Really confused on what to do :(

[Elizabeth222]

My partner and I really want to have a baby. I've recently been diagnosed with rectocele and have to have surgery in order to repair it. I have been told by the surgen that he won't preform the surgey because I want another child as it can cause a lot of risks and complications, but I'm constantly in agony and I'm still not ready to have one just yet. I'm only 22 and I already have a 2 year old from a previous relationship and her farther no longer wishes to have any involvement with her. I think I'm mainly terrified to have one as I dont want the same happening again but also feel that I'm being rushed into having one now as I really want and need this operation :( plus to top it off he also told me that I would have to have a c-section. This is just all to much for my head to process!! ugh any advice?

I think firstly you need to consider how solid your relationship is with your partner because when you are talking about a hypothetical baby, it's still early enough to ensure its wanted by both its parents and that they are at least believing fully they will stay together forever. If you both want to stay together forever and plan on children in the future, then I think it's ok to consider speeding up the plan to have a baby for these medical reasons.

There are some other possible treatments or interim things you migt be able to do and use for the retro cele. Has the surgeon suggested any of these? It might e worth asking for a referral to a women's health physiotherapist too or going back to the surgeon and asking what can be done to make you comfortable in the meantime.

Yea I definatly want to be with this man forever, and it was his idea to speed it up so that I can have the surgery. He said my only option is surgery due to it being like that for over a year :(