Cycle 32 bfn - it's never going to happen

[Notmymuse]

We've had three failed cycles of ivf in that time too.
Dh is totally infertile, we have no chance naturally and barely any chance assisted but I still hope.
I felt right from month one of ttc that it was hopeless and it seems I'm right. I wish I hadn't married dh some days. I might have had the family I wanted if I hadn't.

Everyone says 'it'll happen eventually' but what if it doesn't? As per my original strong gut feeling which I wish I hadn't ignored as it could have saved us £20k in failed fertility treatments. I already know I'll never get pregnant, I know it and yet still keep trying. Bloody human hope.

why is DH infertile? Sorry to hear :(

He is 0% normal forms and really low motility too.

Could you look it a sperm doner?

No idea why. Apparently it's usually hereditary but he has three brothers who all have two or three children apiece so it doesn't seem like it's something that's affected his close family.

Not my muse- I feel your pain, I truly do.

I am on my 8th year of ttc. Some days I still feel it won't happen BUT you need to turn those sad feelings around and get proactive.

What have you tried? What have you done? What can you improve?

Don't give up xxx I have many times but am still fighting.

Can I join in here. My husband has 100% abnormal forms to muse. His count and motility used to be low too. He too supplements (against his will!) which improved count and motility but morphology won't budge. I hadn't heard it was hereditary. My DH has 4 brothers all who have more than 1 child each too. I think it would help if he changed his attitude, ate healthy and lost some weight, but that is like trying to bang my head against a wall. So I certainly can relate to the frustration you feel. I too have tried IVF - 10 time! Doing our last IVF late May as it's the last I can afford. What happened during each of your IVF cycles?

tametortie, blimey, 8 years. Some others have been trying on here a few months and they think that is a long time. I think they have no idea of the torture when they have been TTC 4 years like me. So I can't imagine how 8 must feel. You are amazingly strong to keep fighting. Have you been given any diagnosis or tried any medical intervention?

We are already using donor eggs as mine are knackered and we are having immune tests done next month. Ticking every box!! We can't get pregnant naturally and when I do get pregnant (which I have 3 times after ivf/icsi) I miscarry.

So now starting the immune journey which will probably break our bank!

Geepers tametortie. What a time you've had with all this. After my 4 years of suffering, I just can't imagine my IVF/ICSI finally working only to end in miscarriage. I've looked into immune testing briefly and thought it was just blood tests. Obviously not if it's going to break your bank.