4 months ttc no 2. Mild panick starting to set in

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I know that it isn't a long time in the great scheme of things but it has took me by surprise.

It wasn't an easy road to my first child (I had two mc's first) but I never struggled to conceive. So I just stupidly expected the conception bit at least to be easy. Now starting to regret waiting to try. It isn't helping that a lots of my close friends are all getting pregnant.

People keep telling me I am probably trying to hard. This infuriates me. How else am I supposed to make a baby?! I think I need a slap!

You don't need a slap but 4 months really isn't very long at all. It must be very irritating saying you are trying to hard, however that is exactly what a fertility expert told my friend!

Can you give yourself a couple of months "off" and try and relax for a while, maybe have a weekend away? You know you are able to get pregnant and carry a baby so I hope it happens for you soon :)

Come join a few of us here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2343230-TTC-2-would-anyone-like-to-share-the-journey there's a few of us ttc our second and we've all been at it different amounts of time. It's a nice quiet little thread if you want some company and support.

Hi - I could have written your post. Had two early mcs before my DS (20m) and have been TTC our second about 4 months. I know 4 months is nothing, but I've always fallen pregnant within a month or two so it seems like forever and I'm already feeling resigned to this not working. Which I realise is ridiculous, but there you go.

My cycles have been odd, as well, with irregular bleeding and short luteal phase, so have already been referred to gyn consultant by my very understanding GP. Am hoping it's not perimenopause (I'm 38). My GP reckons there's nothing to worry about, though, and says cycles and ability to conceive easily can both change entirely after giving birth and breastfeeding. Fingers crossed.

And fingers crossed for you, too. Know just where you're coming from!

It just isn't in my personality to have a few months off as I know I would be kidding myself and still trying. Do need to try and relax I think. It isn't helping that we have a long term house guest since Christmas which is killing the spontaneity somewhat. Maybe a bit of time away is on the cards. Hoping the hose guest will move out in he next month or so.

Thanks cuppa will have a little look.

Beans - my cycles have altered too. They have gone from every 35 days on the dot to between every 26 and 29 days. Starting to even out at 27 days I think. Not sure what this means in terms of fertility but hey at least I have more opportunities to try.

Oh and thankyou for your replies. I just needed to let off a little steam!

Dh is going on the vitamins ( he poo pooed them first) and says he will lay off the booze ( not that he is a big drinker but he has had a few heavy sessions of late) . And I am going to look after myself a bit more too.

Here's hoping it is just a little blip.

Good luck for you bfps too xxxx