If you got pregnant after a miscarriage...

[GuybrushThreepwoodMP]

When did it feel real? I had a mmc last year. Discovered at 9 weeks, eventually mc at 11 weeks. I've just found out I'm pregnant again and I just don't know if I will be able to enjoy it or feel it's real. It's early days, but when did you relax and start to feel a connection with your pregnancy after miscarriage?
I did have a successful pregnancy before my mc.
Thanks.

My first pregnancy resulted in a miscarriage at 13 weeks. 2nd time I got pregnant I was worried right up until the 20 week scan. I did have a successful pregnancy, and my third pregnancy was also successful. I was much more relaxed in my third pregnancy though, as I'd already had a successful second.

Wishing you lots of luck, please do try and relax and enjoy the pregnancy, I wish I had enjoyed my second pregnancy much more.

I had a mmc at 11 weeks last July and am now 20 weeks into the next pg.

I don't know if it's because I'm so bloody busy or because of the mmc but so far I'm struggling to get excited about this one. I was SO excited from day 1 last time and had a names list compiled, a mother care wish list etc etc. this time we got to 20 weeks before dp said 'spouse we'd best start thinking of names hadn't we!'. He's got a few baby bits from his sister who's dd is now 1 and I've got precisely nothing!

2nd scan is next week so I'm hoping for a change after that, I so want to be excited!

Very best of luck xxx

congratulations Guybrush

I had a mmc last April discovered at my 12 week scan but I am currently 35 weeks pregnant and due in April so this April is certainly going to be happier than last year.

My 12 week scan with this pregnancy was lovely once I knew there was a heartbeat but I had got myself in a real state beforehand though. I probably didn't relax fully until the 20 week scan and even when my DH suggested buying things I felt I was going to jinx it which is ridiculous when I think about it.

All the best for the coming months you will soon be snuggling your precious baby (flowers)

I thought I would reply as am in a similar boat but further along. I had a mmc detected at the 12 week scan last July. I found I was pregnant in November & from then til 12 weeks it was very much holding my breath & saying if this works out etc. We had an early scan which was great to see everything was ok but as I discovered the last loss at the 12 week scan so the build up to this 12 week scan was quite stressful, even though we tried to push it to the back of our mind. That was fine but since then I've been a little anxious. The 12 week scan really helps & it did make it real for me telling other people. When the bump grows that helps it seem more real. I also started pregnancy yoga at 14 weeks & that helps to connect you to the fact you're having a baby. I've just had my 20 week scan which was brilliant; baby wriggling away & really put my mind at rest. I can't feel the movements yet so it did make me feel like I really am pregnant & everything is ok. It is hard though as you do worry & because last time we had chatted lots about names & did lots of planning, this time I am a lot more reticent & aware of getting ahead of myself. I think what I found hard is everyone saying have I bought things yet/ do I know when I start maternity etc etc. I feel that those are the things that more innocent/ naive people do & having a mmc makes you a little harder & cynical & you don't want to jinx things/ get ahead of yourself. Don't get me wrong you can still enjoy it, it's just different. The further along you get the better it is & sometimes you have to think that this is a different pregnancy & all will be well.

I hope that everything goes well for you, let us know how you get on. I think there are threads on here for pregnant after miscarriage so you might find those useful.