Light periods after stopping pill

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I stopped taking my pill in December and TTC since. I have had really regular periods since but they are so light! The same every time, period pains start on the Sunday night and I don't get it til the Friday. Last for 2-3 days and I can get away with wearing only one pad everyday. Getting worried now, I know it takes time for them to get back to normal but I have had 4 and they were never like this before! Anyone had anything similar with success?

@Hope365 thank you! Yeah I've been taking vitamin E, coq10 and been going gym so hoping it's all helped! I'm sure we are ttc twins! I also ovulated this time on cd20 so provable a 33-34 day cycle for me!

Annoyingly I'm going away with friends for a long weekend next Friday which will be 11dpo, it's such bad timing as I don't know if to drink or not! What would you do?

So glad that everyone is heading in the right direction with appointments and tests etc! I'm still trying to not think about it all too much but of course you know it isn't as easy as that 😅.
@Maisy24 wishing you the best of luck this month, fingers crossed for you!

I wondered if any of you ladies could offer a second opinion on the below OPK test that I took last month. I was certain that it was positive as both lines look the same to me (and I know if one is lighter then it is a negative) but DTD either side of it and still didn't conceive this month. Am I reading it wrong?

@JennaRMD thanks so much! That definitely looks positive to me. As long as you are dtd at least once in the 4 days prior to it then you are in with a chance. However it is a chance, the statistics say there's a 25% chance on a normal cycle for a completely fertile and healthy couple. Don't be disheartened and keep trying, I'm on cycle 15 and since January I've dtd around ovulation every time and still nothing! It's a game of chance!

How long have you been ttc?

@Maisy24 not overly long tbh, been off the pill for just under 6 months and properly TTC for the last 2 months (i.e. Ovulation tests etc). I feel this whole tracking thing is making DTD like a bloody organised event and we have never ever been like that. We are a very spontaneous couple and I feel like it's starting to put a dampener on us just "being together". Our lives are so busy between work and training etc and sometimes it's difficult to even find the time to enjoy each other, now when we do I feel like we have missed a chance or failed whenever we don't conceive and I never wanted it to be like that. I know it is still earlyish for us but just worry that it will never happen (kind of thought it would have happened naturally quite quickly, hence why we have started trying so early on) sigh. Last month we done everything right and still nothing. I wish I could just stop thinking about it but now I know how my body is working and when, I find it hard to be as spontaneous as we were previously 😣. Are you and your OH of similar age or? I feel like I am running out of time but my doctor assures me 27&28 is still young lol.

@Maisy24 no I haven't had the specific day blood tests yet just a general blood tests I guess to check everything looked ok! eeeek will keep everything crossed for you and support as much as possible during the TWW  fingers crossed this is your month!

@Hope365 what a lovely early Christmas present for you! Can't wait to hear all about it!

@JennaRMD
That definitely looks like a positive OPK to me! Do you temp as well or not? I find the type of ovulation tests you buy can completely vary what a positive result looks like! I used to always buy the cheap eBay ones but could never decide if they were positive or not so now I spend a bit more and use an app to tell me if it's positive - takes the guess work out haha xx

@ForeverHopeful67 I bought a temp kit for this month but I think I'm going to try and take a step back this month and try not to obsess about every little thing and just have lots of sex 😂. I'm still going to track my ovulation but that's just because I can't help myself when I know I still have tests lying around. They are just from Amazon but I've read that it's only positive if the linea are pretty much identical and even of one is slightly lighter it's classed as a negative (unlike a pregnancy test). This is the first time I've had one like this (last month) so don't know if that's me just starting to ovulate properly now and maybe last month we were just unlucky.
What app do you use to tell you if they are positive or not?

@JennaRMD 6 months is no time at all. Try and stay positive, it will happen it's just a case of timing!

You are not alone on the DTD problem, conception sex is the absolute worst, I hate the scheduling of it! We were also never like that, and the reason I didn't track anything for 6 months because I wanted it to just happen without trying. I know what you mean about feeling like you've missed your chance if you don't do it.

My DH doesn't have the highest drive so there's no way we could do every other day, if he could then I'd do that as it saves tracking anything and you know you'd always have done it around ovulation.

I'm 31 in December and my husband will be 33 in December, you are definitely still young, but as you say it does feel like times flying by! I was 29 when I came off my pill.

