TTC #2 - would anyone like to share the journey?

[CarrotPuff]

All ages and age gaps welcome!

I'm 29, have a 16mo DS, TTC since periods came back in July 2014, had a mc in Jan.

Anyone else?

hey all, how's everyone doing? CD15 here, but feeling quite pessimistic about this month. ewcm seems to have disappeared but no temp rise so pretty sure I haven't ovulated yet, and have no idea if I'm going to this month. have been DTD every day this week but feel like its a bit of a lost cause! I had forgotten the stress and worries of TTC. and seems like everyone I know is pregnant all of a sudden! blargh. just having one of those moody grotty days where feels like it'll never happen...

Totally understand that Marmite! I'm in the same position. Ovulated on cd18 and although dtd most days last week I am pessimistic. Especially if it turns out I have short lp. :(

AFAIK LP doesn't vary, it stays the same. It can be shorter/longer by a day maybe, as sometimes it depends on the time of the day you ovulated. If you've ovulated later, you'll just have longer cycle. But then I'm no expert, this is just something I've read about. Obviously if you have LP issues it might be different.

We DTD yesterday, so should go for it tomorrow again. Except I'm giving blood tomorrow (if they let me) so not sure I'll be up for it. DP might be uncooperative if I demand a shag today

Last month I ovulated on cd16 and bloody witch came on cd26 that is why I said lp is 10 days.
Tomorrow you can eat some steak with broccoli to help new blood and go for it! :)

I didn't know LP didn't vary much carrot, thanks for the info! i'm reasonably confident of when I ov'd last month which would have put my LP at 10 days (so actually AF was not as early as I thought, I just ov'd earlier). Based on that, looking at the last two months I ov'd on CD20 and CD15, today I'm on CD16 so egg must be coming this week sometime (if at all). Bought a new thermometer to do BBT but my temps are all over the place - DD is teething her canines and so her sleep has gone to crap. She sleeps through but wakes up earlier so it was 4.30 at the weekend, 5.30 yesterday and 5am today! no way can I get a consistent temp reading in that case. I got some opks with my new thermometer so going to use that. Tried yesterday and got a negative so going to give tonight a break after mine and DPs four day shagathon.

yes it's quite hard raluca when pessimism kicks in. One thing I found hard last weekend is that both my sister and SIL (on DPs side) are pregnant and due in next few months. It's funny, I saw my sister on Sunday and had no issues with her bump (v excited), no jealousy nothing, didn't even think anything of it. but then came home and popped round to DP's parents and his SIL was there all upduffed and I felt awful. Guess it's different when it's your family! I've only told two friends IRL that me and DP are ttc and neither live close so can't really chat to them about it. also one of them is pregnant herself so don't want to moan at her about ttc as feels a bit mean (she has had a difficult journey ttc so I am really happy for her and don't want to bring her down). Gah, I don't know, maybe it's just hormones

I just think that if I didn't get pregnant this month I'm not sure it will happen in the next few months as my parents move from another town and will stay with us until they find a place for themselves. So there. .. I feel very down today

Hi guys can I join you? I'm 39 and have 9mo DS. Back to work next month. Desperate to try for number 2 despite fact that work will probably freak! So what though. They're all men and they all have families! Anyway. DH and I just started trying - well not not trying anyway! Problem is we haven't been DTD much lately because of babyetc and I don't want him to feel I'm just jumping him all the time now to try for a baby! Other weird thing is that I know which day of my cycle we got pregnant on last time and I've tested with clearblue indicators around that time and nothing. Last time I used clearblue was a while ago and I never got the smiley face at all. Anyone else had these issues and is there a more reliable way to tell if you're ovulating? I heard that you can watch for ...sorry....different discharge x

Hi Putneymummy!
I use cheap opk and temping. Also I am aware of the changes in cm. But that is just me. 37 here and ttc for 3 month following 2 mc. Ds asks every month if baby is on the way so am under pressure from all fronts. I think my patterns have changed since mc so still charting and observing.

Ah - lovely that he wants a sibling but hard to answer every month I imagine. My DH will be asking me slightly hoping for a no I think! I guess mine may have changed since pregnancy so should prob stick with the kits and see what happens!

Hi putney! wow, brave starting ttc when your DS is 9 months! having said that I wish I'd started earlier (my DD is 19 months) because I was ready to start ttc 6 months ago but me and DP held off till he got a new job and we had a bit more money. and now it's taking me a while to get my cycles back to normal after coming off the implant I know what you mean about work. I was worried about screwing over work as I've got work commitments planned for next year already but then I thought screw it, there's never going to be a 'right time' work wise so I'm going for it now.

