Three BFP's in one day?? Impossible? Not on this 'ere March conception buzz it's not!

[PurdeyBirdie]

S'true, we're absolutely awash in spunk BFP's this month! So if you fancy gaining three stone, refusing sex for ever twelve months, losing your marbles sight of your feet...then come and join us in our quest for a babby.

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Sorry for the me post.

Sparkly it's good you are feeling buoyant again! Sorry to hear about ICgate. That's pretty shocking and must be so confusing! Hope your procedure goes well.

I am popping on here this evening as April bus is soooooooo quiet and I need some company - DH has gone to bed already!!! He is knackered and under lots of pressure from work so I will let him off....

Good to see you back Purdey!

Sparkly I am very intrigued as to why the gynae doesn't think you would be able to tolerate the HSG test? Just being nosey....

Hee hee babs on the train! Squeeze harder lovely!

You are correct mrsb. I'm researching tagging systems as we speak....

Illiria, sorry for your bad news, hope your doc can give you some answers.

Aw sparkly , hope you're not too worried about test. xxx

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Tessie I have a couple of issues down there .. Including spasms of the muscles which is uncontrollable .. Hence the issue with sex.. As it's so so painful. So we are trying to use AI to conceive and work on the sexual problems separate. Dysfunctional marriage I know- not being able to have actual sex is hard but we are seeing doctor for counselling and help and hopefully overtime we can sort the problem. It's all related to my health problems. So even getting a smear is terrible! So Gynae said she wasn't sure how I would be with this procedure. I wish she hadn't said that actually as it will make me feel nervous before I'm even in there!! Ha.

Oh gosh Sparkly, that must be tough. I didn't realise the full extent of your issues. You and your DH sound as though you have such a strong relationship, you can get through anything. Have you always suffered with spasms or did they start when your health problems got worse?

Hi Giddy!

llliria sorry to hear you have been struggling for so long. Hope you get an appointment soon and they can offer you lots of help. Fingers crossed for you

Bloody MN! I just wrote a long post to you Sparkly and it's gone .
Sorry to hear that things are tough. I wouldn't label yourself as having a dysfunctional marriage, you have some problems but you are working through them with DH and having treatment.
Would it be possible yo have your HSG under IV sedation? You'd be relaxed but awake and wouldn't remember anything about it which may help regarding your anxiety.
Good luck and take care. I really hope that you can get to the bottom of things v soon.

Tessie yeh it's embarrassing I can't believe I just so openly divulged that!! Ha. No, my health problems cause a lot of pain and weakness in my body, so in turn whenever trying to have sex my body doesn't really go with it as it's so tense and in pain I guess.. And so it's caused issues there. Then once that happens various times over and over it's hard to know whether it's just an automatic response now! But like you say, we are very solid. Before my health issues we had a great sex life. It's never gonna be easy breezy with chronic health conditions- it's hard when your husband is your carer one minute and then your husband the next, switching between the two instantly can be a challenge , that and obviously we can't guarantee regularly we can have sex as it always depends how I am feeling is hard. But..! I have faith this will all be ok though. Because we both want it to be part of our marriage and we are getting help from doctors now too. Ok. You all think I'm a weirdo now..

Pa hahahahaha! Laughing my head off at Death By Twirls No..I wasn't drowning in choccie, I've just been trying my best to be a Good Mum To Ill Tot. Nancy's been horribly snotty, to the point that we bought one o' them there snot-suckers to help her out. They are the dog's hairy ball-bag, I swear. What an invention. The nipper couldn't sleep last night because of her streaming cold and so the three of us were squished in bed with me and th'usband singing 'there's a worm in the bottom of the gar-den...' but that silly bugger kept singing '...worm wriggling in me lady gar-den' and I was howling laughing. None of us slep 'til 1am

...Then, this afternoon, it was DH's ex's inquest into her suicide. Which was nice Turns out she had drank so much vodka (she was a recovering alcoholic, like us) she was four times over the legal limit, had OD'd on her methadone and also swallowed absolutely tons of her anti-anxiety pills. Bloody sad how she felt that Oliver was lost forever to his foster family and that she had nothing to live for. In her suicide note (read out today) she blamed social services for leaving Oliver without a mum

fifi thanks, I honestly don't dwell on all that as we are surprisingly happy and close and now we are getting help it's made a difference. Re the HSG they never offered it but I think I'll be ok. I have got a good pain threshold and think I can cope, I think I'll be ok. I know it must seem like I'm a wuss! Ha. Thanks for your kindness!