Fingers crossed we get out BFP this month , I'm 3 dpo currently

@Maisy24 I came off the pill at 27 (5 months before I was 28) and thought for sure I'd be pregnant by Xmas. I suppose it's not Xmas yet so will just have to try again this month and see what happens in the new year. As I said before it's not that we are desperate right this second for children but I hate the idea of trying for 3-4 years and becoming that way. I'm quite glad I came off a little earlier tho as it clearly isn't as easy as it's made out to be. My DH is very chilled and laid back (complete opposite from me lol) and nothing is a rush for him it's always "it'll happen when it happens" wish I was more like that. I try not to even tell him when I'm ovulating and just try to pretend I'm feeling extra excited every 2nd week of the month 😂 (no idea how he hasn't clicked yet) just don't want to put pressure on him as well, that's the last thing we need 🤦.
As for your weekend away, you still have to live and enjoy life, if you want to drink then have a few and enjoy yourself, don't have to go overboard but try to have a good time with your friends. That would be my advice anyway, sometimes that's all you need x

Oo hard to keep up with all the messages (but loving having a group to share with)!

@Maisy24 I totally get your worries about your weekend away - I always get a bit anxious when social events happen to fall during the TWW. But @JennaRMD is right that we still need to live life and enjoy ourselves... Do your friends know that you are TTC? And are they the kind of friends who would expect you to drink loads or could you get away with just not drinking that much and it going unnoticed? I tend to have a drink or two but 'discreetly' not drink very much (like drinking really slowly to keep the same drink for a long time)!

@JennaRMD that OPK looks positive to me too, though I'm no expert as I usually get the digital ones which tell me if it's positive or not. I find they work pretty well, but they are more expensive... Hang on in there - you haven't been trying for long and it can take time even for perfectly healthy fertile couples, so hopefully it will happen for you soon!

@ForeverHopeful67 if you're worried you're not ovulating (based on OPKs) you should definitely ask your GP for a day 21 (or whenever you are 7DPO) progesterone test, whilst you wait for your referral. I'm surprised they haven't done this already as it was part of the mandatory testing at my GP in order to get the referral! (Funny how all doctors are completely different...) Would save you time down the line as I imagine it's the first test the fertility clinic would do once you get referred xxx

No idea why there is a bottle emoji in that message! 😂 it was supposed to be a smiley x

@Hope365 I know it's so hard to keep up; I don't think this Mumsnet app is easy to use! Yeah I know what you mean, I'm 11dpo on Friday before I go so I'm tempted to do a test if I don't feel like I'm going to come on by then or have any symptoms!

It will definitely go noticed if I don't drink a lot, I'm always the party animal 🤣 and no one knows we are trying as I didn't want all the questions.

@JennaRMD we're the exact same, if I knew I could conceive I'd probably wait a year or so as I want some more holidays just me and DH and also don't even think I'm ready 🤣 I just worry now because it's not happened. Your DH has the best attitude! I need some of his attitude.

I also used to pretend that I was just in the mood over ovulation, but it's was very obvious because previous to ttc id never initiate anything 🤣 so he was well onto me. Were at the point now where he just says "did you get a smiley" and he knows what to do!
Xxxxxx

@Maisy24 don't worry it'd also get noticed if I wasn't drinking much either 😂!!!
Tbh I think DH is so laid back he's oblivious to pretty much anything I'm trying to do and he just goes with the flow... He's defo not complaining 😂!!! This is probably why we matched so well in the first place (we level each other out lol).
I'm so glad I've got someone in the same boat as me too!!! Everybody asks me "are you trying" and I'm so confused about what to answer because obviously I want a baby but there isn't any particular rush for us it's just more the fact that it hasn't happened yet and I'm think "well why hasn't it happened?".
I'm glad yous are on the same page though and he at least knows what a smiley is lol 😂❤️

• before I start typing my essay of a response I also agree this app if very hard to use and keep up with!! Haha

@JennaRMD I don't blame you on trying to hold back with temping for a while! It's so easy to get obsessive! I'm yet to get a positive opk / see a rise in temp so I think I'm going to keep going til I see one! Haha but yeah that's defo correct about the opk it has to be identical to the other line or darker to be positive. I use an app called Premom and you can take photos of your tests and it will measure and chart it for you 

@Hope365 @Maisy24 love the idea of slyly trying to drink slower haha! I too love a good drink and have been trying to think of smart ways of how to hide it at Christmas events coming up just incase it did happen!!

How does everyone deal with the usual questions - " why don't you have a baby yet, are you ready? Are you trying" etc, hate those!! - not as easy as everyone makes out haha x

@ForeverHopeful67 omg the dreaded questions, they started like the day after I got married. They drive me insane.

SO... I rant all the time to pretty much anyone I know about how rude it is to ask a woman about babies. So I think most people have taken the hint. I also say "I enjoy it just me and my husband, were very happy" it annoys me because to be honest we do not need a baby to complete us; we are happy!

The mother in law IS THE WORST. I'm sick of hearing "we're not getting any younger" or "such a body down the road has 4 grandchildren" just to annoy her now I say I'm not sure I want them at all.

