friends being weird

[sophiabella]

Hi all, anyone else have this- my friends don't know we are planning a baby but i did say something about how i'd love to be a mummy and they all looked at me weird n since then have been acting weird. One of my friends said that if i had a baby it would change things and i'd be 'crazy' to get bogged down in all that! I thought my friends would be excited but seems not. Its so upsetting as i'd love to get a positive n now feel like they wont be happy when i do! Anyone else?

I once told my friend that I would disown her if she got pregnant .... I didn't want children at the time and thought anyone who did was mad!!! I meant this comment as a joke but it wasn't untill she fell pregnant and realised I was so excited for her that she asked me why I had said it! She thought I was serious!!! They will be happy for you .... And if they are not .... I would question their friendship xx

Why do you expect your friends to be excited about your choices? You want a bsby, you get on with it. Don't worry about what they think.

If they are your actual friends, then when you do have a baby they will be excited for you like mrsfazruns's and all will be well.

If they are just fair-weather friends who don't particularly care about you as a person but use you as someone to participate in their carefree lifestyle, they will drift away once you enter the world of parenthood as they will have no further use for you. Don't grieve for that - you will have loads of opportunities to make new friends who have similar-aged kids when the time comes, and everything will be ok.

sophiabella, what an odd reaction from your friends! I'm wondering how old you are... perhaps if you are still young, your friends are still into clubbing, maybe they're not on a settled, long-term relationship yet, maybe their careers aren't established yet?