My daughter has miscarried after IVF. How can l help her?

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She really wanted this baby and they have been trying for 3years. As a mum you just want to make things better for them

How very sad. I am sorry to hear that. Everyone must be devastated.

My mum was excellent after my loss, it wasn't anything in particular that she did apart from just being there.

It is a horrible process that felt very overwhelming. It felt like my head was spinning and I couldn't concentrate on what anyone was saying. So just be there for her, and give her space and time to come to terms with all of her feelings.

I spent days doing a jigsaw (not a usual hobby for me) but I am sure it helped me to get my thoughts in order.

Xx

So sorry to hear of your daughter's loss, it's heartbreaking going through miscarriage.
The Miscarriage Association website has some leaflets you can read online or download, one is for friends and family, with all the things a grieving mother doesn't want to hear(most of which my MIL said to me!) and also ways you can try to help.
Unfortunately nothing will make things better for her,she'll just be aching for her baby, but it helps having someone there for you, to talk to if you want to or sometimes just hug or hold you. It's also hard when people think you're over it after a certain length of time, due dates/anniversaries of the miscarriage can reawaken feeling of loss, it's lovely when people continue to let you know they're thinking of you and that they care. x

Thanks l will have a look at the website. I did think about making a particular note of the date and making sure she was busy on that day next year. She is so fragile most of the time, l just hope she continues to find joy in life.

For me id say show her you're sad. I wanted acknowledgement of how awful I felt, not to be brushed under the carpet.