I do not understand when people persistently ask! What do they expect us to say "we'll yeah but unfortunately you can't order them by mail!"

Also I'm not a baby person I'm an animal person, and a career woman, so I think people assume I'm not bothered at all!

Rant over 🤣

@ForeverHopeful67 yeah I feel that the obsessing is not helping but just can't control myself because I have weird ocd issues and anxiety (woohoo 🙌😅)!!! I might download that app just to check but I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating. My doctor said with everything I was telling her that she thinks I am too and that it's the Ovulation that is key and the heaviness of your period (in most cases) isn't the issue.
R.e. the drinking over xmas situation, I have also thought about this too... My mum asking me if I want a prosecco and me trying to tell her another reason for me not drinking - would not go down well 😂

@Maisy24 I think we may be twins 😂!!! I am a total animal person (even work with animals) and I have never really felt very maternal naturally. I know I'd love to be a Mum of my own child as it would be part of me a my better half so it would be different I think!
Don't worry, I've had alllllll the questions you can think of and like you it pretty much started right after my wedding last year!!! Someone even said to me recently "I take it you don't want kids then Jenna?" I was like 😳... I'm 27 not 57 !! Wtf 😂. I just tell people "not ruling it out, if it happens it happens". People are so ignorant to the fact eh? Christ as if we don't have enough to think about, deal with and worry over!!! Glad we are all in the same boat at least ❤️

@JennaRMD why do I feel like when we do get pregnant we are going to be like "oh shit what have I done" 🤣

@Maisy24 I've said this also 😂. Spend so long trying and when it happens we'll be like "oh god 😳!" Lol x don't worry, you are not alone x

Totally with you all on how crappy this app is! I've actually been using the website but yesterday thought it was time I downloaded the app as it would be easier to use... nope!

Ugh I hate the questions too... What is wrong with people asking all the time?? I've always thought it was pretty common knowledge that asking people about kids was not ok, but apparently not... To be honest though I actually feel quite lucky that OH and I aren't married (might do it one day but not a priority for now) because it means we have a buffer - people's go-to inappropriate question for us tends to be "so when's the wedding??"😂 Not a sensitive issue so much easier to handle. Still, I hate how intrusive people are, and how much people expect you to just conform - get married and have kids at all the appropriate times 🙄

The Christmas period is generally a nightmare for the drinking thing - puts even my best sly drinking tactics to the test! 😂

By the way out of curiosity where are you all? I'm in London xxx

@Hope365 I'm thinking I'll do an FRER on Friday morning that's 11dpo so if it says BFN then I'll feel better about having a drink.

I'm from Manchester, do you know if you get ivf on the nhs in your area? I think we get two free go's here but I think it's different depending where you live (which is ridiculous).

But I don't think we will need it 😁 xxx

@Maisy24 the FRER sounds like a good plan. If it's positive then 🎉🎉🎉, and if it's not then you have a perfect weekend away with your friends to take your mind off things and have a drink (or 5!)😉

Yes we get one fresh and one frozen transfer on the NHS where we live - agreed, the postcode lottery is outrageous 🙄 Apparently the NHS also used to offer a number of rounds of IUI before IVF, but they don't anymore (at least not where we live). We're on the waiting list for IVF (probably May next year) but will probably pay for IUI in the meantime, depending on what the endocrinologist says at our December appointment. But like you, keeping everything crossed that we won't need any of it!😁

How is your TWW going? Xxx

@hope what is the difference between fresh and frozen? It's so annoying how they've stopped doing iui, it's good that you are already on the list though and may isn't too far off! You should try relax as you have the backup plan in place now 😁

How much is the IUI? also why does that increase the chance versus normal dtd?

Sorry for loads of questions, I'm not clued up on this stuff!

I'm 4dpo today and feel ok, no symptoms or anything, it's going to be a long wait 🙄

Xxxx

@Hope365 aw how I wish for the return of the "when's the wedding" questions 😅. They were much easier to deal with lol.

I'm in Scotland (Fife). Xx

Laught today..went for my first bloods. The nurse said to me "we like to do this test at around the 21st day of your cycle, what day are you on?"

I replied, "day 51".

😂

I find out December 4th...

@Mycrazylife85 hahaha brilliant! The joys of our "not normal" cycles/periods. So are you waiting now until you start a period? Or are they sending you for bloods anyway?

@Maisy24 both really. Still waiting but the bloods are to see what's going on in the meantime. I have the follow up appointment at the start of December, (I'd like to think perhaps AF may have arrived by then though as I'll be CD70 then) to talk through them. I don't know what I'll do if it comes back 'normal' 😳 I've not factored that in. Flip