Anyone else trying to conceive after first loss to MMC?

[Catinajar]

Hi everyone,

So...I found this week that I had lost my baby to a missed miscarriage. It's been the most traumatic experience of my entire life and it's not one I EVER want to go through again, but after returning home from the hospital today after SMM, I am determined to carry on with life and hopefully get pregnant again as soon as possible.

There is guilt there for wanting to move on so quickly, but there is nothing I would do differently to my first pregnancy...that little thing was so loved for 8 weeks and I protected it as best I could. I've accepted since I heard the silence at my first ultrasound that this wasn't my fault, and that I could be lucky enough for my sticky to be just around the corner.

As much as I want to be here for all those still grieving their little ones (in a way I always will grieve my first), I'd LOVE to hear from those trying to conceive after a first pregnancy loss.

Thankyou to everyone...this place has been a lifeline over the past few days - somewhere just to lurk and know I wasn't alone.

Love and baby dust to everyone,

Gem xxx

Hi Gem,

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a MMC picked up in February when I would have been 8 weeks too. Had it medically managed. It broke my heart.

I've had a period again and have been back in the saddle this week. I don't feel guilty, but I feel scared. I'm feeling hopeful that it will happen eventually but scared of another MC.

I had MMC in December and took 9 weeks for me to get BFN after it with first AF only happening beginning of March so back to ifficially trying!! I was like you and wanted to get back on it ASAP!!!

Hi

Just wanted to let you know im so sorry for your loss hun.
Ive just had a miscarriage this week at between 5 and 6 weeks. Devastated but really want to be able to try again soon and hope it will happen again. i know i will be absolutely scared to death of it happening again as well.
Im still getting my hcg results checked every 2 days atm. they jumped down from 266 to 86 between friday and sunday and im still bleeding.
I just wish the pain and bleeding would stop now and i would like to wait until my next period to try again but it took us 7 months to conceive in first place because i have very irregular periods sometimes up to 80 day cycles so im not holding out much hope of a period returning anytime soon :(

Hi everyone,

I'm so sorry for all of our losses. I'm planning to take a few weeks off work just to try and get my head back on straight.

My doctors haven't checked my hcg levels once even while I was pregnant so I presume they won't want to check while my levels get back to normal. I'll be using HPTs from a couple of weeks down the line to see when I'm testing negative.

Stoatystoat - I completely understand being scared. Forget that - TERRIFIED. I was so scared when I went for my early scan that the sonographer had to stop because I was shaking so violently that she couldn't see a thing. Of course, then I got the 'are you sure about your dates' that we've all heard. We'll be scared now until we get that sticky, I suppose...but we don't have to be forever. Great that you've had AF back at least. It could be any month now :)

Mrsfazruns - That's a long time to wait for AF...did you go to the docs or anything? Has everything returned to normal now? Hope so...and if that's the case then hopefully it won't be too long until you get that beautiful BFP.

Kbbeanie - You could be surprised about your AF returning - is there any specific reason why you have such long cycles? The only thing the doctor DID say to me when I was discharged was that after a miscarriage you are more fertile for a period of time, so to try again as soon as I felt able. I'm like you though - in pain and still bleeding so there's absolutely no way I'm risking infection and cramps trying, even though if it was up to me I wouldn't leave the bedroom during this time off.

Waiting is awful, but I think repeatedly testing with HPT and it reading positive when I know that the baby making it positive has gone will be too hard. I'm going to give it a good 3 weeks before I do that.
xxx

Thanks catinajar .... I did see a doc .... I was in and out of EPAU for weeks and because my HCG was falling (all be it very slowly) they said I just had to wait!!! Was soul destroying!!