I would suggest other than opk and temping, check your cervical mucus (sorry, sounds gross) and your cervix position. i've started doing that this month and it was a bit weird the first time I did it but has become the norm. I'm just about to start doing some opk, no idea where I am in my cycle but temping is a bust this month so trying anything at all to pinpoint my cycle!

sorry you're feeling down raluca. FX for you this month and hope it works out for you. otherwise I guess you'll have to try to do some sneaky BDing when your parents aren't around...

Hi all, just checking in after the 2 weeks from hell (work, illness, busy, busy, busy, ect). I'm on CD11 with lots of EWCM, so here it begins again

Sorry, I haven't had the chance to properly read back but fx for everyone in the TWW and good luck to everyone else

Welcome the the new people!

sorry to hear you've had a crappy couple of weeks torfhin

cd20 here and finally got a positive opk this morning. so relieved. keep having to tell myself that ovulating is just one hurdle I've crossed and not to get my hopes up too much for this month!

I'm back from holiday now and on about CD11. Sort of have mixed feelings about the whole TTC thing. On one hand I don't really want to get a BFP immediately, ideally not til the end of the year, and also don't feel particularly ready to be pregnant again with horrendous morning sickness etc, particularly not with a tantrumming toddler!

On the other hand feel so broody when I see a tiny baby, and also can't really help but get caught up in the cycle of hope, symptom spotting and disappointment each month!

Ideally want to just relax, chill out and it to happen in a few months with no stress. Any tips? Haha

Hi ladies. I wondered if I could join your chat? I'm new to this so please forgive me for not using the correct acronyms!

My Husband and I have been ttc #2 for seven months now. I really thought this was the month, but I got my period yesterday. I'm absolutely devastated. I know seven months isn't that long in the scheme of things but everyone I know has conceived either first time or within the first three months. I have so many pregnant friends at the moment (most with their second) and I find it really hard. Obviously I'm really happy for them, but I cry every time someone tells me they're pregnant. I hate feeling like this. My little boy is 2 and I if I got pregnant now he'd be 3 1/2 when the baby was born. That's a bigger age gap than I originally wanted and I'm starting to worry more the bigger it gets. I know he'll be such a good big brother and I'm desperate to give him a sibling. I'm taking pre-conception supplements and so is my husband and I'm also taking Agnus Castus and Evening Primrose oil. We had a pretty good diet any way but now we're eating really well and we've cut right down on caffeine. I've done ovulation tests for the past two months and before that I was using an app and we were just making sure we started dtd about a week before the predicted date and carried on for about a week after. I'm at a complete loss as to what to do now! I've only told one friend what's going on as I think I'd only add pressure to us if I told any other family and friends. Just wanted to speak to people who understand how I feel really and are going through the same thing x

Oh, Lollipop :( I'm sorry to hear you're struggling :(

I'm ttc for the last 3 months, which is also not long at all but we fell preggo with DS after one go! So, I'm blue about the whole damn thing too.

Currently on day 29 of a usually longer cycle but it seems AF arrived Saturday, though not in the usual slow way... slammed right in there with no tummy aches, they've only just started today... all the wrong way round so I'm wishing it was actually an IB... but am sure that's wishful thinking.

The stupid thing is, I know you need to be relaxed and unstressed (if poss) to conceive, but the mere act of ttc prevents me from being that! Sounds like you too :(

sorry to hear you're struggling Lollipop. It's really hard when others are getting pregnant isn't it? A friend of mine has just had #2, my sister is due with #2 in August, my SIL due #1 in September, another friend due #1 in November, not to mention all the facebook posts about pregnancies/births I see all the time! It can be a bit depressing. Can't give you much advice other than to ask if you've been to see a doctor? I'm sure you're fine but if you're over 35 you can see a doctor if you have been ttc for 6 months with no luck (I believe). Having said that, I read recently that even if a couple DTD at the perfect time in the month (i.e. when ovulating), there is still only a 30% chance of getting pregnant! So maybe just a numbers game and eventually just DTD at the right time will get you your BFP. If you know when you are ovulating then I think DTD in the week running up to it is a good strategy.