Oh and fifi are you doing well?!

Ah Sparkly, of course we don't think you're a weirdo!! It must be so very hard your DH having to switch roles but what a strong union you both clearly have! You sound as though you are very open and honest with one another too which is great. Communication is key. fifi, your suggestion about sedation for Sparkly during the test is a good one. I wonder if that could be an option?

Purds Oooh the big tube thing that you suck on?! (Non sexual way...) poor Nancy! I've heard good things about those devices!! Ha. Sounds like a rare old night you had!!
Tough day today then. That seems so long ago you told us about dhs ex. What tragic circumstances. Really hard listening to all that today too I imagine, also, my twirl joke seems very bad taste now.. sorry about that!

Sparkly, don't be daft. We think you're awesome. You sound like you have an amazing marriage and you will get that tiny aspect sorted soon and be at it like infrequently posting ladies

Purds, we found those sucker things to be very effective too. ds shakes his head so hard trying to stop us inserting the device that the snot just flies out....

Giggling at the worm song, and thrilled that Nancy has finally found her way into your bed!

Sorry you've all had to go through so much today. Xx

Tessie I asked on the phone today if I could have my husband with me as I had for the other tests, she said she would check and then call me back.. Which she did. And declined. She said there would be a nurse there though..!

Sparkly, blimey, yours is probably the least dysfunctional, most heartening and mutually-respecting marriage I have ever had the pleasure to learn about. You'll get through these problems with the right counselling, for sure. The body can close down in all kinds of ways when it feels under threat from pain or injury and that, in turn, can cause psychological responses to protect ourselves, too. No fear..you will be stronger for having navigated your way together through these tough times. I'm so glad you can be open with us - I just wish you didn't feel embarrassed by what we all consider to be great strength and fortitude. You are such a smashing and supportive lady and a great source of strength for us on here

Giddy ha ha at "tiny" aspect! ... Not tmi I hope- but eh, it would help if the dh wasn't so eh, well endowed too! Ha ha

Hee hee hee......

Sparkly it's great to see that you're so positive. You certainly don't sound like a wuss- no one I know take smears etc lightly.. "Just let your knees drop to the sides" ..yeah right- there seems to be a magnet sticking them together at the mo! How about breathing techniques, Bach Rescue Remedy?
I'm doing well thank you, feeling v sick but it's very reassuring...and I can get in to trousers that have been too tight for the last few months!

Well, if a nurse could be there why on earth can't your husband be?!! Better to have someone you know even though the nurses are lovely but still....

What a day you have had Purdey Never heard of these snot suckers though!!

Sparkly, I don't think you're a weirdo at all! Far from it, you sound like you're in a loving caring marriage. I really hope the councelling can help you.

Purdey, what a day for you and her poor ds left behind. Although you say he's happy in his foster home which is good news.

Ugh smears....

So sweet Purds thank you. I don't talk to my RL friends about this. I once tried to and she asked if we had sex in three months to which I replied "eh no".. And it's a kinda disbelief I was met with! So I stopped divulging. I think much like a lot of things in life, unless you have been through it, you can't really comprehend.. But that's our life and we are very strong otherwise. I've had times where I feel really rubbish about myself not being able to fulfil lots of things for my husband that others do and there's been the odd irrational thought he may go elsewhere. But deep down I know we are good. Anyway. Enough of my woes! I'm a walking disaster!! Ha ha. Before you ask- I hope this doctor works some magic soon, how I'll get a baby out of me with these issues I have no idea! Ha ha

Aww thank you so much Purdey your post meant so much to me. I will definitely keep you updated if you are happy to have me here :) I am excited and feeling very positive at the moment. I think the waiting around for months has been the worst bit for me so far. Now things are moving its much better and I feel I am doing all that I can.