month late for my next one so they wouldn't give me it. So I had decided that I would wait for my body to get back to normal i.e get my period, and then I would try the pill. But I had forgotten that my period had come as it isn't in my head yet as I am not used to it. Me and my OH don't use protection as we are both allergic to condoms. But I have always been on contraception so it is normal for us not to use any, we just kind of forgot.

Hi newbie,

That makes sense with deposits and drs appointments. It must be a nuisance being allergic to condoms (only thing I can use as I don't react well to hormonal contraceptives). Have you tried non latex ones (just for emergencies). I'm just being nosy now do you think you'll manage to stay sane until you know for sure? have you seen the term tww around here? it mean two week wait, ie the time between ovulation and taking an accurate test, becomes a bit of an obsession regardless of the circumstances, waiting for your period to show up. It is especially annoying that the symptoms of very early pregnancy and pre- period are very similar (sore boobs etc), you may just be extra hormone-y this time round due to missing your injection.

if you really really can't wait apparently superdrug tests are v sensitive, and first response early result too. They can be done a day or two before you would be due your period. just remember that an early negative does not mean you are not pregnant (it may be +be if you retest after a few days) BUT an early positive usual is definitive.

Best of luck, I hope your wait isn't too torturous.

*depo, not deposits

I really think you and your partner need to have a sensible conversation about contraception. Having a baby should be a choice and just by not using contraception he is not consenting to a child, although he is equally responsible for using contraception.

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Hi Buttercups,

We have tried non latex ones yes, it still didn't help and we were still both in agony:') I think that I will manage to stay sane... Maybe. haha! Hopefully if I just put my mind on my job every day things will make me more calm. :')

Thankyou for your advice. :)

Hi Butterchunks,

So abit of an update for you. All yesterday at work I had a weird achy feeling in my pelvis, it was a kind of growing pain if that makes sense? Then last night I started spotting a bit, but it was only every time I wiped. It started again this morning and I got a few blobs on my underwear. I have just been to the bathroom and the brown has stopped, I have a very, very faint growing pain feeling in my abdomen, its not too bad, it isn't catching my attention, sooo. The funny thing is, there is barely anything on the paper when I wipe, but there is a little tiny bit of light pink on there.

Any advice you could give to me at all please? :)

Hi Newbie,

Do you have any idea how many days past ovulation you are? If you havent been monitoring this kind of thing you probably will only have a vague idea. The reason I ask is that some women report something called an implantation bleed, usually 7-10 days after ov ish (off the top of my head). This is where a fertilized egg burrows into the lining of the uterus, this can sometimes cause a small bleed. That is not to say this is a sign of you being preggers, it may just be that af is playing silly beggers this month . Loads of women on the TTC boards report suspected implantation bleeds but arent pregnant that month so Im not telling you this to say "yes, you are with child" as if it is definitive sign, more just a reassurance that if you do end up being pregnant then there wasnt something wrong). There are also a lot of women who spot every month in the days before af so it doesnt mean anything sinister, its likely they just notice it more when frantically checking their ladybits for signs 24/7.

We could look at your cycle stats, figure out how many days past ovulation you might be (although without you monitoring ov this would be an educated guess), look at which days your had sex on etc. and then speculated over these symptoms BUT the only way you will know is to wait it out. If you can get a load of cheap pregnancy tests eg groceries.asda.com/asda-webstore/landing/home.shtml#/product/910001019176 pee away and keep testing until you either get your period or you get a line. If not then you will just have to wait until your expected period date.

Have you discussed your worries with your partner or are you waiting until you know one way or another? Only a few more days to go

I am about 9dpo now. As of today I am about 4 days off of my period.

No I have not spoken to my partner about all of this as I want to know before I tell him anything.

My breasts are killing me today, really sensitive and tender. I've got a horrible feeling that this won't be a pregnancy, but I guess I'll have to wait until the 27th to see if my period comes. :)

Just an update- Any signs of blood or spotting has stopped now. My breasts are killing me and I get occasional tugs and pulls on my stomach during a cramp.
Still not sure on what's happening yet. :)

any news? have you retested yet newbie?