EmFlat I have also been TTC for last 3 months, and also got pregnant with DD first month so it's been stressful this time round, I know 3 months doesn't sound like a lot but every month hurts that bit more. I never know when I'm ovulating so this month I did opks and temping, got a positive opk on Monday and yesterday/today my temp rose a lot so think I'm in the 2ww now... argh. this month me and DP tried to DTD every day running up to ovulation. unfortunately since I don't know when ovulation is, we ended up DTD about 10 times in 12 days . so now I'm worried we had too much sex and have ruined the chances for this month! next month think I might have to change strategy a bit haha, think I started a bit early this month...

Welcome newbies!

My blood donation went well last week, iron ok, all good

and for everyone struggling.

We started TTC when my periods came back when DS was 8 months... He's 19 months now

I've not had any ovulation signs this month, so no idea where I am at. But I think it could have happened much earlier this cycle, so we shall see... Not testing until next Friday anyway [yawn]

Oh and I've dreamt I had 3 BFPs tonight

Seeing the second pregnancies come round is really hard. Each and every one really hits me :(

Hi everyone, May I join u

I 've just turned 36 years old and my hubby and I are trying to conceive for our first. I have a 9 year old and he has a 13 year old from previous relationship. But not we've been trying for the past 7 years with no luck. i have endomeTriosis but managed to have my son. I used Clomid with no success and I quite. Now my Dr put me on metformin 1000mg and Folic Acid daily to regulate my periods and make me ovulate. But now i added evening primrose oil and guaisefenin syrup twice daily. And a baby aspirin with omega 3, 6 and multivitamins. And i hope this work's for us.

Baby dust to all of us....

Heheh, Marmite, is there such a thing as too much sex when you're trying to conceive?? >_< DH and I dtd every other night (ish) from the end of AF until just before the next one arrived. Not sure whether to do the same again this month... although, we're moving house in 4 weeks so may just leave the ttc until August.

MrsMugoo, is that you??? We were on the March 2014 threads together... I was just thinking of all the gals I chatted to as our babies were arriving and afterwards! I could only remember your name and IceNoSlice :/

How are you?

Well, MrsMugoo, except for the torturous ttc / crushing disappointment of AF arriving this month :(

Same here :( def Flo, not IB and I actually cried.

Hi Emflat yes I remember you from our antenatal thread!
I'm good and so is DS. We're currently under canvas at Glastonbury (somewhat glamping though I have to admit)
I'll be oving here over the weekend so highly doubt we'll be DTD so almost definitely out this month.

heh you're probably right emflat just worried we might have depleted his sperm count a bit! we were DTD every other day past couple of months with no luck, though there were a few nights late in the cycle where I was away/we went two days without sex, so may have missed ov. who knows. we're both a bit knackered from DTD so much recently - must be feeling our age! not young and able to be at it like rabbits anymore haha

mrsmugoo hope you enjoy Glasto! is there a reason you can't DTD there? I'm from Bristol originally and went a lot in my teens/early-mid twenties (about 9 years of glasto overall i think) and loved it, last time I went was two years ago when I was 5 months pregnant with DD! was a bit of a different festival experience haha. not sure we'd go again purely coz can't be arsed with the effort!

Hi Ladies

Can I join? I have a DS who turns 1 next week!!!! Where did that time go?? Husband has been pestering for another baby for last 3 months and I've given in; now or never; had a horrible pregnancy last time a horrific birth and 4th degree tear; should get my period this weekend; although not 100% as not great at remembering to take the pill and stopped taking it completely a couple of weeks ago; last time I came off the pill I was abit all over the place and took agnus cactus to help; really would like to fall quickly (wouldn't we all) as heavily pregnant in summer again doesn't appeal!! Last time I used ovulation sticks and temperature charting but actually fell from getting blind drunk and not remembering we had done it! How romantic so this time I think I'll go with the flow...for now (knowing I'll be an ovulation sex crazed mad woman by the end of the month!) xx

Hope you have a good time, Mrs :) I've only done Glasto once when I was at uni! Remember it being an awesome experience ;)

Who knows, maybe a month of ttc will do us both good? There's a stupid saying that you fall pregnant the moment you stop trying (like you meet someone the moment you stop searching, etc)... which scarily did happen for my sister! 18 months of ov counting etc and she gave up... then my niece arrived 9 months later!

Marmite, I know how you feel! Bloody shattered and relishing the early nights of a week off ;) Although Flo is leaving now so I'll be back on the horse tomorrow - ha, poor hubby!

Hi Curly :) join the ranks of hormone-loopy ladies! ;)